Who could adjust easily to other places the older or the younger ones?
By neelianoscet
@neelianoscet (9615)
Philippines
January 13, 2010 8:37am CST
My family always migrate from one places to another every five years which resulting me in transferring from different schools, because of business and other various reasons. Although, I highly object to their plan I could not do so as I am still to young then to complain. I meet new friends and enjoy their company and yet the happiness did not last for I need to bid goodbye again as their a need to transfer again to another places as usual. After then I need to make an adjustment again and meet new faces starting all over again. I had older companion like my grandma and yet she is saddened as she is going to miss her friends, the civic organization where she is an active member and their she lose her composure becoming depressed for she only have little friends to mingle to the new places. As for me I manage to make a quick adjustment and enjoy the company of my new found friends.
How about you or in your own experience, Who do you think can adjust easily to other places the older ones or the younger ones? Who is more adept to changes or more adventurer?
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
14 Jan 10
I dun think i'm able to do what u are doing.. haha =D iT's too much of a hassle and also troublesome!! To make new frenz, only to bid them goodbye after some time??
Will one be able to make any true frenz in the process?? PLus, frenz aside.. How about if one is working or schooling?? It means that u cant be working for long in a company, and thus spoiling the chance for promotion??
It's just too unfair.. But now u have grown up, it's either u get married, or move out, to start your own life.. hehe
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
yeah, but its the fact and it maybe hard at first but have too follow the flow like a water where to get it through, with lots of stuffs to carried through then after one have reach the place their is a need to start all over again. That one of the reason it really hard to keep close friends fro a long time as it only last for some time then need to transfer again and their also lots of paperwork to do like being transfer to other schools getting clearance, good moral character certification and meeting new faces which is a burden for a need to adjust again.
Well, about just getting married though it may like it or not it is just not time yet and no time at all..lol..
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@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
i guess a lot depends on the personality of the person...there are some youngsters that also find it difficult to adjust in the new place that they are with and there are also some older people who can adjust fast & well to heir new environment!
perfect example here i s my mom in law, although she's already old when they transfer to Manila, she don't find it difficult to adjust in the new place even if there's a language barrier between her & her new neighbors, i think in just a week or two, she was able to befriend her neighbors and feel at home in her new place...
and my brother, when they move to another place, he becomes bored & sad coz he misses his friends in our former place...althoug he also manage to befriend some of the people in their new place...
to your question, who is more adventurous/adventurer, definitely its the young ones...but the older ones can also easily adapt to changes depends on their personality...
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
hi ckyera,
It have something to do with the influences of the kind of upbringing adults and children have experience from their parents if they been train to be independent and somehow liberated it would not affect much to them if ever their family decided to transfer from other places they could easily adjusted their manner of lifestyles. Whereas some people irregardless of ages as you already mention have their own different personality or perception so it is a case to case basis I must say depending on their manner of adjustment phases or stages as they undergo migration in another places they have to adjust to the places and to the people who they gonna met along the way and establish a new connection.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
13 Jan 10
I have only moved once and I think it is hectic to have to lead a nomadic life. The adults are the ones that feel the pain of packing and unpacking things when moving to a new area. For the kids they always love new places as they are able to meet new friends and experience new things in a new environment. I think the younger ones adopt easily to new places.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
hi zandi,
The adult too bear more responsibility since they are already mature and have to act to know more been a burden to care for the whole family and adjust to new places unlike children as you mention they are a bit irresponsible and mature seeking new adventures since they do not yet develop attachment to certain things. They tend to shun responsibility but they are open to new ideas and meeting new people as they are more adventurer than adults who already experience life to the fullest while the youngsters still struggle to learn new things.
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@megamatt (14291)
• United States
13 Jan 10
I would have to say that the younger that you are, the easier it is to adapt and to adjust. The reason is that you're not so used to the way something is. There is still more room for growth. Those who are older, can be more set in their ways. They think things should be a certain way. They are stubborn and thus its a chore for them to adapt to something different. They have been doing things a certain way for years, and thus it is hard to adjust to new places or situations. So younger people still have time to grow, while older people, its a chore for them to adjust. Not that it cannot be done, its just hard for them to get adjusted.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
hi megamatt,
yeah, your right as the younger ones think of new places as exciting while to the older ones it is a bit mundane task to have new interaction as you mention they are very repulsive and hence have tendency to complain. The way the two think could be the reasons behind the generation gap and they are as usual are the predicament the differences heighten as they have varying interest as i do observe too. The older ones think they are already have attain their level of adventure and their is no need to open up for new exploration which for the younger ones it does not stop them from trying as long as they could meet and find new interesting things they are always up for new discovery. thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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@MimiRemo (418)
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
I think the younger generation can adjust and adapt to new places more easily. Younger ones still have the drive to explore and to seek new adventures with new people, while the older generation has already passed that. I think in the long run, we'd feel the same way your grandmother does, too. It gets harder to keep in touch and maintain the friendship we've had with the people whom we are fond of and yet we had to leave.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
hi mimiremo,
Yeah, that is also i think they are very much open to changes and their life is just starting and not yet the end point unlike in the older as much as possible they do not like to travel for a long distance anymore as they are always tired. they also get lonely being away from their long time old buddies aside from the reasons they are not yet acquainted with the new places at hand they may have difficult time in the matter of the adjustment period. thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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@chdsandeep (397)
• India
13 Jan 10
Migration to a new place makes a change as u said change of schools and everything. I think it depends upon the person how they can adapt with the place not on the age. One might adapt at age of 70 even and one might not adapt at age of 20 even so nothing about it with age.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
hi chsandeep,
Yeah, that maybe true it also depending on the maturity and understanding of the mind of the person involves since some who is over age acts immature while those who have really high number of age when it comes to adjustment and adaptation of the place are the one who could not cope with the sudden changes and vice versa.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
14 Jan 10
When hubby was working e moved 700 times in 35 years.
the kids really didnt mind being in 6 differnty schoolos in one year they learned to make friends fast and I was told by one man when son was about 3 that he would never meet a stranger and he never has.
