Have you ever lost contact with relations then got back in touch with them?
By jugsjugs
@jugsjugs (12967)
January 17, 2010 6:07pm CST
My husbands dad that died when my husband was only 6 years old had all of his relations that lived in Irland,we went to meet these relations a few years ago as my husband had got in touch with a few of them and they invited us over there.It was great to see people that he had never met as well as they were really nice people.We all lost contact again over the 5 years and all of a sudden my husband decided to get their telephone number off the operator now we are all intouch again as well as on the telephone we are also intouch on face book.Has anything like this happened to you?
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@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
18 Jan 10
I'm sorry for your husband's loss, I know I will be heart broken when my mom goes, and will also probably mostly lose touch with my family - I don't know how much my sister will come back to town without her being here.
My brother, who lives here, and I don't get long very well, and have no interests in common - so I probably won't be seeing much of him.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
18 Jan 10
My 2nd son had lost contact with his 2 kids (thier mothers fault for she would taks phone out send letters back and all that ) Well he found them both on facebook now we are all friends on there and I have only seen thses kids once in thier life.
Now my grandson is a MArine and he is now in Haiti
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
18 Jan 10
I recently re-established contact with my cousin. She's about 9 years older than me and by the time I was a teen she was married, divorced and re-married having more children (2nd marriage lasted, he's a sweetheart). I moved across the country in my late 20's and finally made it back home 3 years ago. It was wonderful to see her again, meet her children and great grandchildren, learn more about our family, ancestors, our history. We get together about 4-5 times a year. Same with my widowed sister-in-law, she also lives close.
I love being near my family once again.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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18 Jan 10
I think that if my husband had his way we would live over there with all of the family that he has found as they are really nice as well as like to have the family near.I on the other hand like to be here near all of my friends as well as my close family as this way it is better for the children,maybe when they grow up then we may think about moving.
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@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
18 Jan 10
hi jugsjugs,
no such experience to me,but what about mylot friends,all mylot friends are not known to us,but all are friendly and i do not know some will meet directly in person and may do some help and they might invite me/us to their home may in town or faraway places or in other countries,i wish only this experience with mylot friends,have a nice day
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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18 Jan 10
I tend to not have alot of time to get to meet up with many people on here or off here which is a shame as i have made lots of friends on here that they have a lot in common with me as well.A friend of mine that is on here wanted to get a few Mylot people to meet up so that we could put a face to the name of the people that we had been talking to on her for along time,which i think sounds a great idea but we all come from all over the world so that would be a hard thing todo.
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@BinaryKat (735)
• United States
18 Jan 10
Yup. I have two cousins on my mom's side that kept in touch while I was growing up. Then we lost contact with them for a while. One of my cousins got back in touch with my mom and she talks with her once a week. The other cousin found my little brother and me on facebook and keeps in touch on there.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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18 Jan 10
I think it is great that people can get in contact no matter if they knew you or if they knew of you and that like you say that people get intouch as well as stay intouch.We have found a few more relations of my husbands by other people that are on face book as well as they have also found the rest of my husbands family here in England.
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@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
18 Jan 10
Hi Jugs,
Once they're our friend or family friend...no matter what and wherever they maybe--there will always come a time when we re-connect or re-kindle the friendship even after decades of having no communication. that's the essence of establishing a good friendship. it will remain truly in our hearts and will long to be together again even for a brief time!
@jugsjugs (12967)
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23 Jan 10
I do think that with having the internet this do help alot as it is alot easier to find the friends as well as the relations that we have lost touch with over the years as well.On facebook we have managed to find the relations as well as keep in touch with them and the bonus is that the other relations are also finding us as well.I think without the internet this would have taken forever.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
24 Jan 10
internet bridge the gap of long long lost friendships. there's no reason why it will be difficult to reach out this time. we only need to maximize the use of the technology or keep pace with the its development.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 10
The internet is wonderful for that. Although I have never actually lost contact with my East Coast relatives, having the internet makes it so much easier to stay in touch!
@jugsjugs (12967)
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23 Jan 10
I think that having the internet saved alot of time as well as alot of effort trying to find all the relations.Thankfully there are alot of the relations on facebook and alot of the relations seem to be always on facebook are are always wanting to have a chat.We are intouch with the relations alot on the phone as well as on the internet which is great as well as we are planning to go over again to see them.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
23 Jan 10
Hi, jugsjugs. It has not quite happened with Facebook. But it has happened in my personal life. I ran into a few of my great friends that went to school with me. I have seen them on the street and I would touch basis with them by getting their new phone number and what not. We are usually glad to see each other. While I was in school we communicated but once we graduated the friendship still stayed. But, we did not talk as much as we used to do while we was in school. So, I will get phone numbers and email addresses so that I can keep in touch with them.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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23 Jan 10
I think that it is great that you have seen some of your old friends where you live.I am still in contact as well as i see a friend that i used to go to school with still now every day,where as alot of the other friends have moved away.I do keep in touch with alot of old friends just like my husband and his relations on facebook which is great as well as sometimes we all meet up for a chat.
@celticeagle (166933)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Jan 10
I lost tract of my cousins because they moved back east. Then we got in contact and now we don't even speak. It is because of the way they treated my mother. Long story. It is sad how selfish and uncaring family members chose to be sometimes. Money grubbers basically. Love them just don't like them right now.
@celticeagle (166933)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Jan 10
Some people are sure weird aren't they? Money grubbers. Amazing!
