One bad habit!

Hiya jill, Yes there are a lot of bad habits in this House but I have to turn a blind eye otherwise I would go nuts. Sometimes I pull them up about it and just lately they seem to take more notice passing phase who knows just hope it lasts for a long time so be it for ever.

wE CAN LOVE THEM W/ALL OUT HEART BUT have things that do drive us bonkers about them, lol. My boys use to the same thing when they lived at home but they don't now, thank heavens. My oldest drives me nuts procrastinating. To me that's just a nice word for lying. My youngest can't visit w/out being on the stupid cell phone while he is here. he is definitely addicted to it.

Yes, he is an adult and should respect your wishes. I would never even open my mom's refrigerator without her permission. My grown up sons or daughter would not open mine either. It's just a respect issue and I don't think it is out of line for you to TELL HIM to use a glass or go back to his own home where he can do whatever he likes. I've learned over the years that if you let your adult children walk all over you, they will. There is just an issue of respect, courtesy and manners here. If he is too lazy to get a glass, then if he were in my home, he would be thirsty! LOL

Haven't seen this happen in many years but my brother use to do this when he was a teenager. Usually it was done because he was in a hurry. No time to take out a glass or cup. My husband has a bad habit of leaving the doors open when he goes outside and it's freezing cold out there. The glass doors fog real fast and the cold air pours in the house. Near our back door which leads the patio is the thermostat. Each time he goes out there and leaves the door open, the heat turns on. Then he complains it's hot in the house. Something else he does is he locks the door but leaves it open when he takes out the trash or to get the paper in the morning. Once of these days the wind is going to close the front door and he will be standing outside in the cold without a key. I'm not always home early in the morning if I have spent the night at our daughter's babysitting. Guess he would have to walk to a neighbor's house and use their phone to call one of our kids to bring their key to let him back inside. Guess it would be a good way to learn. What a visual..lol

In fact yes my hubby and he just did it today. I got so mad too because he was just throwing up yesterday and to drink right out of the OJ not cool. He said he is planning to drink it all so I nagged him all day till it was all gone. He did finish it eventually but I am pretty sure if I had not said anything he would have put it right back in the fridge.

The best advice I can think to give is to do something he hates when you visit him at his home. It doesn't have to be anything particularly nasty but something that will make a point. It may make him think twice before repeating his bad habit when visits you.

Wow!! I could see if he lived there or brang his own and then drank it like this, but to come over to someone's house, even if you are his Mom and start doing this is not polite, and it would definately irritate me. He should be more considerate and think about others especially when others have to drink from it. Personally if it was me seeing someone do this I would probably have to have them take it with them when they leave and buy a new one again.

No doubt his germs aren't any worse than mine, however I would refuse to drink from any container that anyone else has put their lips on. In my opinion it's just wrong yuck. You're a patient Mom because if I was his Mom he would definitely need to use a cup or glass. Just my opinion.

Well, next time he comes over, hide the OJ, and fill up your regular milk carton with buttermilk. That will be quite a surprise, haha! Maybe that will stop him, unless of course, he likes buttermilk. Most people don't. Did you ever ask him not to do that? Ask him if he double dips too, lol! Same difference.

Hi. jillhill. I have seen many guys take a chug out of a milk or a juice cartoon on a televisions show a lot. I always thought that this was disgusting. We have always been taught to pour the drink into the cup, no exceptions! Other people have to get milk, juice out of this same carton and this is not fair that he will not respect that. I would tell him about it. A person should only drink from their carton or jug if they live alone or if they don't ever plan to have anyone over for company that will drink milk or juice from their carton.

thats a huge nono in my family! but my hubby has the annoying habit of biting his nails and im a germaphobe so all i see is germs and bacteria going into his mouth when he does it and then im paranoid he will kiss me and make me sick (i have NO immune system.. i swear some one in another state can sneeze and i will catch it)

Oh Gosh yes.My husband had the most infuriating habit that drove me nuts. He would wander out of the bathroom most mornings and talk t me whilst he was brushing his teeth!! This took severak years to stop him from doing this. I hate to hear anyone brushing their teeth. He would drift intot he bedrom or the kitchen like he had to tell me the most stupidest thing right now - it just couldn't wait?It wasn't an emergency or anthing

Know I don't have anyone in my house doing that. If I ever saw someone doing that I would definitely tell them to please don't do that again. That will leave germs on the container and its just so gross. If someone lives by themselves sure if that is what makes them feel comfortable, but not in a house with other people. I personally don't like drinking from the container or jar like that.

Sounds to me like he's an adult now, and thus it's a bit too late for you to be the parent and teach him correctly. Doing that was unacceptable in my parents home, and thus I was not allowed to do it. If I did, I got in trouble. Big trouble. Which is why I did not do that, and do not do that to this day. But once they are grown ups, you no longer have that parenting authority. It's not like you can send them to their room without dinner, or ground them, or even spank them. They'd ignore you, and you'd look foolish. But if you still want to stop this bad habit, there are a few things you can do. Just like disciplining a child when they are young, word typically do not work. Action does. Super glue the lid on, and watch the fun. Poke holes in the side, so he spills it all over himself when he tips it over his head. Take the cap off, and cut notches around the top. The cuts will be jagged and pointy, and thus not fun to put your lips on, but if the cuts are shallow enough, you can still screw the cap on. Now a word of warning: if your son is not used to you acting like a parent, and demanding he act a certain way, he will not appreciate you suddenly expecting him to abide by your rules when you didn't before. You likely know better than I, how he might react to such pressures to conform. But the alternative is you just accept that you no longer are in a position influence his behavior.

Lol Jill funny enough my Son used to do that to but now he will not do it any more well not in front of me anyway lol

That's disgusting, Jill. And yes, I know people who do that. I'm assuming you've called him on it. I'd bop him on the back of the head the next time he did it. But that is just me. You're more tolerant than I am, I'm sure. As for bad habits that drive me nuts...My dad has a habit of doing what I call "spit sucking" when he chews gum. Do you know what I'm talking about? It's like when a person gets extra saliva from chewing the gum...When he does that I give him a look and tell him to quit spit sucking. It drives me nuts.

Well, I guess it's ok if he's not ill, and no one else in the family minds. But i can totally see why it might drive you bonkers. Some people are just more lax about where their saliva goes! and who they share their saliva with! Ewww.... :) The person I love has a bad habit of not blowing his nose. It really really annoys me so I will bark 'can you please blow your nose on a tissue' instead of sniffling and sniffling?!

If there's nobody else there who drinks it, OK. But otherwise, yuck!

One of my friends came over to stay and did that once! Please note - he did it once!!!! He got a severe telling off! As others have said, in your own home, if you live alone, then fine, but nowhere else! At the end of the day it's just laziness - can't be bothered to go to ALL the effort of getting a glass!

Hello jillhill All have good as well as bad habits. I am a professor, after teaching for so many years, i have acquired the habit of telling,'do you understand;you got my point? etc I just donot know if it is good or bad, some times i tell this to my wife and kids.. My wife says, well i am not your student,and this is not your class... Thank you so much for this nice discussion, cheers God bless you. Prof