How often do you see your bf/gf within a week?
By dheckerz
@dheckerz (473)
Philippines
January 14, 2010 2:35am CST
My boyfriend and i were used to be in a so called "long distance relationship". However, as we get along with each other and knowing each other well my boyfriend decided to move to were am at now. And since then he wanted to get me from work, drop me and be with me on every meal that i take. Do you think this will create a problem in the future?
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9 responses
@ongtina (1232)
• Singapore
14 Jan 10
When I'm dating with my husband 20++ years ago, we saw each other daily, more correctly, nightly after work. We would have dinner together, watch a movie and he would fetch me home. Sometimes, we even met before work for breakfast and he would then fetch me to work. We dated for 4 years before marriage. Even towards the later years of dating, we would meet a minimum of 4 times a week. I felt I see less of my husband after marriage, I think it's because I'm there at home waiting and waiting, lol. I know if we were to count the hours, it's more cos I'll see him sleeping but we don't eat together anymore. He eats before coming home and eats out for breakfast too. See why I say I'm seeing less of him? I only see him sleeping and at most, wanting me to help write invoices or you know what. Sad but actually less work for me! So I don't cook even though I have children. Why make myself slog when he don't eat?
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@dheckerz (473)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
lol.. this is really funny. But yeah you have a point. Just one thing though.. i think you also need to work on the ares that will make him fall for you again..why don't you cook so that he won't have to get bfast outside..? or even just for you children. :)
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@ongtina (1232)
• Singapore
15 Jan 10
Even if I cook, my husband won't eat at home, it's his way of having a time building good bonding with his workers. His love is still here and there's no one else. In the past, we also had dinner with his workers together (dating years). It's his habit but he doesn't like to include workers with family. I think he group people into friends and family. There's a strong line there. As for cooking for my children, my eldest (21 years old) had mentioned quite a few times already. One day when his brother and girlfriend ( 17 ) cooked lunch, my eldest said it was so long since there was lunch for him at home. I know I should be cooking so I did have that as this year's resolution. I'm lazy so it's a matter of when I'm going to start. heeheehee.
@nautilus33 (1827)
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14 Jan 10
HI! I see her every day, and on holidays every minute, just because we are living together and we are all the time together. We don't see each other only when we are at work
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@mayonaka1616 (555)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
I see my boyfriend once a week .because I'm still studying and he lives far away from my school. I think our situation now is better than before when we see each other everyday. By being far away from each other, our times together became more meaningful and we learn to appreciate the presence of each other more.
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@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
14 Jan 10
I see my partner all the time. I live with my partner. We just officially moved in together in June when I needed a place to live to finish college and she wanted to move in so she could find a job to get ready fo finish college as well. It's just easier this way. I'm definitely more happy this way too.
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@good2go2001 (915)
• United States
14 Jan 10
It is good to spend time often but on the flip side to much time can cause issues too. There seems to need to be a happy medium. If you neither of you have time for your own needs to be an individual then you will start resenting the constant attention. I am in an online relationship and we talk every day and have for over 3 years now. I love it and at the same time we respect each others needs to have time to ourselves. I do worry when we make the move to full time in person relationship if it will be the same situation as yours were he wants to spend every minute together. I think that would be a bad thing because ive grown to be a very indenpendent person.
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@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
15 Jan 10
Hi dheckerz,
Pardon me and no offense taken. I find this a little odd that you are concern with the coming of your boyfriend and I am wondering what is your hesitation here. I mean any girl would be over the clouds by now with their boyfriend coming over and have everything going real time.
I would assume that you are nervous about the negative side of things and I just feel that you should have a lay back on your anxieties. Just be positive and happy that you can now to have real time company, a thing you just could not do when the both of you were apart.
There will always be problems during the initial stages but I am sure all things will work out in due time if the both of you are willing to work things out together. Communications is definitely the order of the day just don't undermine it. Learn to talk, speak up and speak out when there are issues and never procrastinate.
Honestly, if I were you, I'd just relax and let things take its course, like the saying goes: "Let's take things, one step at a time."
All the best and be happy.
@sutent (1060)
• China
14 Jan 10
Hi dheckerz,
I have the same problem with you, the long distance relationship. It is really a problem for both of us. I have to train a long distance to meet her on holidays or weekends. During night, especially when we are alone, we miss each other very much. I decide to live together when we marry in the near further.
Have a good day.
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@buping (952)
• China
14 Jan 10
hi there. my boyfriend and i were used to be in a long distance relationship. and we are living in a same city now. i think it is so good. we used to call each other everyday, we missed each other so much. we cherished every minute when we get together. and i imagined that it is so good to be together to have lunch everyday. and it is proved now how happy we are.
