When you meet your near and dear ones, do you shake hands with them?
By buchi_bulla
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
India
January 14, 2010 7:53am CST
Usually when you meet your friends, relatives or acquaintances, you say hello to them. Some people will just smile at them. With some others we will shake hands and talk. I usually shake hands and ask few courtesy questions. What about you? How do you greet people, when you meet them?
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8 responses
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
15 Jan 10
Hi Buchi!
I think that we should give a smile, nod or say Hello to our relatives and friends when we meet them in person. I also wish them and would always smile and if the situation demands I do not hesitate to shake hands and I shake hands with ‘emotions’ and a firm grip (I have seen some people very lazily and loosely shaking hand, as they just want to complete the mere formality of shaking hands). The next best thing is ‘hugging’, if a person is very closed to me, I hug him/her to convey my feelings/greetings to him/her.
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
15 Jan 10
Even I do not like some people just for the sake of shaking hands, shake hand loosely. Instead they can as well simply say Hello.
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@Cheiyen (317)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
Well it depends in which country you are from or you live in and the nationality of the people you're giving the greeting. In my country, I kiss the cheeks of my immediate family members and embrace them if we haven't met for a while or for a long time. I kiss the hands of the elders like grandparents, granduncles and grandaunts. Kissing the hand also depends on which part of my country you're from.
since i'm staying in thailand, i greet fellow foreigners with shake hands or i just wave my hand. but most importantly, i never forget to put my hands together and slightly bow my head to thai co-teachers/superiors/older parents. or just smile and slightly bow at them when my hands are full. i still hug, kiss or both to my closest friends here and give a handshake or say hello to acquaintances.
it's very polite to greet people in their own way but we need to learn about the rules to avoid being in trouble.
A SMILE is a classic greeting no matter which country you're from or the person you're meeting.
enjoy meeting people!
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@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
15 Jan 10
Wonderful answer Cheiyen and it is in detail too. Thanks for taking time for this response.
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@underdogy (700)
• Thailand
9 Feb 10
Cheiyen got the best response? Well, i wouldn't be surprised . The comment was very detailed, couldn't add more hehe. Perhaps i can add that Thai call the bowing of heads, with hands in a praying gesture, as wai. Hmm, i wonder if that helps haha.
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@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
15 Jan 10
Hi Buchi, this usually depends on what people I meet. When seeing my sister and my nephew we will smile and say hi to each other, and then followed by a big hug for sure. We would do this too if meeting in the public. Yeah, this did happen few months back, when I met them somewhere near to the cinema one night. But I never hugged my brother in law I just smiled at him happily. My family and I never expected that we would meet there. Yeah, it's a wonderful coincident that we watched the same picture in the same theater. I would like to this when meeting my very good friends as well.
I would like to say hello and shake hand with those people whom I'm not so familiar with, like relatives from my husband's side or friends' side to show my courtesy. When meeting a familiar friend I will say hi and patting on his or her shoulder continually while chatting with him or her I will say hello or how do you do in my language or dialect to most of the elders to show my respect to them.
Happy posting
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@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
15 Jan 10
Very correctly said Ikbooi. In your place, do you touch the feet of elders to take their blessings? Otherwise how do you show your respect and take their blessings especially on occasions or functions?
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@coolcat123 (4387)
• India
14 Jan 10
I never meet them while shaking hands instead just say a hi to them especially to friends while if meeting any family memeber even that hi is gone. we meet with their names. While if professional, then i say hello, here the hi changes into hello, still no hand shakes.
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
14 Jan 10
Oh! I like this difference between hi and hello.
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@deepasubramani (1074)
• India
14 Jan 10
Hi Aunty,
If i meet my close friends and dear ones i usually dont shake hands i just smile at them first. If i meet any people on official purpose then only i shake hands, and i heard its more professional to shake hands when you meet people on official or business.
Have a great day
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@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
15 Jan 10
I feel by shaking hands, our affection towards them is shown out. This may give happiness to the person whom we are shaking hands. They will understand that we too are happy in meeting them.
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@nautilus33 (1827)
•
14 Jan 10
Yes, i do! we even hug, if we are very close friends. That is something like tradition here in my country!
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@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
15 Jan 10
Even in India I see younger generation hugging slighly with each other when they are meeting.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
16 Jan 10
I shake hands with people I don't know that well, but when I meet my close friends and family members, I hug and kiss them.
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@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
16 Jan 10
Good way of showing our closeness with people, which will be enjoyed by them too.
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
10 Feb 10
This way your near and dear ones will feel much happier friend.
@LaDeBoheme (2004)
• United States
10 Feb 10
I'm with you danishcanadian, hugs and kisses, especially friends and family I haven't seen for awhile.
I shake hands when I meet someone for the first time.
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@vijayanths (7877)
• India
14 Jan 10
I touch them on their shoulders with a big smile and shake hands too.
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@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
14 Jan 10
Now-a-days children are greeting with small hugs did you notice Vandana? However nothing wrong in touching the shoulder of elders and affectionately making courtesy enquiries. They will feel good for the kind gesture.
Hai Vijayanths, This is a kind gesture of greeting people, which I am sure, will be liked by many.
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@vijayanths (7877)
• India
14 Jan 10
@vandana, I am greeting my dad's younger brother and mom's younger sister that way. I Will never do it if it can make somebody to go grrrr.
I can greet a female friend of my age that way, there are some husbands who would not mind it but I WILL NOT DO it. I can do it only with people I am comfortable with.
Thanks Buchi for your response. They all like my act and I like it equally too.
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