Is it our fault when someone betrayed us?

Trust is a very important thing, you must be careful whom you give your trust to. For example I gave my trust to my husband during the first three year of our marriage - he cheaped - I forgave and we have been married for 22 years. It took years for me to trust him again but he had to live with the fact that I could never trust him in the way I did before, that there will always be the little bit of question. So do we have the right to blame that person, it depends on the relationship. Do you blame yourself - I say no, if you gave your trust away to someone you truly believe would handle that with the respect it deserved. I didn't blame myself because I trusted my husband not to hurt my emotions. But the lesson I learned was everyone no matter who they are; is human. We have temptation and we have free will. Its your choice to act or not act on them. He acted on his - not because he didn't love me but because he was afriad of what he had. So, in other words. If you love something set it free, if it comes back to you its yours, if not it never was. I don't see why would should blame outselfs for giving a piece of ourselves to others in the form of trust. I would blame myself if I acted in a bad way after my trust was betrayed. An eye for an eye it not the way to live your life.

Depends on the specific situation. Sometimes people do bring betrayal on themselves for sure. Other times it's the people doing it that have the problem. There's no sure answer either way. You have to take stock of both sides to determine the answer. As for 'do we have the right'. Generally no. That's pride. You shouldn't have betrayed me because I'm me, and so great, so now I'm mad. That's not a great way to live your life. You need to accept what has happened and move on. The best thing you can do, is examine yourself, determine what you might have done better, and learn from it.

Hey careguarden! I don't think that we should blame ourselves if someone has betrayed us! If they are supposed to be our friend and we trust them and believe them, then how can it be our fault? Sometimes we do trust in the wrong people and we end up being sorry that we did, but everyone makes mistakes! But, to blame ourselves seems awfully harsh! Some people are very convincing and are very deceitful and are good liars! So, if we did make a mistake in trusting the wrong person we should just learn from the mistake and move on!

i dont think blamming something would be a good option. the only formula on which the world runs is - " need and demand " . a good relation exists until u full fill some ones demand it breaks when u stop giving the thing what the person expects from u. for example - u have a nice girlfriend... a very understanding one ... u take her for granted because u think she would always stay with u for u r whole life .. but thats not true she also wants to be loved .. but u never serve her purpose ... then, the long term result that u get is " a break up " the break up was not her fault..it was only because u didn't served her purpose the fault was urs. also u should not blame ur self too much and fell like committing suside .. thats completely wrong. u should take life in an optimistic way .. and u go with the flow it takes u to .. don't try to fight against life .... ull always be successful.