Do you tell your family background to your online friend?

telling family background - telling identity
@amyson (3498)
Philippines
January 18, 2010 8:33am CST
i have many friends online but i tell a few of my family background but not at all of the details.i still keep my family privacy in many times.i do not easily trust someone online especially if we have not see in person.i did not give my full identity to my online friends.do you tell all of your identity and family background online?
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23 responses
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
rarely unless i know this person well and usually i only tell half of the truth as many are having bad intention so to be safe less at all.
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@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
19 Jan 10
hi amyson, it is some what not safe to inform family background to give the online friends,but good and bad also in online friends,mostly i trust online friends,some two or three persons from Telugu community friends moving with me with more affectionately with out any hesitation,i am also doing the same with them,have a nice day
@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
23 Jan 10
hi amyson, mostly there are 4 Telugu known friends in mylot to me and all are ladies,some times we may talk in telugu language in mylot,telugu language in english script,that will be some interesting to others,i can share my family details with those friends,i can trust them,because all are ladies,have a nice day
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
yes if you seen the person and meet in person i guess its ok to give some of my family background but not at all only a few details.i should keep it to my family members and relatives.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 10
Some people, once I get to know them first...
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
yes, trust is given when you already feel at ease with them..
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
22 Jan 10
Once she became my friend even on line, I tell her or him my true identity and as we go along, we share our family backgrounds. trusting someone make better friends.
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
Yes, when you develop trust to the person and the same way she need to reveal her true self the same way you reveal yourself. in the same way you develop trust just like in offline friendship. despite the distance with each others you enjoy each other chat and could share something about your views in life. now days having online friends is good as we could know each other cultures and she the same way exchanges our views.
• Boston, Massachusetts
18 Jan 10
Hi Amyson, I observed privacy. as much as possible i screened things that i need to share. i am more open as it relates to experience/s that's worth sharing. maybe it's obvious here in mylot how i am vocal with the kind of education my special kids are having right now, my views on family, relationships, career, etc. but those basic information about me and my family---fairly screened!
• Boston, Massachusetts
19 Jan 10
at least we are on the same boat amy. thanks for imparting your life with us. in partial still you shared a lot!
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
yes i am same like you..i share my views and experience but i also keep my family background on privacy.though i have nothing to hide or something but its ok to be safe.
@shalome (178)
• India
21 Jan 10
amyson, These are all deponds upon our own will and wish, we can give gist but certain extense, once you get full confidence about that person than think it over and share it, but should be on safer side always it is good. We should not allow one should take advantage with us.
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
yes we need to build trust and fro other people it takes a lot of time before they could reveal their true identity. as internet is full of false person and stalkers. it is not good to trust anyone until you have try to communicate in person and know each other for a long time. i heard that it is not good to trust any person since they have different motives so it is best to reveal only true identity to those you trust.
@derek_a (10874)
18 Jan 10
I talk about my family in general conversations to my friends on line, but I don't speak of private family matters. - Derek
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
yes that could be possible.but i still keep it private and i just talk on simple things exceptional on my family history.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
20 Jan 10
Well, it all depends.. If i known that person for a certain period of time, i will start to share my family details along with them.. BUt not too much though.. haha =D There are times, whereby we do feel comfortable with that particular someone, but still, prviacy is needed at some stages, in order to protect ourself or our family?? hehe ^_^ BUt in terms of identity, i dun see the need to hide, for it's supposed to be opened, since we are out to make frenz ^_^
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
yes same with me it is so hard to trust people now day . they tend to abuse and pretend an honest to goodness person but in reality they have evil intention. it is hard to trust anyone especially when it comes to personal details. since i love my privacy, i love to limit my personal information listed only to those who i known for years. since some hackers could use my identity or copy it so it best to stay simple. stick only with people you could trust and be wary of strangers.
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
18 Jan 10
My identity, as in real name, I do use, since it is my writing byline. Family life and personal life, I will tell general details, but not private things and not my phone number, address, or things like that. Karen
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
good for you peacefulwmn i should do that.thank you for the advice..
