What if there was a law against being unfaithful?
By ElsaElsa
@ElsaElsa (323)
United States
January 16, 2010 8:17pm CST
Let me specify what I mean. How would you view a law that specifically allowed couples who sign a marriage contract to state consequences in the event that one or the other spouse choses to be unfaithful aka have an affair? Do you think it would be a beneficial law for a spouse who loses everything due to an unfaithful spouse? Would this sort of law benefit society? Should there be one? I thought about this and somehow I can't see the harm in having such a law. Anyone care to agree or disagree?
8 responses
@coldmoon (1088)
• France
17 Jan 10
I think that it's hard to etablish such a law because in fact it's hard to define "being un faithful". The rule in any level should not commit the privacy of the individuals. If the unfaith causes a negative effect, there exist many other rules to punish the sinner, and we don't need to pull it further.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
17 Jan 10
very good point. and when you have to define being unfaithful. that could be anything from just talking to someone, if your spouse got that mad enough.
@ElsaElsa (323)
• United States
18 Jan 10
Let's leave the definition. That is getting into specifics of what the law should entail. Think about it in general, if there was a law that protected the victim, how would that affect society, our morals, our decisions actions? Would it make society a better place? etc.
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
17 Jan 10
Such law exist in a few religions and is practiced in some countries. I wish in the west it became a law for the society. Then we will have the perfect family system. As far as I know in the congress this matter was brought up, but was dropped in a few days. I just can't remember when it happened.
@ElsaElsa (323)
• United States
18 Jan 10
Yes many religions do protect against this. I just thought a law would protect one and all. I wasn't aware that it was brought up in congress and it was dropped. They have laws like you can't drive a red car in some states but yet all states have people driving red cars. So I wonder why a law that would quite possibly benefit the family system be dropped.
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
19 Jan 10
I suppose it has a lot to do with the riches. They pay the politicians for the election with the contract that they will get some benefits if those politicians get the power. And I would like to point out that many CEOs and other millionairs have mistresses! SO you know, if a law is passed against unfaithfulness those people will be more in trouble!
@ElsaElsa (323)
• United States
18 Jan 10
I don't think I agree that the victim gets "everything". Most marriages that have unfaithfullness in it end in divorce and divorce settlements don't necessarily give "everything" to the victim because a wife could be the adulterer and there are so many laws that protect women that her unfaithfulness may not come into play at all and she'll still get "everything". Where would that leave the husband?
@uath13 (8192)
• United States
18 Jan 10
Then that's what needs to be fixed. The adulterer should be punished then. If you made it illegal then that would just be even more people we'd be sending into an already overcrowded penal system. They'd then have to start letting people out early to make room. I'd much rather keep the rapists , pedophiles, robbers & murders in prison for their full terms instead.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
17 Jan 10
i think it would be another exersise of power. the state has too much controll over people's private matters as it is. don't get me wrong, i don't think that you should cheat. i am totally against it, but enough people are backing away from marriage because of all of the legalities. forget the fear of the marriage not working out. a law like that would prob make even more people not want to get married. too much legality. that's why i don't think i will ever do it. never have and in my twenties. my and i have decided to love each other freely, with out the chains of bondage called a marriage contract. yes, we are faithful to each other. that's the one good thing i can say about our relationship. there is no cheating. if there is...damned he's good. we live together, work together, and raise kids together. have out lasted a lot of our married friends who don't love each other, but are tied together in legal bondage untill they can afford the money to cut chain. oh no! no more laws on marriage. just leave it.
@ElsaElsa (323)
• United States
18 Jan 10
Well in that case marriage doesn't seem to be an integral part of society. Why get married in the first place right? But my point is that many people who marry do it from a religious point of view. Religion hails to protect them against a fall out but many laws don't. The law doesn't have to abide by religion, but it would help prevent broken families. That's my opinion. Care to differ?
@Fulltank (2882)
• Philippines
17 Jan 10
Adultery is being unfaithful to you partner, and is punishable under the family code here in our country (I just hope I'm right with this one). It may be very difficult to prove under the law but still there is a law against it. If not then, I'm just curious how do politician approved laws against unfaithfulness if many of them do have many children from different women.lol
@Nemonezonicamidecus (247)
• Italy
3 Apr 10
Why don't abolish marriage instead of introducing such dangerous laws? Just kidding of course. In fact, I'm in favor of getting married but also for moderation.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
17 Jan 10
For me I'm disagree because it is easy to the married couple to have another so our society is the moral is depreciate by that law.
@raisur (423)
• Bangladesh
20 Jan 10
hi elsaelsa... i think no law can stop one from being unfaithful... any relationship depends mostly on the understanding between two... if there's lack, there's more chance for one or the other to be unfaithful... and if one becomes, what role law can play other than ensuring some extra income for the lawyers? aren't the existing laws in different countries enough for the separation/divorce? and, which law can assist or obstruct forgiving the defaulting partner if one wishes to?
