Do your kids drive you crazy?
By tanniebabe78
@tanniebabe78 (2934)
United States
January 17, 2010 9:54pm CST
I know this is a taboo subject and I will probably get virtual tomatoes thrown at me, but mine do! I have always been one of those people that gets along with kids part time. I'm the best babysitter ever, but my own kids drive me up a fruit tree. I love them and would die for them, but sometimes they are just too much. Am I alone in this? How do you handle it when they have pushed your last button?
I tend to step back mentally and count, give myself a pep talk or if I am feeling quite dangerous, I leave the room. That doesn't always work, especially now that I have 5 of them. lol. But I do what I can to deal.
9 responses
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
18 Jan 10
My darling little Joslynn can be quite the handful. And there are days she wants to make me scream... but I've realized those are the days where I have a set agenda in my head of how I hope the day goes. Everyone up at blah blah, get this cleaned up, I have to get at least one load of laundry done, then we have to go to the store... and just, nothing goes right. Everyone sleeps in, the house is messier than I thought, and everything goes downhill, in my mind anyway.
But its when I have other things in my head frustrating me when I notice that my daughter is driving me up the wall, so to speak.
So I just kind of quietly do what I need to do - somedays I just ask her to go play in her playroom for a few minutes and I'll come get her... or all of a sudden its BATH TIME! Because I know we can spend some positive time together after we've been frustrating each other all day.
I don't think you're alone at all. And I'm sure every parent out there experiences it at one point in their parenthood! You'll be fine - I promise. lol
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
18 Jan 10
I haven't had to scream for awhile now - which is nice... and I'm going tot ry and stay away from it. As you said, I don't want my little lady to be afraid of me. But you better believe she's going to respect me!
I don't scream anymore, as I said.. hehe... but I do use a very strong assertive voice when I ask her to do or not to do something. She knows when I mean business, and even tho I'm not yelling, she can still see when I'm getting angry and then she normally caves.
But I've found that most of the time, if she's out of control by any means, I can usually get her to talk to me about what's going on. She's a very reasonable toddler! She understands what she's doing wrong - and she's admitted to doing some of the bad things because she was mad, etc. So we've really been a good team here lately... and its showing! I love it!
@tanniebabe78 (2934)
• United States
18 Jan 10
I admit that I do yell a lot. However, unless it is a serious offense that can hurt them, they get plenty of warnings before they get the yelling. I can only be patient so long. And my kids range from 2 to 10. So there is no telling some of them to go to their room. Especially my 2 year old. She has to have me in sight at all times.
@pradesh13 (287)
• India
18 Jan 10
I have a daughter of 2 years old, i have fun with her, only time when I go crazy is during night when I feel asleep but she needs milk or change her nappy....otherwise rest is fun.
@tanniebabe78 (2934)
• United States
18 Jan 10
To me that is the fun stuff. Just wait until she starts getting a personality and some attitude. That is when the real fun begins. lol. They are funny though with some of the things they come up with. Kid logic!
@takkea (393)
• United States
18 Jan 10
The only thing that my son is driving me crazy with now is the fact that he refuses to clean up his toys and tries to play with all of them at the same time. He is otherwise well behaved, but it drives me crazy seeing all his toys around.
@tanniebabe78 (2934)
• United States
18 Jan 10
Oh let's not get started on the cleaning up after themselves! Other than the 2 year old, the rest of them have NO excuse as far as I am concerned. And if we had the space, I'd be taking the crap on the floor and putting it away until they can learn to clean up after themselves.
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
20 Jan 10
I couldnt agree with you more. I have 4 at home so I know exactly how you feel. My oldest daughter will be 6 in just a few weeks and she thinks she likes to run the show. She loves to back talk and has no respect for any adults in the house. There are times when I have had just too much and ask a friend come to deal with my children because I've had my last button pushed long ago. For me what works, I get them to their rooms on their beds they can usually have 3 toys and I set an alarm for about a half hour to an hour. (I know seems long but it's what works for us) Once that alarm goes off they are allowed to go back to playing. They are usually good for about 3-4 hours before they are back in time out. It's rough but I have no other ideas on how to handle it or get them out of being terrors.
@smarticle (25)
• United States
18 Jan 10
My kids sometime drive me crazy!!! Like how they don't clean up the toys, or make a mess on the floor while eating, etc...But i gotta say I love them, they are so cute, their my little angels.
@Jennifer_lee_88 (589)
• United States
19 Jan 10
My mom still drives me crazy... but i drive her crazy too. i think its normal
@my_january (967)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
I have 1 and he's 5 years old now. My only worries is that my father (his grand father) tends to spoil him. I go to work eaveryday so when I leave him with my mom and dad, they tend to spoil him like giving him what he wants, so when we are together, I think everything changes for him, and that makes me crazy, he is going to school and because my father allow him to play and play, he becomes lazy doing his school works. Sometimes he throws this disturbing tantrums and I wanted to hit him (i just stopped myself or walk out of the room) every time he is acting this way. But of course I love him so much that I don't want to hurt him and as much as possible I wanted to just talk it over with him, make him realize what is okay and what's not. I believe that he can already understand me even at that young age, because I can see that he knows when I am already mad, and he eventually stop and behave. Sometimes he just goes too much and can control his tantrums that's why.
@Andrepc13 (422)
• Jamaica
18 Jan 10
lol im 19 and i still love being a handful to my parents thats what u guys get for having us lol... kidding i love my parents but its only natural to make them upset once in a while lol it might sound harsh but thats just the life of a kid to drive parents nuts until we get mature and then guess what we are no longer kids lol, i get good grades and love to do sports and im like my families comedian but that life wouldnt be great without giving a little trouble once in a while. but if he kids are way out of control like how u describe then there might be something wrong with your parenting skills because even if i do give trouble i know wheren and when to stop. sometimes its good to just sit doen and talk to a child and let him/ her know how u feel. believe i was rebelious until my parents just told me how they feel without getting angry and i just started listening..
@cmhjjh (98)
• United States
18 Jan 10
I don't think that you are alone with the kids driving you crazy. Every normal mom has that feeling now and then and if they don't I want to know their secret. I love my kids sooooooooooooooooo much but everyday at least once a day they drive me nuts it may not be for a long period of time but they do. I have learned to really enjoy the moments that are great and enjoy them to the fullest to help me through the how many times do I have to ask you to pick up your toys moments or go to bed now 2 hours after bedtime.