Religion!!!
By ladysakurax
@ladysakurax (1161)
Canada
January 15, 2010 1:47am CST
I have a discussion to make...a serious one and it concerns mostly christians out there. You guys have to explain me this.....
I go to university and I met a classmate whom family was from Haiti. We got along well. I usually sit next to him. I am 23 and he is 30. Nothing romantic is going between us. We are just classmates! Then a few hours ago, i asked him if his family in haiti is affected by the earthquake and he said they are fine since they don't live in the capital. Suddenly, he said that he has a confession to make. He said that he couldn't stand me because i am a woman. A woman is below man. In other words, he was sexist. CAlled me alot of names and I was wondering the whole time why he said that to me. he said that 98% of women are stupid and wh****. He kept on saying things like he forgives me for being stupid because he is a true christian. He also mentionned that the bible also says that women are in fact inferior to men in chapter 3 Genesis or something like that. During the schoolyear I knew he was really into his religion and i don't remember me clashing into his belief or so because we only talked about school related all the time. He kept on repeating to not forget my title as women. He said that women are showing off too much skin and i am one of them too....when i heard thisI knew something was wrong cuz i know i do wear decent clothes and I never show my bossom. He said that I should join his religion to be saved....that was just really freaky. So those who are Christians, what is this all about? is this truly what the bible says about women? He also said that he knows me by heart and he can even take the same courses to be with me. What's that suppose to mean? Is he planning on shooting all female students or something? I never got that insulted from an outsider. I am soo worried about what type of crazy man he could be...should I tell the school psychologist about this and let her analyse this situation? I think he's too much into his religion but it's none of my business. On the other hand, I don't think he has the right to judge people like that.
9 responses
@mlhuff12 (797)
• United States
15 Jan 10
Well you have to keep in mind that he is of a different culture and language. Perhaps in his language the bible is translated giving off a different message. If this is the case it would explain his and his culture's beliefs. Unfortunately he is in America now and can't seem to understand the normal customs of America and it's christianity. Hopefully the more time he spends in America he will become more open minded and more accepting to people who are different and to other religions.
@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
16 Jan 10
hmm I doubt he will change because he is already 30 and it's hard to change a habit. I hope this ill mind will vanish soon. My experience with this was horrible. Being discriminated for being a woman...it's just immoral.
@missraine (14)
• United States
15 Jan 10
WOW!!! First of all he does not sound like he is a christian... he sounds like he may be Muslim... and I dont mean to sound steretypical but I knew a lady who was married to a Muslim and some of the same things you mentioned that he said she would tell me he would say to her.. and then try to convert that person... The lady also told me that their main goal is to convert people to being Muslim etc. However if he was a Christian than I apologize on his behlaf because that is not our views and beliefs as christian we believe everyone is equal and that the man is not greater than the woman but partners( if married) we are taught that yes women are to respect your husband, but hunsband are to love and protect your wives... so its a 50/50 thing... No one person is greater than the other. I am very sorry that you got this said to you and religion or no religion.. he is just PLAIN IGNORANT!
@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
16 Jan 10
I just came up with something and realize that it could be the parents who taught him that so he grew up with it thinking that women should be below men.He even told me to quit school and go behind the kitchen. I am less angry now because i got in touch with my best friend who is also christian and says that he's crazy too. I just feel bad for him afterall. Leaving in anger and jealousy that women are gaining more status. He's pathetic.
@raisur (423)
• Bangladesh
15 Jan 10
Hi ladysakurax... i'm not a Christian, so not answering your question related to Christianity... however, i like to concentrate on the last part of your writing... i have a feeling that he is a fanatic... fanatics do exist in all the religions and they could be deadly sometimes... i think, it is better for you to inform the matter to the school psychologist so that he can be taken care of... a normal man, however religious he could be, would not be so aggressive for nothing...
@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
15 Jan 10
I will surely do this. The reason I decided to befriend was because he looked nice and he does not have alot of friends because of the way he thinks. I must agree with you 100% that he is a fanatic.
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@allknowing (137771)
• India
15 Jan 10
There are a few statements here and there that talk about women obeying men, etc. but no christian man will disrepsect a woman leave alone believe in what your 'friend' here says. This gentleman (or is he!?)needs psychiatric treatment and the earlier you report the matter to the powers that be the better it will be.
@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
15 Jan 10
yeah my boyfriend told me i should go see the school psych as soon as possible. And he is a he. He remembers me of the Phelps family. It was just surprising that he would act up like that because afterall I though we got along well. I would have never expected of this.
@chdsandeep (397)
• India
15 Jan 10
well i am not christian but i know woman and man are equal and God has made no difference in it. I am male but i feel both are equal rights and woman are not inferior in any sense from man. I think you should tell the psychologist about him so that he can get the right treatment. For me all religions are equal and i believe that no religious book can make such remarks about anyone and if it is in bible that woman are inferior then it is absolutely wrong.
@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
15 Jan 10
I think it will be hard to change someone though because his parents have been taught like that. This morning he left a mail for me to call him. It got a little messy. Even his dad talked to me on the phone. HE kept on saying to get peace and mentioned some lines in the bible. Anyway, we sorted it the thing and he said he want to start being classmate from afresh...I said ok but in my mind, i will surely keep my distance from him.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
if this is his way to invite you to his religion then he sucks big time. if he is true in his religion then they are not teaching the right way to talk to people. it is said in the new testament "who has no sin cast the first stone" (or something like that) then he has no right to say things like that towards you. there are a lot of christians who acts like that for they think they are already saved. this is only my opinion for i know there are others who will be commenting on what i said. but for me if you want to walk the talk like the bible said then he has no right to talk to you in that way.
@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
15 Jan 10
Thank you for commenting! I think that he's one of the kind. IT was just soo sudden like out of the blue when he told me this. I also have a few christian friends but it was too late at night. Maybe you are right. Some peopel interpret thigns differently.
@shikaymaru (700)
• Malaysia
15 Jan 10
Wow, that it is creepy. I avoid people like that. As a Christian we should all know that love is the basic thing. No hatred please. Seems to me that he is full of hatred. They are a lot of different Christian teaching and believes around the world.
You are right, no one have the right to judge others but GOD.
Hope everything is fine until you finish your study. All the best!
@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
15 Jan 10
I started to worry alot for myself last night. I just could not sleep. HE mentionned that he has nothing against me and that I am his friend despise all the things he said. He might be nuts!!!!!
@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
Telling the psychologist about the situation is one good move to make.
