to love or to be loved?

Thanks for the BR. I should add that it is easy to say break up but can be hard to do. He told me he did not love me but I deluded myself into thinking that if I could become the person he was looking for then maybe it would work. Some people try to change the other, I tried to change myself. The trouble is that he had no idea what he was looking for so I had no idea what to become. He did all the right things in that he let me go but I did not let me go. So when he came back I was willing to start again. This happened once more but that time I realised that I no longer felt the same about him. Oh the physical attraction was still there but I saw him for what he really was, a little boy who was looking for something he would never find because he had no idea what it was. That was when I walked out. It is hard to let go sometimes but it can also be for the best. When you are in a one sided relationship with someone you think you love deeply it blinds you. I have learned the hard way that you cannot change the other person or change yourself to match them. You have to be who you are and one day the person who is right for you will turn up. While you are waiting there are lots of other fish to experiment with. Each experiment is a learning experience that teaches you what you want and what you don't.