is jealousy and insecurity normal for people in love?

India
January 16, 2010 7:27am CST
when u r in love with someone, you want to be the most important person in his/her life... but would it scare u when he/she wants some space ?? will u be jealous to c the person u love happy with some1 else??? would u feel insecure about her being with his/her friends more than with u.?? i feel insecure about all this... coz i get a little possesive about my gal....:).... what is your take guys??? what do u feel in such a situation???
6 responses
@rocker21 (2716)
• India
16 Jan 10
Look Ashish, space is just an excuse. I hate this word personally, "Space", what is like everyone keeps on asking "you should give me some space" thats naturally directly an indirect way to say "please keep away for sometime" because they are bored? or maybe they want to let in some one else in their life. Everything in excess is poison. Even love, Jealousy and being insecure is totally normal, but you know what, being possessive is way much better, because If you'r jealous that means your girl is doing things, which you dont like, and if she loves you she might not completely stop it okay, but atleast keep a note that what you like and what you dont. Consideration is yet another thing, Being Insecure is a bad thing, but its not in your control, it depends on how your partner treats you.
• India
17 Jan 10
dear Rocker21, it is a pretty unpleasant feeling to be asked to give space from the person u love.... i completely agree with the interpretation u gave....
• India
17 Jan 10
Jealousy and Insecurity are the state of the mind. These are the major reason for any break up. If you cannot be happy with the happiness of other partner then leave her/him. Love means no boundary no restriction it is all about the freedom.
@maria1081 (1251)
• Philippines
16 Jan 10
If you really love the person then I think a little jealousy is normal. Having a little jealousy add spice in the relationship. It's like telling your partner hey you are mine, dont look for anyone else.
• India
16 Jan 10
Yes i think that is normal.. People tend to behave wierd if their loved one pays extra attention to (say a friend) than you.. Well thats just due to insecurity..
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
16 Jan 10
jealousy is quite normal in a relationship, but always keep in mind the most important aspect of every relationship..'trust'.. be confident in yourself and try to be assertive. if you see her happy being with others, be happy for her. if there is doubt, be subtle in expressing your curiosity..
@iharidh (308)
• Indonesia
16 Jan 10
I don't know about the insecurity, but for jealousy, I think it's very normal for a couple to have. Because according to me, jealousy represent that one 'own' his/her lover couple.