Is your heart abused or unused?

I pondered for a long time before deciding to write on this discussion. How volatile a discussion while at the same time being very much a tender subject to broach. You speak here, sweet lady of people that possess so much love that it over flows into every heart they see. There are people that have hearts too big to know how to handle them. they reach out to many to try and fill a hole that seems to be bottomless. They proclaim their love to many and so it leaves them appearing as a player or stealer of hearts. Perhaps looking at this through a different way will show you new thoughts. I know a man who many many years ago was introduced to the world of Love and giving. So many years ago that this man would have been but a little boy. He was tossed from lady to lady or as the world sees them, petafile to petafile and taught the ways of love-making. He, just a boy, grew through life believing that to truly give to a woman, he had to give his all in love-making but could not ever give his whole heart to one because these woman would Never allow that. Told by each that he was truly loved, he grew up believing that giving his very best in love-making was giving his Love fully. He treasured every single woman he was with because at that young age, he didn;t know any better. As an adult, his heart still believed that every woman in the world deserves to be loved and to feel that they are Special. Every womn that he meets, he wants to give to them what a woman needs. That... is a love that is understanding, comapassionate, true and always, Always giving and complimentory. He tells each lady he holds that he loves he dearl and that she is beautful and special and He MEANS every single word that he speaks. He has grown up believing truly in his heart that there is not a woman in this world that does Not want to feel beautiful. That they want to feel as if they are the ONLY woman in the world to this mand and when he holds them, They ARE. Some of the women he has touched have stayed, knowing that he can Never give them All of himself. HE does not have that to give to anyone for he gave that to One woman a lifetime ago and she went to heaven taking that forever love with her. They stay because they know that he can not give his forever to them but what he does give to them is the feeling that they Are special, that they Are beautiful and that they deserve to be treated like a lady and to feel love making like they feel no where else in their world. Yes, sweet lady, there are men out there, as well as women, that simply take and then leave the lady standing, alone and lost and feeling used. They are players that care little if anything for the women that cause to fall in love with them. The hurt they leave in their wake is sad and wrong. But the one that truly does feel Love for the women... that when he says he loves them, he means it with all of his heart. The heart IS precious and it is real and the treatment of that heart inside should be always soft and tender. It is a vessel that is the gateway to a soul and should never be abused. Not every man has a story to tel as to why he isthe way he is. Some are just bad men hurting good ladies. But... there are those whose hearts were filled and molded long ago and that over flow with any control from the person that has such a heart. He may indeed be wrong in what he does. When a woman DOES shoose to leave him because of his ways, he cries. He cries from hie eyes and from his heart and from his very soul. An emptiness is created where that beautiul lady once stood and again, his soul feels empty. And he will love her for the rest of his life because it has always been this way. I am sorry for the women that falls for him and yet... I am glad inside my heart that if only for a time, she Knew and felt that she was the most precious diamond in the world to this man.

Hi Zandi! You see having a sweet tongue and the ability to charm a woman is an art, which everybody cannot have. I also do not support betrayal and believe that one should be true to his soul mate. I think since ages men are considered polygamist and they just find it interesting to love more than one woman (I am not saying that it is morally correct). You see if a woman falls for above mentioned man, then both become party to it and the man cannot be solely held responsible........lol! We live in a society and we are supposed to abide by its rules, norms and traditions.

i am quitw wary of such persons who seem to be friendly out of the way but they usually have some ulterior motives,there are some exceptions,of course, where people are over friendly by nature.

Very good question. And there are many Don Juans out there ya just have to keep a sharp eye out so your heart wont be broken.

Mine has been abused many times by family & don juans. If u figure out a man please let me know what u found out. I have been trying for 67 years to do that. lol.

Right zandi, there are tons of playboy who use their heart along with speeches to hunt ladies. I dont know why those ladies jump to that trap of a player. Why they cant judge the reality? I am neither a playboy nor a lover even i was not able to prolongate my only one love. I have not flattering verses or honey dew speech. Thanks.

I don't associate the love with the heart, but with the brain. Someone once said that love IS an emotion because it can make you cry like crazy with either happiness or sadness. The fact of the matter is that it's the happiness or sadness that makes you cry, not love itself, so therefore, love is not an emotion. A man (or woman for that matter) who chooses to have many lovers is doing so in a calculated way. They know exactly what they are doing and know how to do it in a charming way. They may use the word love when they really mean desire, which are not always the same thing. As for someone who can't open up their heart to love, well every can love. In this case it's because they have chosen not to.

I don’t know if these Don Juans have great big hearts or just the gift of the gab! They know what to do and how to say the right things to lure naïve women into their deceitful web. These types of guys are always going to be around I just wish women would stop giving them their phone numbers! The ones who betray do not open their hearts up at all and those who cannot is usually due to the fact that their heart has been used and abused too many times!

Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, If you ask me, my heart has never been abused, I hae used my haert whole-heartedly to my hubby only and never shared with anyone. Same thing goes with my hubby. He may like toroam around with some Ladies but, he will com eback to me only. I have blind faith in him. Whatever, you have described goes with un-satisfied hearts and souls. Such charcters should be taught good lesson from womenfolks. Why at all we have soft corner and les wisdom to judge them. We should stand on firm ground and never try and slip. There should be strict opinion about such characters. At irst hand, everyone shoud be doubted with. May God bless You and have a great time.

well, so far i have not yet succumb to men flattery, because i am the one who flatter them..eventually I am not to be taken seriously and have not meet one yet whom i could be feeling crazy. All are fling and their is not to much for me to worry as when i get so serious maybe it is then the time i could really feel what it mean to be crazy in love. My heart is healthy as of today and I do not feel being abuse at all and all of my vital organs are perfectly functioning so I would not let anyone enter into my life without sincerity.

For me is unused to love I don't know but it's my instinct part of me.

Some women are at fault here. They easily get taken by flattery. Some men don't have a heart and that is why they don't understand the meaning of love. That is how I see it. But many other things are responsible for such things. One is the zodiac sign. I know it looks like an odd factor since astrology is not a part of the mainstream society. But if we take a close look at it we will know why some people turn out to be players.