@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
23 Jan 10
Not for me, but, I'm so happy to hear that you've gotten back in touch with relatives. That must feel sooooo good! Are you planning on going go Ireland to visit them anytime soon?
Purrs,
Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
21 Jan 10
Aside from my husband’s family I only have my sister and my parents here, the rest of my relations live in Italy and I see them very rarely which I don’t mind so much when it comes to my old aunts and uncles but my cousins I really miss and I wish we had the chance to grow up together because several are around my age.
A while ago I came across a book on the Net and discovered that, lo and behold, the author was one of my cousins! I was excited to see that the passion for writing runs in the family and I decided to try to contact him which was easy because I found his profile on Facebook quite quickly.
I had not seen or spoken to him for around twenty years so you can imagine how pleased I was when he replied and was happy to catch up! We keep in regular contact now and I’ve since decide to track down my other cousins, so far I found an aunt who lives in Rome but I will keep searching...
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
18 Jan 10
I haven't had that experience with any relatives. The only time anything similar happened to me was someone I went to school with and I hadn't seen for a long time. I started dating a guy that went to a lot of car shows and things like that. It turned out her husband was a friend of his, so we made contact again after 30 years or so.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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23 Jan 10
I think that is great that you are incontact with your old school friend.I have also found as well as get in contact with alot of my old school friends as well as alot of friends that i used to work with all by using facebook.The only thing that was a downer on facebook was there are a few people on there that i do not want to get in touch with as well as my ex husband,lol.
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
23 Jan 10
I am not seeing that guy anymore so I don't have as much contact with the girl I went to school with. I talk to her on the phone every once in awhile and she always says things about getting together. That is kind of an "I'll beleive it when I see it" kind of thing.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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23 Jan 10
That is great that you are intouch again after all that time of not seeing your friend.I also lost contact with alot of friends as well as alot of old work friends and i have also managed to get intouch with alot of them as well as stay in touch with them and that is also thanks to facebook.We also arrange a time and a place for us all to meet up as well and we have a catch up so that is great.
@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
18 Jan 10
my dad just never kept in touch with his family an moved us away from mymoms so we didn't know to many of our relations so I started working on my family tree an now I am fining family everywhere an we also now keep in touch thou facebook
@jugsjugs (12967)
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23 Jan 10
This is the best thing about facebook as there are alot of people on there that we never knew were relations as well as there are alot of people on there that i have got back in touch with who i went to school with as well as the people i used to work with.I find it soo easy to keep in touch using face book as well,you can also see old photos as well as the recent ones of the relations as well as the friends.
@rbfalife (14)
• United States
18 Jan 10
Wow, that's pretty amazing. I've had a similar case happen with me as well. My sister and I lost contact for a few years due to personal reasons. I didn't actually expect to see her or speak to her ever again for that matter. However, we reconnected after 5 years of our little feud. I took the initiative to call her one day because I had thought about her one day. I mean after all we are family, and if anything, we should be able to rely on one another. So now we are talking once again, we text and talk on the phone and keep in touch via facebook as well. We plan on seeing one another soon, which excites me because I haven't seen her in over 5 years.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
19 Jan 10
Hello Jugs
No, I have not had this particular kind of experience. Many of my closest realatives live nearby, and the rest at least in the same country.
There are cousins, though, with whom I've not spoken for many years, as almost all of my aunts and uncles have now passed away. These are cousins that live all over the country.
Karen
@jugsjugs (12967)
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23 Jan 10
I think that as people get older they find alot more things that they have todo so there is alot less time to keep in contact with other people.With my husband losing his mother he decided that he would get back in contact with the rest of the family as well as he has found more relations as well as the other relations helped him get in contact,this has kept his spirits up a bit.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Jan 10
First off, it is great to hear that your husband has been able to get back in touch with his family after all this time again. We have never had to do that because after my father passed away in 1995, my mother stayed in touch with all my aunts and uncles and my grandmother. In fact, we are just as much a part of their family now as we were when my father was alive. I love the fact that we have never lost touch with them.
@soledadclickz (1106)
• Philippines
20 Jan 10
Hi. I lost contact with most of my relatives when I moved to a new place miles away from our hometown. Also, I have relatives in other countries and provinces. I was able to re-connect with them via social networking sites. Just recently, my family met the family of my father's sister whom we have not seen for more than 20 years. I think this is one of the good reasons for being online.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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23 Jan 10
I think you are right that it is great that we can get in touch as well as keep intouch with people that are miles away as the internet is a great way to find the people that you have lost contact with.My husband has been chatting to a few of the relations on facebook as well as seeing photos of all of the family on facebook.He has now got in touch with even more people that are his family as well as found out what relation they are to him.
@abhiabhiabhiabhi (531)
• India
18 Jan 10
no.not actually......never anything like this happened in my life so far..........am only a college student now i when i was in school i had a few very good friends....we always used to hang out together but now that after school all of us are scatterd to different places,,.thay have changed their phone numbers and we are not in contact...i am in contact with a few of them though through orkut but lost contact with most of my best best friends
@jugsjugs (12967)
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23 Jan 10
I think that as we get older we lose contact with alot of people as we have alot of other comitments that have to come first.I lost touch with alot of my school friends as well as alot of people that i used to work with as well.As for my relations there are only a few of them that are still alive and i rarely get the time to see all the other relations.My husband lost his mother to cancer a few weeks ago and is now back in contact with the Irish part of his family.