Just SHUT UP AND DO IT ALL READY!!!

We all suffer from this affliction from time to time. One of my Mentors Tom "big al" Schrieter, has a great way around this. But that takes some guts as well. He says first and foremost, (I think this is necessary for all of our "goals") Write it down, and sign our names to it, that makes it like a contract. This of course is the easy part. Choose our goal, and write it down, most people don't write down their goals, but it feels great to check off a completed goal. Now for the hard parts. Give yourself a time limit for your goal. Write I am going to re organize my house by next Tuesday. No problem. Make it a public goal. Tell all your friends and family about your goal. And finally the hardest part. Make it an ultimatum. Choose a consequence for not achieving your goal, make that public as well. Make the consequence very disgusting or pleasurable, so that it is easier to achieve your goal then deal with the consequence and make that public as well, so others can hold you accountable. So, in the end. I will reorganize my house by next Tuesday, or I am going to donate 50$ to the campaign of my preferred politician's competitor. OR something like that. Making public and attaching an unpleasant consequence that others will hold you to makes it almost impossible to not achieve your goals. Cheers.

awww shell don't be so hard on yourself. we all get that way sometimes. but try not to think about it to much just do it. do it because you want to see organized cabinets and a super clean house. that is the true way to do it. just like losing weight you have to do it for yourself. it never works when your momma or husband wants you to. but when you truly want to do something...then it's a win win situation. but the writing it down on list as said earlier is a good one. personally i love doing all the above. because i love it when people come to the house and say "how in the world do you stay organized and not a thing out of place." trust me...that's enough to keep you motivated.lol i'm the envy of most of my friends because i don't procrastinate. and once you get these things on your list taken care of then it only will take 15 minutes a day to keep it all done. you can get there babe just take little steps.lol

I have everything, except all of my studies, completed already. I would not want to run for president (too much responsibility), I cannot stand American Idol, I would love to have a lot of money (no mansion, because I cannot stand big houses, a one level home is fine for me), but I would love to write a novel that could put "Twilight" and "Harry Potter" to shame (I am still working on it). I used to sing Kareoke and practice voice over acting, but I haven't done much of that lately.

How should people here know why you don't just do it? I always wonder why people ask other people about things like this and why not just do it instead of posting about it. Yes, get off the computer and do what you need to do. there it's that simple.

If you're like me then once you start getting into it then it's hard to stop. Much like reading a good book and keep on wanting to read it because of a mystery or something that you want to find out about. The first thing you need to do is sit down and be honest with yourself. If you've been distracted by things on a regular basis then you would know what things they are. Write them down and then have a lie down somewhere and think. Just think, what you would be doing on a day like this. Watching TV? On Facebook? Whatever it is that you would be doing. And this is when you scare yourself. One day, you will die. One day you will realise that the things you did all those years ago have been wasted. The memories you and your daughter would have otherwise have had together had it not been for your distractions. I hope that has motivated you in some ways to do the things important to you while you are still alive and kicking. Sorry if you thought that was a bit dramatic but habits are really hard to kick. I would like to end on one note. Time stops for nobody.

Haha, I need the same thing as you - a nice swift kick in the rear and somebody telling me "Just do it already, nobody can do it for you and think of how good you'll feel after it's done!" Well... That motivates me for a good day or two. Then after that, all the motivation leaves and I'm stuck in the same rut again. Rawr. Especially when it comes to cleaning and losing weight, those are the two things I struggle with the most. It's just lack of motivation, for me. I think if you told someone you were going to do it, you wouldn't want to let them down so you'd be more likely to do it. Someone who sees you often, and that's close enough to you to be bluntly honest without killing your feelings. That's helped me, anyway, for the most part. I'm still working on it, haha! So... Maybe try to think of how happy your daughter will feel when you spend more time with her? Maybe you'll bond more. And sometimes it's good to re-discover the little girl within us, haha!

I have this problem, too. I try to just get started, and I tell myself that all I have to do is to do something for 10 minutes. Sometimes that's enough for me to get going.

hi shell i guess i am not the right person to kick ur bum dear, because my bum needs a fair deal of kicking as well ... for me i always blame it on tiredness, after a long day at work , coming home i just feel that i am entitle to rest .. cheers

Shell- I think the first thing, and most difficult thing, is to allow yourself to be you and overlook the "I didn't do this" mental state. This will depress you to no end and prevent you from realizing all of the things you did accomplish. I agree with writing down your goals, but break those goals into small steps. Remember, we must all crawl first before we run. So, if your goal is to work out 3 days a week, start with the schedule on the days you want to work out (M-W-F for example). Then break that goal down even further into 10 minute workouts throughout the day, and because you have a child that youw ant to involve make sure they are fun exercises in which you can involve her. An example would be going for a walk, lifting her (like you would weights except for you use her and she'll think it a heck of a game). If your daughter is older think of having her lift cans of food while you work out. There are fun exercises such as "Putting up the groceries" or "Picking up the baby" that are exercises designed to tone the muscles we as women use on a daily basis. I do the same with housework. I have designated each day with a room or rooms to clean and I don't stray from that unless there is something that needs to be vaccumed up right away or a toy that needs to be put up. I write that schedule into my daily planner so I don't forget. An example would be Monday-Living Room, Tuesday-Kitchen, etc. Then break up those each day with "Do dishes, wipe counter" etc. I make my list each night before bed so that I have a fresh to do list. Then I can also write down other things that need to be taken care of such as appointments, or bill paying, etc. You will be surprised out how quickly you get through your list, can spend more time with family, and feel accomplished at the end of the day. And to be honest, it doesn't matter if you get everything done on your list in one day. You can always move things to the next day. I think as persons we have to realize that some things just are not as important as others, and that we can incorporate a great many things together in order to have a full day. Especially where our children and family are concerned. Namaste-Anora

Ok shell. I'll kick your bum bum, if you kick mine too. I also need a lot of things done, but I always procrastinate. My big thing for this year is getting healthy and working out. But I've manage not to whine about it lately, because I've already moved my work out starting date to next month. And you're right, I should do it already. You should try out for American Idol. Try season 10! Simon will not be a judge anymore by then. Anybody who places 3rd in a karaoke contest is bound to be sent through to hollywood at least!

well I think everyone can relate. I feel like that all the time. I think if I would just set a schedule and stick to it I would be able to do all the things I want but instead a TV show will come on or my husband will ask me to do something for him or the kids are a little extra crabby. I have tried sticker charts for me and the kids and that lasted about a week. I think the best thing really is having that person everyday that you have to answer to and they ask you if you did it or not. What I am going to try is instead of thinking I will be able to change over night every week I will add something I want to do to my list. For example I want make sure I do laundry more then once a week because then I end up spending the whole day doing laundry so this week I am going to try to do one load start to finish everyday that will help me keep up but I dont have so much to do. Next week I will try adding something else like making sure the dishes are done right after supper and have the kids help me with them. Etc you get the point. I think if I could organize my everyday things better I would have more time to do things I want also like my counted cross stich or sewing.