to do it or not to do it?... when with friends
By janale6
@janale6 (51)
January 13, 2010 9:19pm CST
i have this group of friends, who always get to drink whenever they have free time or small celebrations like after examinations. stuffs like that. among the group, i am the only one who doesn't drink and smoke. i just get to be with them because i feel happy. i always laugh, i get to go adventurous when i'm with them. but sometimes they feel im left out. they try to make me drink but i really don't.
so for you, will you do stuffs you really dont do and really hate to do just to please your friends?
some say "just be you" because real friends accept you for who you really are, but if in my case, im really different with them, should that mean i should find other group of friends just like me? (friends who doesnt drink and smoke)
^_~
3 responses
@MimiRemo (418)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
Real friends should respect you for what you are and what you are not. Well, some friends also push you to try what they do for once, so you would also get how they feel, but not actually be like them. You also have to learn how to say no and feel good about it. Whether you feel like you should be in another set of friends or not, that entirely depends on what is a friend to you.
@mymelodake (1338)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
Fortunately for me, I've never felt that kind of pressure from friends as they all don't drink or smoke either, plus I already have a good excuse when I'm being pressured to drink: I'me horribly allergic, and unless they want us to end up in the ER they better not force me to drink LOL! But I did feel a bit pressured when we were on vacation and everyone wanted to parasail except me. Of course my friends tried to convince me to do it, and in the end I did, and it was actually pretty fun!
As you said, real friends accept you for who you are, if you don't drink, they shouldn't pressure you to do something you are not comfortable with. If they keep doing it, then they don't really know you at all, and you deserve better friends.
@gambamarcela (1012)
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
If you enjoy their company, just hangout with them. But you would really be out of place if you don't do the same thing. It's a cliche but it's somehow true: birds of the same feather flock together.
