Friends vs. Family
By mdaher88
@mdaher88 (16)
Canada
January 18, 2010 9:31am CST
Here's the deal, I've come to a conclusion this summer, that what makes me who i am today are more my friend's entourage that what my family provided me with. Of course they were the one to chose in a way who i would be seeing in my youth but i'd mostly say that the ones that affected me the most are my closest friends.
Do people feel the same ? or am i the only who sees that my most important things in life are my friends?
4 responses
@sarthakmittal (83)
• India
19 Jan 10
One thing which i felt that we are more open to our friends than our family means we share our deep secrets to our friends only and not with our family and that difference makes us more close to our friends. I think our family members are not wrong they are right on there own part. And for your question i must say that the friends which encourage us to do good in our life are really best friends. And family members are not able to encourage us properly or in that way which we want is because they don't know you properly as you tell all your things to your friends which get to know what you want and what you don't so my dear family is important on one part but GOOD friends are important on other part too. Without family i think you are like a lonely person seriously... :)
@sarthakmittal (83)
• India
20 Jan 10
You know for everything to accept in our life means if u want to understand your parents and your friends too you have to be open in your thoughts means you have to accept all negative and positive points of everyone... like if u dont like that your parents strict on you, take it easily and understand them as they want you to be happy... :)
Hope you get my point
@mdaher88 (16)
• Canada
20 Jan 10
True, and i do cherish my parents :) i think that you cannot be who you are without both. I was just thinking who influenced me the most... On my end it was and still is my friends. Although i want to understand the people that are tightly connected to their family and less with their friends. I want to know where i'm different. I love knowledge and this is part of what i seek
@shuyin101 (206)
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
for me it's a little bit of both of them.
I run to my friends if I need help about my family problems and vice versa. My friends could appreciate me more than what my family can due to the generation gap and stuff but there are times that friends may become a bad influence or too much, that is the time where the family comes to the rescue. after all friends are just like you (usually) in terms of age and experience and you need someone older to guide you. But we pretty much need both family and friends since there are times where your family is better and those times where your friends are better.
@Torunn (8607)
• Norway
19 Jan 10
You chose your friends, not your family :-) Some members of my family I like and spend time with, others I do my best to ignore. Some of them ignore me too, but then there's the ones that desperately want to have contact with you just because you are family. You might not have anything in common with them, but you are family and therefor have to spend time together *sigh*
@mdaher88 (16)
• Canada
20 Jan 10
hahahaha apparently i would see that this person annoys you :P but i know what you mean. In every family you have that one person who wants to stay in contact but that you find it hard to stay with :D
But i don't really focus on saying you shouldn't follow family at all, on the contrary, but well my friends seem a bit more important.
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
18 Jan 10
I feel a person's experience with both the groups depend on how his life is made. I believe we are all individuals. Some choose to follow family's way and some friends' way. But there is also a middle ground between the two extremes that we can choose. I picked that middle ground. I have a bit of influence from the family as well as friends. But at the end of the day, I make my own decisions. Also it is important to remember that those two groups won't be with us forever. Friends part and family members get busy with their own lives while we look to build our own lives in a different place.
Nothing is permanent. Everything comes to an end someday.
