if you were misunderstood...

Well, i'm always unique, if not, how am i able to stand out among all of the comments u received in your post.. lol =D BUT there are also times, the closer we are to somebody, the more we explain, the worse it gets, when they refused to listen, or listen for the sake of listening but yet not getting it in.. lol =D As long as misunderstanding arises, nobody wanna listen to explainations, for they rather believe in rumours.. lol =D

well, you are not just standing out in my posts but to others posts as well...that's why they like commenting back on you while skipping the others! hehe nah, if they refused to listen, then no sense in explaining at all...its just like talking to a deaf! and its difficult to explain to someone who already have his/her judgment...they just believe on what they want to believe coz they feel that all you are going to say next are nothing but lies...hehe

haha...if i am not mistaken, you have a different answer to most of the people here... hehe coz usually if its someone close to us, they will take time to explain..but you... but you are right, if they are close to us & know us they should understand us...but there are really times that misunderstanding do comes our way, right? even with just simple words or jokes other people even those who are close to us do misunderstood us... well yes, the more we explain the more mistake we get and the more we get misunderstood...hehe

that's the spirit! haha "ang taray ng lola mo!"

hello msfrancisco! yeah, sometimes our looks do intimidate other people and sometimes people misunderstood us based on our physical appearance, i have experienced that as well when i am in highschool. one of my classmates said that i look like so snobbish, and she said that she don't know what i am thinking when i am looking at her! huh! she said that in our open forum in the class and so i get the chance to explain myself...and i am just happy that we also ends up being in good terms although not really friends... i guess its really a good skill to have this good public relation, but for me, i see your face as a very friendly, approachable and you do have a bright face... although you also looks 'sosyal'

as long as i believe i know myself better than them i don't care what they will say. if i am offending others for my looks and my actions that's the time that i need to do something to improve on it but if i am being scrutinized because of baseless comments and they don't know me-------sorry na lang... i don't care!

hello aerous... yes you are right, sometimes we also need to explain ourselves to make things clear..but if no matter how much we try and still they can't understand us or refuse to understand then...that would be enough and not our problem anymore... yeah, if we know that we have hurt someone with our action...then i guess its just right to explain ourselves and talk to them so that whatever it is, we can fix things as early as possible...misunderstandings do happen due to differences in beliefs and personality... thanks...

yes i agree...and sometimes there are some who even they understand they just refuse to understand or they just have a close mind to some things. i know those people you are talking about & i also don't like it. those who are know it all and feeling smart even if they are not which sometimes falls on being a bragger & a liar... just to out smart other people...

Yup, my friend. Because not all of us have the same ability to understand. Sometimes there are people acted like they know everything don't like to accept that there are people much smarter than them...

very well said tallygirl... and its good if our effort do really works well... and i guess you are good that you can actually shifts your mood when time calls... yeah, depends on who they are, and oh well i agree we can't make everybody to like us and same with us that we can't like everybody...huh! i like your point there...thanks well said.

yeah yeah... i definitely agree with you that we should think first before we speak...but too bad, its not that easy at times...hehe there are times that we are really get affected by our emotions and so we sometimes say & do things without thinking that most of the time bring some troubles to us... but like you, as much as possible, i would want to think first before saying or doing anything... i guess you really have a positive & clear mind...

Thank you for your kind comments! I think the world would be a much better place if we tried to give everyone the benefit of the doubt when we hear them say something. If we assumed at first it was a kind or nice comment rather than a negative one, things would likely be alot easier! Also I try to think before I speak so that helps me out alot!

hello there... everything depends on the situation & on the person who misunderstood us... some are worth our explanation but some just don't deserve it...and some will understand us upon explaining but some will refuse to understand...huh! well, actually when we are already on the situation...we will gonna feel if we need to explain or not... thanks!

oh i see... ok i understand you. well you are right to think about yourself first, that way we can also protect & defend ourselves from people who tend to took us for granted...

Hiya ckyera, Well I have found myself in those sort of situations before but now I think about myself first and then others otherwise I would have lost my mind years ago with the relatives and Family I have. I have put a big space between them and me and that way they can disagree with themselves and fight it out between them too.

