Have you ever set up a date for your friend? Help!
By billzehua
@billzehua (573)
China
January 17, 2010 8:34pm CST
My friend has been single for a damn long time, How long? actually he is still a virgin. And there came a good chance for me to set a date for him with my current colleague. As it's not my first time to fit someone to others, I'm so anxious to get it done this time being so afraid to fail again.I am just so expecting to see them becoming a couple coz both of them are quite nice and I do think it's workable for them to be together. Right after they finished their dating, I waited no second to asked how they felt towards each other. However my colleague's mouth was very tight saying'Not to tell!', when I gave her two options to choose, good or bad, still she kept her mouth shut, so I told her I would took her silence as good, then there comes her response:' you can just extend your imagination to whatever you think it is'. Gosh, what does that mean exactly, can any one help me to interprete her attitude, is she into my friend or no? come on, mylotters, help me! I m very worried to get them coupled.
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11 responses
@kindy198636 (471)
• China
19 Jan 10
I think that girl is not very into your friend, maybe a little, but not very much.
I never set up a date for my friend, but my friend set up a date for me, I'm single, so they try to set a date for me, and after that I will tell my friend my feelings, tell them what I think about that guy, it's a little hard to talk with a stranger, we don't know each other, it's a little wired, and the whole dating seems a little embarrass.
@kindy198636 (471)
• China
19 Jan 10
Hey, I posted 386 discussions, and you only have 95, so that's the reason, and about this question maybe you should ask the mylot administrator, and don't say the F word on my comment, that's so rude.
@billzehua (573)
• China
19 Jan 10
eh, m sorry abt that, didn't know you cared it that much, my fault. and hey, im not specially complaining to you abt my low ranking,so your tone is not sounding friendly though
@billzehua (573)
• China
19 Jan 10
Why is that every Chinese has a higher ranking than me, not just little higher, almost too much higher than me, I m also very active in mylot, what the fk!
@yell0wbell (128)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
This is funny. why do you have to put yourself in this. Having a relationship must come from the heart, not from people that will insist you to other people. If you fail then that is not your fault. It was really never meant to be. If they will be a good couple then that is good, but if not you dont have to feel that you fail. What she meant was, not because you see them to be good couples that means that they will be enjoying each others company. You failed maybe because the one you choose for your friend is not her type. So let her find her own relationship you dont have to find someone for her.
@billzehua (573)
• China
18 Jan 10
I guess I'm eager to see my friend to get rid of being single,after all he has been single for long enough.
@yell0wbell (128)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
That is very sweet of you on being eager to find someone that will make your friend happy, but that is not your responsibility. You can only do this if that friend of yours asked help but if not then you dont have to do it. If it is bugging you that your friend stayed single for a long time but he does not look bothered then there is no point for you to be interferring in his affairs. I am just lost is this friend of yours a girl or a boy. I am mixed up already of you using she and he.
@my_january (967)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
Too bad. That's a NO. It is just easy to say Yes if he is interested with your friend. I don't know what it is why you're so anxious to get your friend a partner. I understand that you have the intention to help but sometimes with your act or with what you do, you might hurt your friend's feelings and of other's concerned. Like what happened now, they didn't work out, your friend my get frustrated and might think that there is something wrong with him... I think Love will come naturally to your friend, if it's time. 
@billzehua (573)
• China
18 Jan 10
you are right, I m the peron who is rushing things, I guess i need to back off now
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
18 Jan 10
Hi Bill,
You are a nice person. And girls feeling is a little strange. I think she is waiting for your friend's next invitation to go out again and know each other a little better. Becuase you can't tell much about feelings after the first date, you got to have 2nd, 3rd date so that they really know if they suit each other, don't push them too much, let them go nature and be themselves. 
@billzehua (573)
• China
18 Jan 10
thx, there, vivian.yea, just this morning I have decided to quit meddling things up. But still I won't give up guiding my friend to go further.My help is just down the road!! MY knowledge, know-how, technic won't just simply go wasted.lol
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
18 Jan 10
Thankfully I have no friends in China, so I know you are not talking about me.
However much you might be thinking it is good for you to hook them up, maybe they don't want it? I'm happy being single. I don't need someone else in my life. If some girl comes along, and things move that way, I'll find out when I get there.
But there is nothing wrong with being single. Is it possible you are pushing to hard?
@billzehua (573)
• China
19 Jan 10
Not maybe, and I m 100% sure they want it, just so far not sure whether they are the right cup of tea for each other. I have taken my hands off it.
@starlight70 (316)
• Malaysia
18 Jan 10
That means a 'no'. If it is a good match, she would have told you of her experience. Perhaps she was just trying to be nice to you and not to mention that it was not something she was excited about. She might had the fear that you would tell your friend what she would say to you. So, in order not to make the whole situation a mess, she preferred to keep quiet.
I think it is best to leave the situation alone. You had done your part to get the two of them to meet up. The rest is up to them. Cheers.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
18 Jan 10
You think so? They probably not getting anywhere? I couldn't interpret this message. I just suck on reading woman's heart, and their little bitty hint. Why can't they level up with people and tell what they think? It is hard to guess what they actually thinking.
@starlight70 (316)
• Malaysia
18 Jan 10
Well, he is your friend too. Imagine her position of saying not nice things about your friend to you. She might not want to upset you. So, it is best not to assume that she was trying to make it difficult for you. Just as said, let the situation flows naturally. If she likes him, she can tell him on her own.
@billzehua (573)
• China
18 Jan 10
I would be very sorry and sad if that message is the interpretation of no, and starting from now i will leave things alone, have my prayers.
@lbbaby (489)
• China
18 Jan 10
Well, although I don't have such experience and I don't think I would do that like you, I still think that you're just kind-hearted and want to help your friend. The act you introduced them to each other was right. But after that, that's their own business and I think you'd better just let it be because this is not up to your will. But you can just still ask them how's it going. Just remember: in a playful tone.
@billzehua (573)
• China
18 Jan 10
Yep, I bet i do have to stay away from meddling things.thx, thanks for ur advice
@stand87 (664)
• Bulgaria
18 Jan 10
If you think you can help him, then it's alright. But you should be sure that this will be good for him. We all need somebody to help us a little sometimes! But also we can make the things worse. So be careful in what you're doing with your friend. Try to find what he really wants!
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
18 Jan 10
Ain't you a little bit of overzealous about their relationship? You could just let them be natural, whether they like each other or not. It is their choice. You would know sooner or later. You already done a good deed for them. They should appreciate your good heart, and goodwill.
@billzehua (573)
• China
18 Jan 10
I don't know now, but I m expecting things could go smooth between their two, I know i m starting to become kinda of a mommy in a way
@photosmoke (1)
• India
18 Jan 10
ya my friend is very shy.i gave him a no. of a girl and told him how to start with.now he is more confident and nice in talking without hesitating
