Why is it always so difficult to decide?

well its only a matter a time as people drill think before you act that into your head that it gets through.

Hello,leateagee.I think ther're many reason account for this.When we grow older and have a chance to choose,we feel ambiguous,because we want to make the best choice.We know if we choosed one,we must give up the other one.But sometimes we just want both.When we were young,we wouldn't think of too much,we just take what we most wanted at that time.

Because sometimes we don't know what we want. We make a decision and very tough decision so that we will not regret when we finally have it. We don't have to take a blame or blame someone, so we really have to have a decision even it is difficult to decide. When my mother have a problems, they share it to us and sometimes what is our decision will be her decision too. She is depending on us and she knows when we decide it will be good for her. We need to decide carefully, for our life is at stake on some decision, much more when it is about a problem.

Making decisions isn't that easy. When we were still a child making decisions isn't that hard since the things that we decide our the things that we like and no big deal to others. But as we grow up, making decisions become too difficult especially if it involves our future and family. When we decide to something we need to think it very hard and if possible enough time so that we can realize the circumstances that might happen after the decision. Of course, we also need to trust ourselves in deciding on something because if we don't have any trust on it then our decisions will be end up of nothing and problems. We should always think very hard and examine all the possible results may happen with these we feel at peace to our decision.

I have very definite likes and dislikes and very definite opinions and have no trouble expressing them. It doesn't mean that I'm insensitive about it, but, I know exactly what I like and what I don't like. I've never had any problems expressing myself. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija

Honestly, for every decision in life it's very hard to decide because one single mistake will be worst. Sometimes when you decide a certain thing you can no longer return you desision, like when buying. When you buy a certain thing on mall you can no longer as for a change on it because the receipt of it already in your hand. Like in real life when you decide to be bad and die, you will be thrown in hell and forever pain you will receive. But if you are good and die, your soul will go in heaven and feel the happiness with all your heart.

I think it's because, when we are young, we don't stop to think how our choices will affect us. Ice cream? Bring it on! Pink or blue? You don't stop to think that you may have to live with that choice. As we get older, we realize that those choices mean more than just what we happen to like at the moment. Ice cream can put on pounds or make our blood sugar spike. Color choices change daily and sometimes, hourly, depending on our moods, so we want to make the choice that we can live with over time. Wisdom takes time to assert itself.

Maybe everything seems simple when we're young because we only have a limited knowledge of the world. When we're young we can just make a decision based on how we feel at the time because there is only "now". As we get older we think of possible consequences - "will it give me indigestion/make my breath smell/raise my cholesterol etc etc" or we wonder if we can afford it/if it will suit us/what other people will think (maybe)In family matters we (hopefully) have the maturity to consider how our decision may affect others.

Because as we get older, we grow wiser and more responsible. Therefore, it takes us longer to respond than it would when we were younger because we think about the question being asked more and mull over the consequences more carefully based on past experiences, preferences and such.

Our minds are more complex. When we are younger, we enjoy simpler things. However, as we get older, we think even more. We think to the point where we overthink. I think we outsmart ourselves. Making simple things more complex then they really should be. Life can be simple but we tend to have so many options and weigh the positives and the negatives, that it can be far more complex than ever before.

Hi leateagee, First thing comes to my mind after reading your question is when we grow older we know more, then we have more choices, so it takes a long time to choose. It is the simpliest answer. Second, I think when we grow older, we know how to care for others. So when we make a decision, we have to think not just for ourselves but others, too. That is less self-centre. Third, we know the world more. When we have to make a decision, we do think about the result sometimes. So, it bothers us much if we wanted to have serveral good results (greedy), or in opposite, we do not want any of the results, but we must choose one way to go for (difficulty). Of course, there are many more reasons. I think the most important reasons is our minds become too complicated, not as simple as when we were young. :) Have a good day! agonyaunt69 (1:35am 15 Jan 2010, Hong Kong time)

Gee this question is a tough one and I think it is because of the fact that we lost touch with ourselves thing about it when we were younger we were so sure of ourselves and had alot of trust in the choices we made but as we grew older we tend to notice that well we made some small mistakes along the way and lost the ability to have trust in the choices we choose to make. Then after awhile we just lose faith cause we don't know what would of happened if we made the other choice.

cause as we grow up or in our daily life we incounter dicion that we learn after if its good or bad so as we grow older we are having dificulty to dicide since we already learn a lot of things.

Im sorry but I do not agree with your comment,hold on, thinking about it, yes I do agree.Well I sort of understand.Ill get back to you...

Hi leateagee, I think when we are adult whe attend to ditter, can't make up our minds and thinking ifs or buts, decisions, decisions, decusions, lol! Tamara

I guess when we are getting older we are more keen with what will happen if we choose this decision or the other that's why we don't usually rush things up. And of course we are getting mature and probably have learned from the experiences in the past so we are weighing things up before having a decision.

Hi! For me it's still the same! I have no problems with deciding which one to choose or how to make something! Even I am getting faster- I just go in in the first store and buy the shoes or t-shirts I like! It is so simple!

Hello, When we were young we only cared about petty things. A wooden toy would be more valuable possession of a child than a diamond pendant. We were satisfied so easily. Our wish list was rather too short. But as we've grown older, we've realized that there are stuffs that are precious than ice cream and toys. A more serious choice than one that we used to make choosing which color to wear. Its just that our interest levels are shifted towards something else. We don't focus on petty things anymore. So when somebody asks about our choice we are in real trouble. An entire process of shifting our focus back to the basics, starts. This takes effort and time. That is why it has become difficult for us to make certain choices, and easy to make some others. God bless you Take care