• Pamplona, Spain
19 Jan 10
Hiya amyson, Not even the tip of the iceberg do I tell anyone really I don´t. I might make the odd comment here and there but nothing that is of importance to anyone just remarks that don´t mean a thing. Not my style to tell everyone about myself.
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
ok that is right, you could have offline friends and some who have online friends are old friends too but they transfer to other places so i maintain communication with them. in terms of adding strangers such as joining dating site or in social networking site. for the sake of privacy it is best to remain anonymous to protect your right to privacy.
@zhyair (89)
• China
18 Jan 10
Just like you~
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
thank you for sharing..
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
I tell most of the good ones. The not so good ones are best kept in private. Usually i happen to disclose some of my family background when you post to a discussion which is somewhat related to your real life. You can't really help it sometimes especially when you are citing examples. But of course, you only disclose things that you are comfortable sharing.
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
hi ybong,yes i do not tell my bad experiences and trials in my family even my personal experiences i choice to tell the one that is good otherwise everyone knows all about me.i need to keep some of the the details in myself for safety reason.
• Philippines
20 Jan 10
No i don't because i want to put limits to the information i share online about myself because i want to keep my privacy. Besides there are scams in the internet and in other countries there are facebook members who were victimized by scams.
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
20 Jan 10
yes your right i also limit my information in facebook we dont know we might be a victim next so i take precaution on not giving my family background.i also do not put my photos i social network because others may take advantages of it by photo shop.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
Sometimes I do, but at other times, no. Very often though, I share my family background as I see nothing wrong with it. However, as there are loonies and crazies out there especially in chat rooms, I sometimes pretend to be someone who I'm not, just for the fun of it.
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
Same with me i also limit putting personal information in the internet. since they are people who like to stole other people identity., some only befriend you to take advantages and really have evil motives. so everyone need to be clever and only befriend those people you already get acquainted in real lives for safety purposes.
@ElicBxn (63568)
• United States
18 Jan 10
I don't have anything to hide in my background, its generic enough to tell - but I don't tell most people my identity
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
yes i think it difficult to give trust to online friend.i just take a lot of precaution telling my family background and my full identify.i want to be safe as much as i can.
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@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
Nope, not right away. It's quite different to share offline information to an online friend. There has to be a deeper connection somehow or maybe the online friends have become close enough to be able to talk about their daily lives or anything under the sun. This would require time for the friendship to grow. When that is already established there would be a form of trust between the friends that even offline vital information are mentioned all the while exercising caution that this information will not be leaked through anything. Of course this trust and friendship might possibly go beyond being online and thus move forward into being an offline friendship. Maybe keeping in touch through phones or mobile messages. Eventually, it would be inevitable for these friends to meet in person even just once in their lifetimes.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
18 Jan 10
Hi amyson! I do not give all of my personal identity online, but I do discuss things about my family in that happened to me during my life. That is part of the discussions that we do have here at myLot. We discuss things that have happened to us in our life and sometimes we do discuss personal family matters. It is ok to do this because no one knows exactly who we are or where we live. I feel very comfortable discussing these kinds of things with my friends here! And it does help me and others to get help with our problems too~
@daliaj (5674)
• India
19 Jan 10
I don't mind telling my family background to my online friend if it is a part of the discussion in Mylot. I don't tell my true family background to somebody I meet in an online chatting room. Even if I write my true opinions on various discussions stating my family background, I try to keep the privacy of my family. Good discussion.
@b4balaji (410)
• India
18 Jan 10
Yes. But not so soon. And it takes a lot of risk in life to to do such a thing. But I will tell about my family and things, but never give my phone number or address or any other contact details. I usually dont chat too much to people online, but when i do, I make sure that I know everything about them. So inorder to know them, you have to introduce yourselves to them. But that doesnt mean you have to tell all your secrets.
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
yes it takes a lot of risk telling my personal background and my family background to something i didnt meet in real life.i take so much precaution about it i never tell my secrets i also didnt put my whole address in any social network site.
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
No, i don't give family background like names where they live and where do they work to my online friends. I guess we all need to take precautions, nowadays, it is really hard to trust someone we don't know or see in real person.