how can i help my husband but not take his pride!!!!
By missraine
@missraine (14)
United States
January 12, 2010 5:50pm CST
Okay mylot family.. i am a director of a hospice and my husband is a realtor. we all know the real estate business is not what it used to be , but my hsband will not give up the goose..He hasnt made money in real estate in more than 2 years but he holds onto it because he feels that is the only thing he is good at. Financially it is putting a strain on our household but I dont want to castrate him and make him feel less than a man.. How do i approach him and give him alternatives without making him feel like les of a man? or do i give him a bottom line ( new job or divorce?) PLEASE HELP!!!!!
3 responses
@khayshenz (1384)
• United States
13 Jan 10
It's a very very slow economy for realtors. And i know some realtors (friends) that would like to keep their job and keep doing it. So what they do is they sell stuff on the side (a second job, so to speak) on top of their realty jobs. I don't think that divorce is gonna do any of you any good. After all - don't you love the man? Then why leave him in a time like this? You need to have a conversation with him. And don't just present the problem - think of a solution to the problem before having the conversation. Good luck!
@missraine (14)
• United States
13 Jan 10
thank you so much for such sound advice.. and yes definitely i luv him... but sometimes when you dont know what to do.. you start thinking about the extreme things to do...
@ElsaElsa (323)
• United States
14 Jan 10
Have you discussed this with him? What was his reaction? Typically, we think of problems and solutions for our families without involving the most important members. It is possible that the solutions you have in your mind may or may not be helpful to him. But first you must discuss it with him. The tone you use is what will either make headway or break way. You need to sound more like you are giving him ideas to do in the meanwhile for his realstate to pick up. Instead of demanding him to quit or you'll divorce. That approach never works and leads you to a path you otherwise would not have considered. So try to think from where he is standing and think of how you'd like to be spoken to if you were in his shoes. Good luck.
