Engagement Ring! If The Wedding is Called Off, Should the Ring be Returned??

No problem my friend. Please take care of your cold. I hate colds. Thankfully I now rarely get them. But when I do, I try to enjoy them by resting a lot and watching movies.

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...Hi there 1hopefulman, Hope you are doing well and keeping busy with things you enjoy. You have outlined such full and comprehensive information, I think in view of all you have stated that you are right, it is not necessarily a black or white issue as to what happens to the ring. One thing I will say, if your response had been in with the others, it would have definitely been the one chosen as the best response. Sorry about that. Also, I apologize for the time taken to respond. I have been fighting a terrible cold. Take care, thanks for your reply.

...Hi ElsaElsa. Happy 2010. Welcome to the ranch, have fun. Others have expressed similiar opinions. I think I read here that the US law has come down on the side of the ring being returned to the gentleman. Fine and dandelion, but if I as a future bride had taken myself out and bought this great wedding dress and everything was kuplunk, I too would be looking for a pound of flesh "o). Point being, if, as I said somewhere else, he had been helping to pay for say the deposit in a hall or the band or food or whatever, then he would suffer a financial loss as well. Otherwise, I want the ring to sell for the money that has gone out the window. Now if my dad was Donald Trump and he was footing the bill and didn't mind the loss, he could keep the ring and let's move on to the next scene in the play. Thanks so much for your reply, take good care.

I had no idea about the law enforcing this. But I can understand your sentiments. It is a person to person thing. A wedding does cost a lot and being called of after everything is ready is really heartaching and causes much anger.

...Hi there Ravenladyj, Happy 2010. All valid reasons, I would say. I would also think thst you are leaning the way the law has come down on the subject, as I understand it here in the US. Here are my thoughts on your perspective, opinion only. The only reason I would want to keep it would be to find a high bidder, for financial purposes. If I had already spent my money for a dress, invitations, possibly a down payment on a hall, band, whatever, all that is out the window. He may or may not reimburse, or help with the loss. So why return the ring, for gosh sakes? The bond is broken, but he will not be giving the ring to another woman, for good taste reasons, if he would split the loss on any output of cash by the woman, then I would be satisfied with the return of the ring. Then I think you have the subject of who called the whole thing off, so the beat goes on. Otherwise for me, it becomes an economic situation. Take care and thanks for your response. Have a good day.

...Hi there maanrodriguez, Well it seems, through this discussdion we have learned, that your proper thing to do, is what the law requires, at least in the states. My thought, beyond the law, is that I would want someone to partially reimburse me for expenses, if I had paid for things that were not going to be used, or let me sell the ring. May be crass, but money is money. Thanks for your response and take care.

...Hi Ritchelle, Well according to a U.S. law, I am told, that you are exactly on point. The woman should give the ring back to the man, if the engagement is broken. Fairly well, but as I have said before, if it were I and I had spent money on things that were not going to be used, I would want someone to partially reimburse me or allow me to sell the ring. Seems fair to me "o). Take care and thanks for your input.

...Hi there butterfly2009, Short and sweet and to the point. I can sort of hear your reasons, no marriage, he bought the ring, give it back. The law does say the ring should go back to the guy so they are in the same corner as you are. Someone related that in the discussion I just feel the woman should keep it and sell it to recoup some of her outlay of expenses unless he helps. Thanks and take care.

...Hi livewyre, Happy 2010. Sorry to take so long responding to you, I have not been such a live wire "o) lately, in fact my caboose has been dragging. There is a law as I understand it here in the US, which was mentioned during this discussion by one of the other people, that the ring should be returned. Fine. But I just think on a personal basis, if the woman has spent money on stuff for the wedding and all of it is for naught, the ring, if she took it and sold it, she would certinly not use it for jewelry, would give her some compensation for the whole gritty thing. Thanks for your input. Take good care.

...Hi there nemrac12, There are those I am sure, that say the same as you, give the ring back. First of all, if the gentleman takes the ring, or the lady gives the ring back, and the gentleman meets a new lady. Would he give the same ring to the new lady? I wouldn't think so, because it represents somethimg that the former lady and he shared and it would be unseamingly to have the new lady wearing it. So I therefore say, let the former lady keep it. Her new man, if she finds one, willbuy her a bew ring anyway. She can have the thrill of selling it or whatever makes her feel good about the situation. Thanks for your response. Happy 2010.

..Hi CrisyiansNana, Welcome to the ranch, enjoy, it's a fun place. Happy 2010. How very nice of you to set us straight regarding the law. That is very interesting to know. I think I heard about the court case some time ago, but did not remember what the decision was. I am one who still feels that the ring, even though it may be part of a contract, is a gift and gifts should be kept. Thanks so much for your reply. Take it easy.