Must friendship have benefits?
By sofear
@sofear (42)
January 15, 2010 4:19pm CST
I am very good at making friends and I am always honest with my friends.I met a new one recently and he wanted me to sleep with him,as a friend with benefit thing that most people do.When I explained to him that am not innterested in him that way and would like us to be just mates,he cut all communication with me,doesn't aswer my texts or phone calls and I haven't seen him since.Was he for real or just another jerk?
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4 responses
@fiazio (734)
• India
15 Jan 10
Hello,
Its good to know you've got a lotta friends.
Friends never ask you to sleep with them, that's crazy, unless he was interested in something else.
You should probably not call him back, just make new ones, good ones.
Best of luck
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
21 Jan 10
Hi, is just another jerk for sure, are so many everywhere, peoples who like to hide what they really want behind a friend mask.
Friends are so rare and to hard to find.
Is very hard, as woman to make man friends; i don t say that all man want just to sleep with you...not all, just 99%.
@Syndarin (51)
• United States
17 Jan 10
That guy just genuinely seems like a jerk. I've been friends with mostly guys my whole life and I've never had to be "friends with benefits" to keep them around. Friends with benefits was always something that I chose to do with someone I liked without the strings of a relationship to hold either of us back if we found someone we liked more. You should definitely not feel bad about losing this person as a friend, since he probably never meant to be yours in the first place.
@tpinto (66)
• United States
17 Jan 10
Sounds to me like he never wanted to be your friend in the first place. He only wanted one thing from you and when you wouldn't give it to him, he cut off contact with you. Friends don't do that to each other. I have also had many male friends in my life and none of them ever did that to me. A few ended up being interested in me but they never cut off our friendship because I didn't think of them in the same way. Don't give this jerk another thought. Move on because there are plenty of nice people out their that you can be friends with that don't expect anything from you in return.