Now we have been here in one town for 10 years. We miss the travel .
and I told them every time we moved we were starting a new life. which we were I never lacked for friends and some even moved like we did!
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
15 Jan 10
Hello neelianoscet,
I really don't like to move out too often. Back to your question, I think youngsters can adapt easily compare to elders. We can meet new friends, adapt with a new place better than the older people. My aged mother is one good example who doesn't like to have different environment. She feels safe and comfortable in her hometown.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
13 Jan 10
I would think that would be hard on everyone. It sure wouldn't be something i would like to do. I guess older people like your grandmother would have a harder time adjusting but think it would be hard on u young people to.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
hi antiquelady,
Yeah, very true as i experience it is hard for me to have new friends and to leave my old friends and have to adjust to the new environment. Such as when I have to transfer to other schools and need to adjust again to the new environment starting all over again and if the children are not easily adjust to the environment they tend to be shy, aloof and alone most of the times since they find it difficult to make new friends.
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@prisamara (58)
• Brazil
13 Jan 10
I think It's easier to young people to find new friends. Older people have no more school to meet people of same interest and age... So, it's harder to older people have social life in a new city.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
hi prismara,
Yeah, that very true since younger generation are more adventurer than older people and love to explore the most seeking thrill most of the times, meeting new friends and constantly attending every gimmick or party.
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@nitu1952 (286)
• India
14 Jan 10
that's not definate. it depends whether youngsters are shifted to another place for the studies or some job or whether olders are shifted to other places because they are not adjusting according to the youngter's environment. according to me youngerone's can easily adjust to other places.
@vandana7 (100524)
• India
13 Jan 10
You are so right neelianoscet, young people find it easier to adjust and are often happier after initial comparisons, but older members of family find it difficult to adjust. :( I too face such dilemmas when trying to relocate elsewhere. :) And I am one of those luckier ones who can move to different parts of the country and be at home everywhere. My father wouldn't like to move. There is another reason I wouldnt like to move. He has bronchitis, and he hasn't suffered much in this city.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
hi vandana,
Ok and so that his reason not to transfer from other places i understand since some people have strong attachment to a certain places that it have a sentimental attachment and they are so emotionally attached. They could not make up their mind to transfer since they find it strange to begin a new life when they are suppose to retire and not to start a new life in a completely stranger places with few friends or worst with no friends at all so they need to begin a new journey to create friendship and adjust to the new situation and cultures they are about to face.
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@fedoralinux (556)
• India
13 Jan 10
i can definitely tell that younger ones will easily to others places.because we are having more energy than old persons,we can easily mix with anyone while we are new to that place,but the old persons thought about their old friends that they missed them.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
hi fedoralinux,
very true younger people are more flexible to changes since they have more adventurer spirit and willing to explore anything under the sun which evokes their interest.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
14 Jan 10
Hi neelia,
I think it depends on the attitude of the people
. Some are easily getting very close to people and may feel difficult to leave them. Some are very introvert and may not be close touch with other people and those who never bother a shift of residence. It means the age won’t be the matter but the attitude and nature of person have a vital role. The interesting thing is those people who feels difficult to leave one place will easily settle in the new place.
. Some are easily getting very close to people and may feel difficult to leave them. Some are very introvert and may not be close touch with other people and those who never bother a shift of residence. It means the age won’t be the matter but the attitude and nature of person have a vital role. The interesting thing is those people who feels difficult to leave one place will easily settle in the new place.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
Both have difficulty in adjustment but eventually as they stay too long and get familiar in the places they would meet new friends and peers and would becomes acquainted and take their life as usual. human have the ability to adjust although they may be saddened it is a matter of friendliness and being open minded and it would be alright.
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
of course the older ones as they are already mature and know already what they like they could mange it. while the younger ones if they already know to reason out they would probably miss their old time friends and would feel loner in new places starting all over again. so far it is very tiring to transfer from one place to another. it is a matter of adjustment period and for the first months they would feel lonely as time passes bu they could adjust to the new places.
@allknowing (137552)
• India
14 Jan 10
Just as uprooting a full grown tree and planting it in another place reduces its longevity similarly older people when they are uprooted they too will find it extremely difficult to adjust to the new surrounndings whereas youngsters have the stamina to put up with the rigors of shifting from one place to another.
@fantasticbabe (981)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
both have their own adjustment period and the younger ones could adjust easily when it comes to the older ones they could adjust too but it would takes them to long to mingle. the young ones too surely would miss her friends but could manage it as they welcome to changes quickly as they could.
@stand87 (664)
• Bulgaria
14 Jan 10
Moving from one place to another can be hard for everyone. In both ways, we will change the neighbors, places we visit, school . . . Even friends! So in opinion it can be easy or difficult, it depends on where you'll move in and such things. Sometimes it's harder for the old people. You see, when you're old enough there's a moment in your life that makes you want to be calm and live in peace. But it can be difficult for the young one too. Changing school is not nice at all. You'll have to become friend with people you don't know, to join new teams. And it takes some time to do that.