Its really tiring Vi and annoying! That's why now, I don't explain much to people, if they don't like me, so be it...haha. Sometimes, some people just didn't give us a chance, just didn't give time to know us more, they already judge us based on what they see or based on what they just hear... huh! very difficult to deal with people...and its really true that no matter what, we can never please everybody!

But on my part, as much as possible I try not to judge people whom I just know based on their looks or whatever things that i hear about them, its because I want to prove it to myself. I have one friend who've always been mistaken for being so snub , "sossy" or whatsoever, They say that she's like this or that... but when I met her and get the chance to talk to her, she become one of my closest friend and I have proven to myself that she is not like what other people say...

Yes, it can really be tiring and annoying as well. like you, i seldom explain myself if i don't feel the need to. just be it, i don't care if they like me or not... People are like that, we do judge others easily without even taking time for them to prove themselves...it's just natural, but that natural can be hurtful to others...

HI dolce_vita! Yes that's true that its indeed difficult to explain ourselves to some people who already judged us... its really true that we can't please everybody...

If they aren't willing to listen, just leave it like that. You tried your best. More importantly, how do you feel about this? If you aren't afected to much about it, then it's not a problem. However if it does bug you, maybe you should find a solution. When I was in high school, it also happenned to me that I was quiet. I didn't talk much except for my best friends. People though that I was snob or that i was sort of emo. But at the end, i am the one who is most at loss. I was simply shy and it has became a habit for me to be quiet. But slowly i decided to change and smile at people. Know that when you smile at people, they will smile back at you. Talk to people and they will talk back at you. Just follow the path you are comfortable with.

yeah, thanks for the advises, i appreciate. sometimes even if i don't want to explain myself, i just have to, specially when it also affects my husband & other people around... but anyway, actually i am someone who always smile but i just don't usually talk so much to people, just a simple hi & hello is enough for me...hehe and you are right sometimes i am the one who loss in the process coz i ends up with less friends...

hello ladysakurax! yay! that's even more difficult when we try to explain ourselves then the other party refuse to listen...or they already have their judgement against us... coz no matter what or how we try we can never make them believe coz they just believe what they want to believe! well, some do listen to me when i explain myself but what i just don't know is if they take my explanation or if they believe nor understand what i am saying! but anyway, what matter most is that i have done my part and at least i try...i know that i am not doing anything wrong and so its not my problem anymore if they refuse to believe...

i will let you borrow mine if you want...

haha...thanks i guess i really need it!

hello daddy! yup! i agree with you! one is enough! haha its difficult to explain ourselves again & again and its even more difficult to explain ourselves to people who seems don't understand what we are saying...hehe or those who already judged us just based on what they saw... i wish i have a recorder here...haha

hello shreed... yeah, i agree. to our loved ones & friends, i also feel that we have to explain things to sort things out and make the relationship better...coz sometimes or usually these misunderstanding cause bad things in the relationship...so better to explain ourselves as early as possible to save the relationship from troubles... thanks!

hello shibham! yes you are right, we know ourselves better more than anyone else...well i guess as long as we are not hurting anyone, just stay the way we are, but if this already hurt us as well and damage our reputation, then i guess there's also nothing wrong in defending ourselves...

To give a protection to our reputation, we have to maintain defensive attitude as well.

agree yaar...we cannot just let other people hurt our reputation just like that....there will always be a time for us to speak out and defend ourselves...

hello lovelyn... yeah, same here, although there are times that i do open a conversation to other people, coz i have to... but most of the time, i just have few words to people...hehe i don't like to stay long in the group just to have talks of just anything, i rather stay at home. but too bad, some misunderstood it as being a snub..oh well, i have my reasons why and if they can't understand it, not our problem anymore...we know ourselves and as long as we are not hurting anyone... just stay the way we are... yeah, few true friends are better than bunch of hypocrite so called friends...

yeah i get you...huh! only if i can really just ignore them...but with the situation that i am in, i have to be always or have to appear as friendly to everybody! huh! seems that i don't have the right to have bad mood...hehe but sometimes, i don't really care, this is me and if they misunderstood some of my acts, then sorry, sometimes i do explain myself if i know that i have hurt someone but if i am the one being hurt, i just choose to keep it to myself or just open up my feelings to my husband...huh!

