Would you confide your heartache to a married person?

Perhaps she wants to get the husband to be her husband. Sometimes, love can be out of control. Also scary too.  x(

I would confide my heartaches to a married person, female to female heart-to-heart talk should be ideal, not the husband because it would invite unwanted attention thereby resulting to gossip. I cannot blame Kris to be protective of her relationship because of what she went through to secure it. However, if we're going to believe what was said and done, she should have not gone overboard as well. James should have not taken those calls in the first place.

Well there are many sides and angles in the story too. First I think I know Kris means well in her intention to clear the matter up but I think she was I think driven by her emotions that she has to really go to the girl's house and lecture her about being right and everything. I know she pretty knows well how public figure she really is and doing that could create a much more magnified view in public and it has blown out of proportion already. Especially now that her brother is seeking to ran as president. I think the more prudent to do in here is try calling her and try to talk things out with the girl about it. I am not defending the side of James, but what Kris has done was really not right since she knows that it would create a much more controversy and all has became more public and I really think it is James in here that has been put to shame more than the other party. I am saddened that Kris decided to instead separate with James. I really think that this matter can still be patched and reconciled since the matter is not really about infidelity but just a mistaken or even just a suspected one. I really think Kris should realize that James is also a celebrity and has his own followers as well. There will be times that there are fans who would try to mingle with him and would somehow destroy the family. It is a matter of how you handle the matter that might save a marriage.

Yes, I certainly agree with you eileenleyva. A single lady should not confide or cry about matters of the heart to a married man. Of course, Kris Aquino just do an act which is what wives out there would do. When I heard the story, I asked myself if I would do the same like what Kris did. In my mind I answered Yes. The ex-boyfriend of that Mayen, according to Kris Aquino, when she was interviewed yesterday was not in anyway related to James Yap, it is neither a friend nor a team mate. So of course if I were Kris Aquino, I would definitely think that Mayen has some purpose on why she was doing that. You know, some woman wants to act like a damsel in distress so they could get the attention of the man that they like. Kris know that for sure, so I think her impulse was just to prevent it before it gets worse- yeah save their marriage. She very well know that, being attached to 2 married man before? I think events like that are very familiar to Kris, isn't it? Thank you for the discussion.

Confiding to a married man if you are truly his friend and not just a fan i think is alright but the girl should know her limitations. Personal problems like broken relationships with boyfriends should be shared to someone more appropriate to share it with like girl friends who are close to you or a friend who is experienced to those kind of problems. Opening up this heart problem to a married guy would only invite trouble, like temptations,that would cause another problem to the other party.

foolish indeed! for the sake of delicadesa, she should not do that. i mean, there are people, counselors perhaps, her friends, sisters, mother, nun and a priests, why James? what is her motives, or what is the motives of the uncle/family? that is in question. while Kris might just be desperately wanting to save the marriage and James on the other hand in "all honestly" wanting to help, but is their good intentions received with honesty, that is the question. while they might be honest in their intentions, other people may have their own interpretations of things. what is important is, the TRUTH will always prevail at the end. So ENLIGHTEN them God!

I guess there is nothing wrong confiding problems to a married man for as long as you know your limitaions. But if you have other motives of confiding, then that's another story.

I really see nothing wrong to confide your heartache to a married person not unless that married person happens to be the husband of a Kris Aquino . Besides, I don't think James Yap is the best suitable person to ask advise on as far as marriage life is concerned. To me the intentions of the fan is already doubtful not unless it's part of the privileges of a Jame's fan that if you're a member of his fan club you are entitled to a counselling session . But seriously, I don't think it's a good idea for Kris to go to the girl's house. The least she could do is let James take care of the problem. Because with the way things are going right now, she will end up the loser. James is a basketball player and a certified chick magnet. Fans will always try to find a way to get a grab of him. They may be or may not be aware that they're a threat to someone else's marriage. But this particular girl may have succeeded after all with Kris' announcement of a separation. Kris lost and the girl just got her 15 minutes of fame along the way. Tsk...tsk..tsk...

This can happen to many of us... For the benefit of the doubt, let us give people involved to explain there sides. Many times this happen to me and my friends, I have seen nothing wrong with the issue. I still believe, "people are generally good, they make mistakes and for that they should be given the benefit of the doubt." What if, you are only looking for someone to talk, and for a lot of your friends you called, you are reached a married person. It can Happen to all of us for some time...

that is unbelievable, that is not the case as it should be, that aint a James-Fan relationship, its a true James-Girl talk.

hi there! just watched loads of these yesterday and again, Kris Aquino become controversial because of a supposedly casual conversation. anyway, the relationship of Kris and James Yap is an open book to FIlipino people. we all know about what they are going through and how they tried to save their marriage. in the first place, their marriage seems to be susceptible to many problems since there' a lot of difference between Kris and James' status and age. there are many talks about the rumored playboy image of James Yap, maybe because of his profession. so in this regard, the girl named mayen should know what will happen if Kris notice her actuations towards James. if she is only a fan, she should not let herself bother her idol about personal problems unless, she was told so. even you are not a fan, as any ordinary girl, she must not confide personal matters to a very much married man unless you are the best of friends. you must be sensitive towards what the wife may feel if she found out you are running after her husband crying over your boyfriend. respect the right of others so you will be respected as well.