Should I stop being so honest?

Always be honest. Perhaps, you need to analyze just how you say those honest things. Example.1. You are as the first day of spring. or 2. You are as the first day after a cold long hard winter......Both things say the same thing but which do you want to hear??

I think what you should do is to be honest as you are. It is a good thing that you do, being honest. Just one suggestion, you don't have to speak everything or everytime, just be quiet. And you don't have to answer everything or everytime when people ask.

there`s nothing wrong with being honest. what you did is being too straight forward. I guess you need to lessen it a bit. Maybe some of them you got offended why they reacted like that...

I think the big issue is not only being honest but the way you tell someone something. Simon on American Idol is very honest but he's brutal about it. He's spot on when he tells some that they can't sing and need to do something else with their lives, but he does it in such a direct mean way that the person often doesn't hear the real message. In my humble opinion, he's actually being kind by telling them flat out they have no talent for singing, but it's the way that he does it that I sometimes have an issue with. When you are telling someone something, think about how you would want them to tell you. And I think that the world runs better when we all try to be tactful. Here's an example - You can tell someone that asks for your honest opinion that their new haircut looks terrible and emphasizes their big ears which while it may be true is cruel and hurtful. Or you could say that you don't think it's the best haircut to show off their eyes which is one of their best features. You are basically saying the same thing, you don't like it but with the first, you are being insensitive and cruel and with the 2nd while abit vague is kind and sensitive. Generally when someone asks for your honest opinion, I have found that they don't really want to hear it if it differs from what they want to hear. So I make sure that I am tactful, and kind and I think before I speak.

Hi,there.Sometimes I have the same feeling with you.I don't like to tell a lie becasue it means I need to tell more lie in future.And when I tell a tie,I feel guilt and tired.But as you said sometimes too honest will hurt other.So what we can do?We can't hide our true thought,but we also don't want to hurt others.In my opinion,you can try to learn that tell the truth by a softway.From this you needn't to hold your tounge,you just need to find a better to express your truth feeling.I hope my words could give you some help.

honesty is a yes and no kind of thing. You can tell people the truth when they need to hear it but dont over do it. But you can sort of "cover up" what you are going to say if they need a bit of encouragement. It kind of like one of those "does my butt look big" type of questions when you might want to get around that situation. Well hope i helped, bye.

I don't think there is anything wrong with being honest and disagree that a person can be too honest. It is certainly true that a person can be more honest than people can handle, but that is not your fault but the fault of those who choose to react negatively to you when you speak the truth. I pride myself on being honest and care not about how others may react to it. I am honest with people and I expect people to be the same way with me.

hi friend, No,never you don't stop honest. Being an honest is good in life. Always be a good honest and trust. Never be in dishonest side and don't tell lie. Be a honest always helps in your life. Be a open minded,helping nature. have a good day.

Honesty is not a bad thing although we should also be sensitive on what would be the effect if you will bluntly tell the truth. If you're not going to say something good, then just better keep it to yourself. And honesty is not the only factor for people to trust you. Not just because you you are too widely honest, people will just be happy for it. There are some things that are no longer need to be said. Like for example, if you're just going to criticize other people, no need to tell it if they are not asking you too. Or if you can't really handle it, just say it in a nice manner. Be careful on the things you said cause words give wounds that are hard to heal.

I have always been a very honest person. I know I am very honest, and sometimes being honest hurts peoples feelings, so over the years I've learned to tone it down some. Honestly is always best but sometimes we have to go about it in a different way. If someone has on shoes that you just don't like what so ever, but they just love them. Remember we all are different and it's ok. I wouldn't tell them their shoes were flat out ugly. I would say.. For me they aren't what I'd wear, or buy, but for you they are great. I am still being honest, and it doesn't hurt feelings.

honesty is always the best policy in my opinion I myself both here on mylot and in real life so to speak say exactly what I think. Hence why I ain't a 10 star lol, yes sometimes people don't want to hear the truth but put yourself in their place if it was you would you want the truth or would you to be lied to even a little white lie as little lie's soon become big ones. Say it how it is and be true to yourself.

I guess honesty can work both ways. It can be bad and good for people. I would try to be honest most of the time with people. But there are times where a little white lie wouldn't hurt anybody. Then I would have to bite my tongue and just take it and be quiet.

Jesus said that we always have to be honest ALL THE TIME, no matter what the situation is. I'm like you, too. There are times when I am being told to lie, but I still always end up telling the truth, so they get disappointed. I hate lying and being lied upon. I don't really care if they think I'm being too honest, because after all, it is a great virtue that all of us should practice. As long as you think that what you're doing is right, keep doing it. And oh, don't ever apologize for telling the truth. Being honest is not a mistake.

Its nice being honest but it depends on the condition because if your lie will help some one and give someone a smile than telling lie is not bad

Hi shelly6354,Welcome to mylot!Being honest is a very good attitude.Well, It's your choice if you are happy to stop then it's up to you.But for me,I will always suggest to be honest in such a way that no one hurts.Sometimes it is okay to remain silence unless it is necessary to say what you think.Have a nice day!

Well, like everything else in the world, everything has its down sides and up sides. I love that you are totally honest, only a few people like you exist and i have to say i admire that. Don't stop being honest instead before you tell the truth like for example to your current boyfriend, instead of babbling your opinions without hesitating, think before you speak because honey words can never be taken back. Think first if what you want to say would hurt him, but if you really need to tell him then please do it in a calm and acceptable manner in a way he won't get mad at your remark. Face it, telling the truth even if its the right thing to do well it hurts. Continue to be honest because that's who you are but always remember to be careful of your choice of words and also learn to hold your tongue.

I don't think you should stop being honest. All you need to learn is to be prudent. I am just like you. My parents brought me up to be honest and speak the truth at all times. I don't think they were wrong, but as I grew up I realized that people can take advantage of us if we are too honest. Sometimes they even feel hurt and we may lose out on the best of opportunities in life because we have been honest. I am not saying that we must tell lies, but some things need not be told at all. Sometimes we need to behave as the situation demands. Even with our friends and family we need to be cautious, otherwise our honesty is likely to leave us lonely and lost in this big world. So my advice to you is just be careful. I am writing from my own personal experience and I am smarter now.

I guess being honest has it's advantages and disadvantages though it's always good to be honest. Just be prepare and face it's consequences if it's for the betterment of the situation.