keeping the house clean
By spoiled311
@spoiled311 (5500)
Philippines
January 16, 2010 9:30pm CST
i know every wife, or at least housewife or homemaker, attempts to keep her home neat and tidy. we do that for our husbands and kids and also for our sanity. they say that husbands really appreciate it when the house is clean and smelling good. and when the go home and things are in order, it gives the a sense of well being and security. it makes them feel loved.
in my case, i do the same. but what if your efforts are not appreciated. or not even noticed? and much worse, what if your husband comes home and even messes everything up. i mean, like leaving things here and there and literally leaving them there for days. i try to understand and wait until these things will be taken away, but they are not. so i will have to take them away myself.
well, if i bring it to his attention, he does appreciate it and give me a nice big smile.
but sometimes, i can't help but feel bad that this is the way. i wanted to keep things neat and tidy. i am not OC, but i maintain a certain level of tidiness where we live.
am i wrong in feeling this way? perhaps, i just want to someone to share in my feelings?
what do you think?
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6 responses
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
How I wish. I really envy those who are so neat and orderly in their homes. I have the tendency to be lazy in household chores. Another problem could be the space you're living. If it hasn't got enough space for you stuff, there can be loads of clutter everywhere.
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
17 Jan 10
I think you need to do it more for yourself than anybody else. I know i like living like that also and my husband doesn't always notice. But i think it is because he is so use to it. At this point it is second nature to him. I by no means think he is aken me for granted. We just both have our jobs and take pride in them. Mine just happens to be the household.
@nancyrowina (3850)
•
17 Jan 10
I'm really lucky and have found a partner who cleans too, so we share the responsibility. In fact since I started going out with him the flat is tidier than it's been in ages. Before I met my new boyfriend I had one who made a terrible mess and didn't clean up after himself, and his friends all used to come round and make a mess too. I used to try and keep the place tidy but literally within hours of my cleaning it would be all messed up again so in the end I gave up.
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
17 Jan 10
There's nothing wrong feeling like that. We are just human after all. We tend to grow and with that would be the growth of our wants and expectations. Then again, we also wear out of time so we can't always be consistent with the things that we could do.
Comes home from where? A tiring day from work? Like a snake that leaves things as they go through the house?
Being occupied with other things does make us forget to pay attention or attend to things that we do need to put our efforts on, even for a short time.
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
17 Jan 10
well,i think its a part of marriage..i do feel that way too.maybe worst than that..cheers
@good2go2001 (915)
• United States
17 Jan 10
We have large family and i make everyone do their part but it still leaves me with several hours of work every day. I agree its terrible when the work goes un-noticed, makes me feel like whats the point of all this. I do it not just for them because i want to feel proud of my home and part of that is keeping it clean and organized. I would say i am very picky and hate things out of order but it is most the time just easier to do it myself than to beg for others help.
