.. is it right to compliment your mate often ?

It is good to express what we really felt towards our partner. In such way, it can build a more stronger relationship. However to say Thank you always can also be an irritating thing for anyone especially when what he or she is doing is a heartfelt work or favor. Maybe to smile, or to say I love you or any other words that can melt a heart may do properly sometimes.

I am a married man myself. I really don't quite understand how on earth can your husband become upset by your compliments, and even chided you for it. From what you described, it seems to me that your husband is indeed very caring and loving towards you. He may feel it is his duty as your husband to look after you, and you probably feel that it's your duty to tell him you really appreciate what he has done for you. Isn't that fair? On the other hand, who knows? He may scold you for complimenting him, but when he is alone in the shower, he may just smile that sweet smile to himself in the mirror. All in all, I just want to say, it's not a matter of right or wrong, when it comes to complimenting your mate or spouse true-heartedly. In fact, all married couples SHOULD compliment each other often. Agree?

I think if he is that good of a man to do all that he should be thanked. Most men I know would not do it. You are Blessed to have a good man, that does for you.He should be thanked when he does things for you. I hope you realize what a good man you have. Have a good day.

I was going to suggest that he may have thought your thanking him for helping you as an insult because it is his duty now as your husband. It's great he was there to help, if you want to thank him, instead of with words, why don't you just make his favorite meals, start him a bath, and have the covers ready for him to jump right in bed if they aren't already.

I think you were right in thanking your husband for everything that he has been doing for you. I know that I constantly thank my husband for the little things that he does for me and he also thanks me for the things that I do for him. I think it is essential in a relationship for the other party to be made aware of the fact that you are thankful for them. Without the "Thank You"s and "I love you"s in a relationship, I'm not so sure that a relationship could survive.

Most people get upset when bombarded with thanks and congrats while doing what they love to do out of free will. The worst of it all is telling them sorry. Or letting them know you feel pity for them.

Firstly, how long have you been married?? Thanking someone is not complimenting them. Thanking is showing someone that you truly appreciate what they are doing for you...saying "thanks" is showing love and respect. As for your husband, he sounds as though he is miserable. No relationship no matter how young or how old is beyond compliments..."dinner was lovely," "I enjoyed your company today", "you look great in that shirt", "I like your hair like that" and so on. This shows that you see and appreciate your beloved. And again...your husband saying it's his "duty to care for you"...if that's the case then you married the wrong guy...what a rotten thing to say to your wife who is uncomfortable and in pain with a broken leg and what a mean and nasty person to be angry with you over such things!! Why is it not his loving pleasure to care for you??? I'm sorry but your husband sounds miserable and unhappy and certainly has no love for you. It is he who is in the wrong, very much so, and I think he will cause you much unhappiness.

Hi sanjana!You were right when thanked your hubby for his favors to you. However, it appears that you passed on the compliments in excess, therefore, he got offended.. You see if you wish to thank him for his favors, you need to be diplomatic and could convey your gratitude in some other positive words. I think the word 'thank you' has become too common that sometimes it is not taken in the right perspective. Keep your cool and show your love and affection to him with your gestures and eyes. All the best to you!

Hi Sanjana, I think it is sweet that your hubby feels so obligated to you. He is right in saying that is what couples do or at least that is what they should do for each other. He is wrong in thinking that you are past the stage in which you should compliment and show appreciation for what the other is doing for you. Do you know how many couples are NOT so considerate of each other? Also I think that is part of the problem in relationships, couples get comfortable with each other to the point of taking the other for granted and not giving compliments or showing how special and important they are in your life. Then someone else comes along and it's all over. I don't think people should ever ever stop showing how much they care and appreciate the people they love!

I think its good to thank him anyway. He probably is doing it because he loves you and doesnt want to be thanked. I understand that too. But its still best to thank him. Many not for every little thing. Maybe you should just wait till your totally well and just give him one huge thank you for everything after you are well again.

