Showering too much of love on your spouse/lover, is it good or not good?

If you really love your spouse/lover, what is wrong in showering your love on them? Besides how does your spouse/lover know that how much you love them. So, my dear friend, if you really love your spouse/lover, feel free to exhibit your love, if at all you have any so that let them know about the derth of your love

I thinks you are pretty old and have lots of experience. So now you tell me so that i and we can learn something from your experience.

I think there is nothing worng with that. But if the love is being abused by either one then, that is when it becomes wrong. Showering our spouse/lover with too much love just proves to them how much we care.

hello vijayanths! i agree with you that anything in excess might harm us... showering too much love to our spouse? hmmm i can't really say if its good or not, but i think it depends on how we show our love to them...sometimes when we show them that we love them that much, there is a tendency of them to become proud and take us for granted...and sometimes, they can feel being in prison due to that too much love that we are showing them... with me and my husband, i think we are just showing to each other what we feel, hmmm actually sometimes i feel that he's not really showing that much and me as well, coz we don't like each other to be too dependent to each other's love...coz we know that it will be more difficult to move on if one of us will be gone someday... but we also make sure that we don't took each other for granted and that the love that we are showing is not lesser as well...just enough for us to be happy & secure in our relationship...

You did say I could talk about my papa instead in one of last discussions. :) So here it is. Papa loves me too much - nowadays. And that makes it very difficult to get away with what I want, as I am afraid to hurt him. In process, I am compromising. :( So if you say too much love is good or not good, I'd say it is not good. :) There should be some space. :)

yes sir its true i also faced same thing in my life too thanks a lot,,,,,,

This term 'showering love' is something very subjective.Now, when you use the term 'showering' is it one-sided or are both of them showering love on each other? Between husband and wife too there needs to be a bit of personal space and excessive showering love bordering on smothering may not work. How can love be measured? It does have no boundaries.But if 'showering ' love is defined by trust and understanding and giving personal space to each other then I would say there is no harm.On the other hand if it is going to be measured by excessive indulgence, obsession to the point of excluding anything and anyone else and encouragement of extreme possessiveness then it is going to be harmful.

you are right to some extent...too much of anything is bad...though there should be no limit in love..but there must be some ups and downs..like some bitterness then sweet..that increases the joy of sweetness ..there should be some change between the two in the routine...means some days both should be apart, that increases the love and too much closeness and love..becomes boring.....

I think it depends on the people. Someone I knew got married before really knowing her husband. He went to all lengths to shower her with affection. Made her breakfast, drew her bath, spoiled her rotten. But when he couldn't keep doing that every day, she started getting nasty to him. The difference is, she wasn't doing anything like that for him. From the beginning, she treated him like he was nothing. One can't give too much love, but one should be careful to realize that what you do for another isn't going to make them love you. All the love in the world can't force someone to return it.

It is good if you look natural expressing it and bed if don't.

i think too much love is good for a couples. but you need to show in the way you lover can accept. so it is not the problem of showing too much love but the problem is learn how to love and way to expressing love. by the way for couples, if they want a kind of permanent relationship, they have to sacrifise themselves as much as possible.

Hi! I also think there's no excess or less in showing love. We can only conclude that it's too much when the love you share doesn't seem to be a two-way street. I believe that when you love someone, you adore, trust, accept, and respect the person in every way you can, and we would always find contentment when love is true.

it is not good to give all your love and attention to your spouse... at least you have to spare some for yourself..

Yes i totally agreed with u sir on this point

There is no such thing as too much love of your spouse, you cant possibly love them too much. The thing is when you spend time showering them with love, you eliminate any doubts about your sincerity and commitment to them. Loved mates dont cheat, they try hard not to hurt their mates, and they are more kind and loving. Therefore there is nothing wrong with loving your spouse as much as you want.

vijayanths You cannot measure love that way, it does not work like a pound of coffee or a loaf of bread, no such thing as excess love, if it feel excessive then the problem may be in the sincerity of that love, like people who really do not like you but are excessively nice to you, you know without doubt that is phony. but to shower someone with love is just loving someone, not too much of any thing just right as love cannot be measured like a pound of apples, either you love someone or you do not love someone.Sincere love is never too much,insincere love will let the receiver know at once its just an act.

it is not bad as i think it would only add more zest between marriage couples and strengthen their bonds their is nothing wrong on it. It only becomes bad when despite the showing of affection the other couple abuse the kindnesses and never reciprocate the showering of endearment without something to expect in return is simply insulting.

I think when love and affection are genuine, no, one cannot give or show too much it to a spouse. It is the cloistering kind or the ingenuine kind that might "smother." Karen

I think that showing love to your spouse is surely a good thing that way they know how much you care for them and love them but I also think that there are times when you can "shower" your spouse with love or other things a bit too much and it can at times ruin the relationship because one may feel they are being smothered. But I think it really depends on the person and how much they want to be "showered"

I always shower my husband with lots of love and affection. I do not believe that there is such a thing as giving too much love. I feel that since love is free it is better to spread it around. I feel that love does a lot of good for a couple.