I did not think I would miss my mother so much.

My dad was lost and passed away less than a year after my mother.

Thank-you. Somehow it is a comfort to know we are not alone with this kind of thing. It has been over a month now, and I am going to school again to learn how to speak German and learn for a new job. That has helped me get my mind on other things. Of course I have times like you say, that I miss her. My Dad is lost without her. Something I never expected, cause he use to complain about her a lot. Funny how things turn out. Take care, have a nice day.

If my Dad keeps feeling sorry for himself, he will be going soon too. Funny, he could be so mean too my Mom. Very nasty. He said very hard things. That is why it is so hard for me to believe he really misses my Mom. Does he miss her, or is he just feeling guilty? I wonder... Take care.

Thank-you. I did not realize I would miss her so much. It has been a little over a month now and yes the scare are still there. Even though I know she is in a better place, I still miss her. Thanks.

You are so welcome. I totally understand your feelings. With time, the pain will be more bearable. Hang on there, yeah.. it's not easy. I will miss my own mom too, if she's not longer around someday. So I would have to go through the same emotion for sure.

iam sorry for ur loss, i lost my dad 10 years ago and istill miss him but it does get easier. i know what u mean about telephoning tho cos when i phone my brother he sounds just like my dad! i have to call him cos my mums deaf, i like to think there in a better place watching over us and its a great comfort to know that some day ill see him again...

Thank-you. It is not what I thought it would be. I did not realize I would miss her so much. Though I believe she is in a better place and happier. No more pain.

Thank-you. I am trying.It is not that I talk about it all the time. Neither do I cry about it, because I do believe she is happier where she is. But, somehow I just can't sleep right. I keep thinking about how it all ended. Especially the last two days. But, you are right I have to stay normal. I just thought the missing would be gone away by now. Thank-you.

You have to be normal, you need to become support to your other family members. Be brave dear. God helps the braves. I can understand the pain but may god bless with all the strength.

Thank-you very much. Yes indeed. When I had troubles, my Mom was my bridge. I would want her opinion. Not that I would always do what she said, hahaha. But, that is normal. Now that she is gone I miss her opinion even more. Seems my Dad is trying to take over my Moms place. I don't like that. He is not my mother. All of a sudden family is more important than anything. That should have been that way before my Mom left us. Maybe I am being to hard on him. But, I don't like him over exaggerating. I don't need him to tell me what to do, or too replace my Mom. Is it normal that I am thinking like this? I am normally very easy going, but I just can't seem to take any crap. Maybe because I have not been sleeping well.

Thank-you very much. That is so kind. Actually my relationship with my Mom got better when I was an adult. Especially in the last 7 years. We were talking more and shared our deepest secrets. I do so miss that now. On March 1st it will be her birthday. It has been two months now, but it feels like I am really starting to miss her even more. It does not seem to get less. My father has tried to take her place and orders me to call home in his way. I never used to phone my father, I was always phoning my Mom. Sometimes everyday, some times once a month. But my dad wants me to call in regular. I never used to talk to him. Sometimes we never talked for months, and now all of a sudden I have to report to him at least once a week???? I don't like that one bit. My Mom respected me the way I was, my dad could never do that. He thinks he knows everything better. Always trying to change me. I am never good enough. At the same time he wants me to come back to the Netherlands. I have my life here in Berlin. With my Mom gone, I have even less reason to go back to the Netherlands. Weird, I sometimes feel lost. Do you know what I mean? Take care.

Still there. Funny I never realized how much I would miss her. But yes, in everything I do I am thinking about her. I guess that is a good thing, that we remember them. That means they were good to us and loved us. But, they are in a better place now with no more pains and burdens. Take care.

I find myself doing that too. I have often heard people do that, but I never really understood till know. What would Mom think? How would she react? ect. Take care.

Thank-you very much. I do hope she understands, I think she does. But,I am still having trouble sleeping. I feel I have changed somehow. I seem easily irritated. (Maybe because I am not sleeping well?) My father all of a sudden expects me to phone home more often. When before I only talked to him once or twice in 6 months time. I did always talk to my mother, almost every week, sometimes for hours. We always had something to talk about. Seems my Dad wants to take over my Mothers role. And I can't except it. I am like "act normal, don't over exaggerate!" He cannot take over her place. She was always there for me. He was not always there for me like she was. That is what I mean with I have chanced. Somehow, I don't take any more crap from anyone anymore. Where as before I was always very easy going. Did not think anything of it. Funny, how I have become. I don't understand. Do you think that is normal? Thank-you.

Thank-you so much. I think in your case, you had gotten pregnant and realize that a child and mother always have a special bond. You know that now, that is (I think) what helped you through it. Yes, your mother loves your very much. Memories are what we still have. Yes you are right we should cherish them. Thank-you.

That is it, they don't have any more pain. That is the good side. I cannot say I took it the worst, my father,daughter and son took it worse, because they all stilled lived together. I am not living at home anymore. That is why I thought I would not feel the loss that much. Yet I think about her everyday. It was weird seeing her die, taking that last breath. You now it is better and at the same time, you want her to stay. But, you are right they are at peace, and have no more pain. Take care.