Am I so bad, really? What do you think?
By dotchianni
@dotchianni (50)
United States
January 12, 2010 9:07pm CST
I have this friend that loves to pull guilt trips. I call her the drama mama. She really is very melodramatic about everything. She threw a fit one day and kicked me and my son out of her house. So we went home, had cake and then I went to work. The next day she was at my door all upset because I "blew everything out of proportion." I didn't do or say anything though. I just went home, ate and went to work.
Well, today I am trying to work. I work at home and I am trying to make enough money to support myself and my kids. She calls and asks if I want to go to the store. I said maybe in a little bit. I wanted to finish up my articles. A while later she calls back and says "Well, I guess you forgot." In a half-snotty tone and then added "I'm just going to go cry myself to sleep now. I'll have my husband drive me tomorrow." I told her I'd have time tomorrow and she refused saying that her husband could take her. I was like "Oh, okay. Cool. C-ya."
She always acts like I am such a bad person for not dropping and running to her aid. But I have a life and there are many times she will call me and pester me to take her to the store when I am SLEEPING! And she won't quit until I give in.
So I give up. I am a bad person for not helping by driving her to the store. But am I really a bad person? I mean, seriously... am I a bad person for not doing what she wants when she wants?
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Jan 10
dotchianni this is one person who is a user and if you drop everything all the time to serve her, you are an enabler.'
enabling her to use you any way she sees fit. Has she ever
offered to help you in any way or take you some place instead?
I would not feel I was a bad person for thinking of my own
priorities first. She is just being unreasonable cause she
likes the drama and thinks she can change your mind. dont
do it. let her fend for herself once in a while.