Well I think it depends on the person. As a woman, I want to be thanked and shown appreciation. I almost demand it. But my husband doesn't get bothered if I thank him. He doesn't even pay attention. I wonder if its a gender thing? Then again it also depends on your relationship and the established rules that have yet to be spoken. Your husband is right on his end. He doesn't want to be thanked with the words Thank you. Maybe he wants a kiss instead. You know what I mean. Appreciation comes in many different forms and everyone needs a bit of it. So try the other forms of appreciation and see what reaction you get from him.

It is OK to compliment once a while but to say it for every action he does for you can be rather irritating, I think. But I am sure he is happy to see that you care. Me, on the other hand, my husband loves to help me in the kitchen but I will get agitated and chased him away. Not that I don't like his help, I just thought that it my responsibility to cook for him. I don't mind him going to the market for groceries but cooking is my thing and I prefer to do it alone. Call it ego if you want. Anyway, I love my husband. I seldom compliment his help and today I think I might! Happy mylotting and quick recovery!

Its "nice" of to want to show him U appreciate him BUT, REALLY HE's your husband and he loves YOU and wants the best for U. Since U can't do a lot of things for yourself(hint: U broke your leg) hes just trying to make U as comfortable as possible so U can get better 100%... now tell me don't U just LOVE'EM FOR THAT?!lol

hi sanjana, maybe your husband is not used to be complimented??? you are right, its his duty to take care of you since you are should i say sick.. and giving compliment to our partner is agreeable to me... when you give compliment to a person it means that you apreciate what a person did to you.... actually it is just normal to us human being to give compliments..

We are very right in complimenting each other.One cannot help complimenting the spouse for a great help and support.That can be by words or deeds or by mere gratitude in the mind.As long as it is spontaneous no one can set any rule for that.The very understanding couple's compliment to each other can be very well understood and felt by each other.It not have have to be verbal.And the is no problem if it is verbal too.

Awww he is sweet but both of you have a point .He feels it is his job to do and he would do it without even having second thougt and he feels as if your complementing him is making it seem like he is doing something that he doesnt want to do .You on the other hand feel very grateful for his help.I am happy though to hear wonderfull to hear these stories .I think you may have to thank him non verbally ..maybe a smile or a kiss or a hug lol

you can say it'sright or wrong. whether needing to say or not i think it depends on your husband's view.if he thinks it's unnecessary , you can stop it; if he thinks he'll be happy by listenning it, you can come on and do it. my husband likes to his thanks to me and i like it.

to so say once is enough dat u did lotss for me dear. but try to change n show your feeling towards ur mate. try to change ur words n show ur thnx not always thnx will b considered as good word. thnx word always create a stranger relation btween to known ppl try to not to say thnx again n hurt ur mate ... its his feeling love care for u and he will show as u r totally his responsibility.

If he finds this type of remark irritating he still feels the love from you, but maybe by using words, this is just not the way where he feels it most, its always important in relationships to work out just what kind of person they really are and how they really feel love from you, is it by telling them, or by doing something for them, or by holding them close, we all have different needs to feel the most loved,you can find this out by asking the question and doing a little digging as well, ask the question When you felt so very loved by me early in our realtionship what was it that made you feel this intense emotion..they will reply I feel loved by you everday, so you can reply with yes but when you felt the most intense feelings of love what was it that I did to make you feel like this was it me holding you?... carry this on with because I did this special thing for you...when I held you so close...by process of elimination we find out why they love us so much, by finding this out you can save many relationships

well i think e importance of sincere appreciation of our parnet;s effort does not lie merely in e physical gesture of saying thanks or even expressing our gratitude but more so in e recognition of the other party;s effort to support and help..simply put to truly appreciate each other's presence...especially if married for too long couple may start taking each other for granted and start neglecting the importance of a simple thank you that can make a world of difference to e other party... and that means to really mean every word u say and not just for e sake of it =)