haha...good bf! well its good of you that you always try to explain yourself to those who misunderstood you, its a good thing specially if it brings better relationship between people... what's just difficult is to explain ourselves to people who don't want to listen...hehe and to those who have already judged us.

hello sreekala! i agree with you, but with me, i don't really try to convince people to believe on what i am saying...as long as i'm done explaining myself, im done. now if they still don't believe on me and just believe on what they want, then i just leave it to them...huh! so difficult & sad... specially if you are living a life that's exposed to many people and that you are usually 'watched' by them...

hello elitess... yeah, some things really need to be explained, coz of course not all the time we can understand others due to different personalities & way of thinking... for people whom we know and know us, i guess its worth explaining specially if its the way to make the relationship better & go smoothly...

haha...tough girl! and so what are you doing? just ignore them and let them have a feast on talking about you? wow! you are really tough not to be affected on those issues...maybe they also get tired talking about you and still they don't get your attention...huh! but have you tried defending yourself? or you just let them do those things and you just mind your own business? but anyway, there will always be someone who will understand you and will defend you against those who are making stories about you...

haha...yeah lunatics! that's the best word to describe those kind of people! well those people are just really envious or jealous of you. hmmmm now i am more intrigue with you...haha maybe they are really seeing something from you that they can't stop themselves from talking about you... are you sure you are not a celebrity? haha its really irritating when some people acts as if they were so good, so smart & pretty while in reality they look like...hmmmmm ewan! i think you are doing the right thing of just ignoring them, you should not go down to their level...hehe but there are times that i think we should learn to fight back to defend ourselves specially if they are already hitting below the belt!

Most of the time i ignore them even they trash talk in front of me. I just smile at them and leave. I know they are only gutsy in doing those acts because they are in group, they are totally coward. Papa told me that never pay attention tho those kind of people. He always put in my mind that they are insecure of what i have that is why they're doing their best to pull me down(it may not be money or material things). My 2 closes friends are the one who always in range to defend me but i always told them never get back to them and they are only wasting their energy. In time, they get tired. I always laugh at them(my friends) because they are the one affected. There's one instance that i pass by the hall way and they started whispering and laughing and i stop in front of them and told them what's eating them and the act that they're showing to me is a sign of coward people.(It's so funny because they're trying to portrait the movie "mean girls".lol As if they are pretty. [i]mas maganda pa nga mga kasambahay namin eh.) [/i] Anyway, the stories never stop, actually. I become known not only in my university but also in other schools. Guys see me negative due to the rumor they created. Other girls hated me also, even strangers to my eyes joined the flow. Well, there are people who are like that, I pity them because they let the demon eat them. Now, I'm idle. I know they are still looking for me in social network sites. They will never extract anything from my friends because they haven't seen me for many years. hahahahaha My partner helped me to live a quiet life. But, i can't avoid if she get's affected by those stories and i can't blame her if she get back to them.lol She gets irritated at me sometimes because i'm doing nothing to defend my self from those lunatics.

hello danitykane! yeah, same here...sometimes some people don't deserve any explanation from us...hehe like what you have said, its their problem, not ours... and yeah, depends on the situation...coz there are times that we need to clear things up coz if not, it may affect us & our life negatively... huh!

hello ms hazelrose! nice to see you here. yes, we cannot really please everybody, and sometimes what seems to be right to us, might be wrong to them...but anyway, just like what you have said, we know ourselves more than anybody else... and actually usually those who misunderstood us are those people who don't really know us and those that are judgmental... i guess. thanks friend!

hello jhaycee... am i really a quiet person? hmmmm, i can answer right away coz different people have different impression on me, to those who don't really know me, they see me as a quiet person, hehe i seldom talk yeah, and just have few words for them, specially to those whom i just know... but to those who know me for long, they find me as a talkative person...haha sometimes i also get confused. but sometimes even my mom do misunderstood me. coz sometimes i am really quiet that i don't like talking to anyone...and they think that i am angry what they don't know is what i am really feeling those days... yeah, depends upon the situation... thanks.