have you ever had an abortion

Although I have never had abortion before, I know it is really cruel. I have seen pictures of lacerated baby bodies came out from women's womb. It is horrible. If me and my girlfriend has a baby accidentally, we are definetley gonna keep him/her. I know it is hard for you to keep another baby, try to find someone that wants a baby but can not have one.(physical disability) Try go through some kind of organizations or government, people will help you. Good Luck! :)

I don't think there are too many people on this site that will step up and answer this for you... so I will :) I've actually had 2. Both for my own reasons of course - but it wasn't that bad. I think sitting in the waiting room was the worst part of it all. Its one of those things that you know all the girls around you are there for the same reason... but no one is generally proud of what they're doing. I can honestly tell you that I haven't had any nightmares or psycological damage or anything because of it if you're worried about that at all. I did what I had to do at that time and I do not regret it. Luckily we still have a choice in the matter - and I fear it won't be that way forever. Just remember - there are way more people who will look down on you for having one done then stand by you. But it is ultimately your choice. Not everyone is in your shoes, if you know what I mean. I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide to do. If you have anymore questions - let me know :)

I would not ever want to have an abortion. I would choose to keep my baby or in a difficult situation have my baby adopted. I hope that you will keep your baby. Often a lady that has an abortion regrets it afterwards. Depression is suffered years after the abortion by some ladies. If a lady is less than 9 weeks pregnant she can take some pills and then bleed. That is a medical abortion. If a lady is over 9 weeks pregnant she will have to have a surgical abortion. The later in the pregnancy the more challenging that would be. I have a 14 year old son, a 2 year old son and a baby daughter. I can say that having a baby is so wonderful even with a wide age gap. I know your husband is the one hoping you will have an abortion. I suggest you watch some abortion material on the Internet. Then you will know exactly how abortions at different stages of pregnancy are performed. You might also wish to read how ladies feel after they have had an abortion. Some of them feel depressed about what they did, abort their baby. Good luck. Take care.

Hi, popopop......... You should not terminate your pregnancy because of what your husband feels. You should just have this baby. Get rid of him if that is the case, but don't get rid of your baby.. This baby deserves a chance to live. So what, if he is too old to start over, you aren't. If he can lay down with you, he can have more children. If he does not want any more babies, then he should not sleep with you. I am sorry to put it so strongly to you this way, but you need to do what is best for you and not him! This is your body.

I have had 2 abortions and a miscarrage. I regret nothing. I was young, uneducated, and alone. I did what I felt was best for my life and my future. As for physical issues...none. And I have 2 happy, healthy kids now. As for psychological issues...none. The only time it really crosses my mind is when it's brought up in conversation, on tv, etc. It was not real painful. Like it was said earlier...the waiting room is probably the worst part. Good luck to you and your decision. Think about it and do whats best for you. This is YOUR decision and do not let other peoples opinions sway your decision either way.

Here where i sit right now, reading your plea for help, i actually want to cry. I am not going to tell you what to do. It is still your choice at the end of the day. But i am going to ask you. Do you want this child? Have you and your husband really sat down and talked about this? If you did and you stand by your desicion, that is fine. All i ask, reconsider. Get someone to adopt this baby. Please. I cannot judge you and believe me, i never will. Things happen with a reason but we are never sure what that reason is. But please talk to your husband about adoption. That is all i ask. Their are people who cannot have children and believe me, you will make someone very happy, to become a parent.

Why have an abortion? Why not have the baby, and have it adopted by someone nice? I am only really in favour of abortions in cases of the mother or child being ill, or a rape, otherwise, I think adoption is a great option. I'm not saying this in a personal way, I'm saying this in a very general way. I'm not anti-abortion, I like to think I am pro-coice, but thhe idea of an abortion because the child is "not wanted," "an accident" scares me. Who knows? The baby may be born, and you and your husband might change your minds. Just a thought, that's all. And for goodness sake, I hope he goes to his appointment to get fixed. LOL Hubby's ex-wife had him fixed, so I never had to worry about this.

I have had one. My experience was not horrible. You usually call and make an appointment. You cant eat or drink for 12 hours before the procedure. On the day of the procedure you come in and fill out paperwork and wait to be called. You most likely have the option to be put to sleep or local anethesia. I chose being put to sleep. They do it through a need in your arm, by the time to get to three you are out. When you wake up about 5 minutes later you are in the recovery with a heating pad and blanket they give you care instructions. then you are on your way home. I don't have any emotional scarring of things like that. Hopefully you will find other people to support you with any decision you make.

I think everyone is entitled to their own opinions and I just want to share my point of view of the matter. No I haven't had an abortion and I don't think I ever will. I think that even though the fetus is not yet fully developed, it is still a life and God allowed that life to be formed so there must be a reason for it. And since it is a life, abortion is actually equals to murder. Some people doesn't think of it that way, but I do and I don't think I will be able to live with the guilt of taking the life of my own child.

No, I never have. My ex did not want kids either when I found out I was pregnant with my youngest. I was not planning on any more as I already had 3 that I was raising from a previous marriage. I was single and not even living with this guy. After much thought, I decided to keep the baby. She is 15 now and I can't imagine my life without her. I have no regrets at all in my decision. It is your choice as to what you decide to do. Let it be your choice and not your hubby's. Think it thru and make sure it is going to be a choice that you can live with. If you do it just because your hubby wants you to then you could easily end up resenting him later for it which could have a negative impact on your marriage.

I feel sorry for you. I never had an abortion in my life and it is soemthing which I never want to do in my life. My husband and I were very tensed when my period was late for one and half weeks once upon a time. We tried home pregnancy tests twice and the result was negative, but we were still worried becuase the period was late.

For me not to abortion because it is the sin top GOD because the baby inside your tomb part of his creation then it is his treasure because GOD created all things specially the baby.

No, I haven't. And I think that's not good thing. Maybe you and your husband must take responsible for that. Because I think, abortion is a bad thing and that's really wrong if I do that. Hope the best for you and your husband.

Please don't kill a human life. You can always go through with the pregnancy and put the baby up for adoption. There are always other options besides abortion. What is 9 months out of your life to help save a human life? There are many people out there who want children so bad but can't because of infertility issues. My sister-in-law is one of them. Please think long and hard before you make this decision. Also, my husband would not be alive right now if his mother had listened to all the people around her telling her to get an abortion. He survived it, and I am so thankful for that. You never know...

First thing. I haven't. I've never been pregnant. I also never want to be pregnant. in all honesty though, I know that if I fell pregnant, the way my brain works I would have the baby and do my best for them. if how protective I am over even just friends is any guide, I know that would kick in over anyone I saw as "mine" and I don't think I could see an unborn baby as not mine, and not under my protection. however. I am not anti abortion. (I'm not pro abortion either. in my opinion there's no such thing. no one does it because they WANT an abortion.) it doesn't sound like you are personally against having a child. you say that your husband doesn't want another. so you need to think about what you want in this situation, and talk to him about it. you ARE pregnant. that's a different situation to whether or not you will actively seek pregnancy. even if he does not want another child, it's not to say that he'd want any pregnancies already existing aborted. you really need to talk, and listen, and come to the descision that works for both of you, whatever that is. abortion isn't an easy way out, but raising a baby you don't want isn't easy either. you need to decide which solution is better for the two of you, and to decide together. at present there is an unplanned life. I honestly believe it is your choice whether to carry that life until it can survive outside your body, but you really need to make that descision carefully. either way there will probably be some regret somewhere. you need to make a choice, and make the choice you can live with and each support each other with for the rest of your lives. I wish you well, whichever path you take.