There Is a Legit Reason Why I Am Wary Of My Mother-In-Law

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A few MyLotters cannot understand why I - perhaps - do not appreciate the in-laws (especially my mother-in-law) like I should. I shall now try to explain why I am more wary of the mother-in-law moreso now than before I got married. We decided to get married in Las Vegas which all sounds very grand but in actual fact it was cheaper to be married there than have a big "do" here in the UK...and we stayed and got wed in the Planet Hollywood. We stayed there for a week. Now, fortunately for us we managed to pay extra for the bigger seats at the front of the plane as it is a long way to go with limited leg-room, especially for my John as he's over 6ft tall. His Mum and Dad sat an aisle across from us, a bit further back and Mum and my nephew were sat on the other side, right at the front. Me and John were in the middle seats so were close to either set of relatives. My nephew is one of those teenagers (as he was at the time) that cannot function if he's overtired and it's the only time he can be a bit ratty. Mum made the mistake of asking him to do something and he just "lost it" momentarily, saying that he didn't really want to be there and causing me to cry. Remember that last part as is it's important. After 5 minutes or so I had stopped crying, Tom (nephew) had calmed down and all was well...or so I thought. That ONE incident on the plane helped to - subsequently, virtually ruin our time in the Planet Hollywood because Margaret (the mother-in-law) just WOULD NOT speak to Tom and would ignore him whenever he spoke to her, bearing in mind both my Mum and myself had forgotten the incident on the plane as we know what Tom is like and he most certainly is not a nasty person. John (hubby) also knows this so I was surprised he took his parents' side. This failure to forgive culminated in Margaret confronting Mum in the Planet Hollywood lobby at one stage...obviously drunk...and she said some really nasty things. I just couldn't believe my eyes. John was having a lie down at the time as the stress was beginning to tell and when I told him later what his Mum said he looked more stressed than ever, so I left it alone after that. I'd said my piece. If it had not been for the fact that I love my John dearly and (at the end of the day) I was marrying HIM, I decided to not let it all affect the day itself...and it didn't. Ever since then I have lost any respect I did have for my mother-in-law as she made it awkward for everyone else and even her own son could not get through to her so, in the end, he gave up trying. All this proves, however, how much I love John doesn't it? Our patience was tested to the limit that week but we still went ahead with the wedding and (for that) I am blessed. I do not let on that I have lost all respect for Margaret. I make the effort for John's sake but I shall never forgive her for having a go at my Mum like she did. Why have I not mentioned it since? Well, I have the feeling she probably won't even remember so there's no point. It was nearly 2 years ago. Her husband is the weak type, a very nice man but weak, so he would never disagree with his Mrs..ever. So he is to blame as well for not taking hold of the situation and bringing us all together.