When should have have kids? How do u know when to start a family?

hello Jennifer, I am not sure about your reason. It maybe more of emotional,since you have stated that you and your husband are financially capable of having a child. There must be something emotional that bothers you or...you had some fear that you are not ready to be a mother. Or,maybe you feared of a greater responsibility of being a mother. If your husband is opting to have a child,you can give it a try,if the responsibility bothering you...you can have some nanny for your kid. Besides,you will feel the mother instinct once you hold your child in your arms...i am sure all your fears and worries will fade away once you hear you child cry and...you will be happy and proud to be a mother once you felt the heartbeat of you baby inside your womb. I suggest that,having a child at an early age is much better. have a good day always dear

Jennifer, do not let your husband or anyone else pressure you into having a child when you feel that you're not ready. Feeling forced into motherhood can have a negative impact on your relationship with your child, especially since a new baby needs almost constant care. You need to be completely comfortable with the idea before going through with it. This will be your child and the relationship you have will last a lifetime. You could also end up resenting your husband if motherhood turns out to be too difficult for you emotionally. You and your husband are still young and you have plenty of time to start a family. Once you have started a family your lives will change...does your husband realize that? No more doing something on a moment's notice, everything will revolve around the baby.

You are both in your early twenties so therefore there is plenty room for you have have a baby when the time is right. It is lovely that you have a house and money. That means when you do feel ready your baby will have a lovely life. You could say to your husband that you wish to wait until your mid twenties or late twenties before you have a baby. Sometimes pregnancy can be unplanned in which case a lady that isn't ready to be a mother can start getting ready. She could go shopping for baby stuff. You could tell your husband that you wish to concentrate on your career for now. Perhaps you could have your first baby when you are 26 years old and your second baby when you are 28 years old. Good luck.

You just got married. I've heard by many that once you start having kids you rarely have any time for yourselves no matter if you have money or not. I've got a cousin who has 3 kids. All very young. With work and the children they didn't have any time away from the kids. Everything is now about them, and their relationship was kind of put on the back burner. For their 9th anniversary they had went out for the day without the kids and had a blast. She had said that she forgot how much fun that they had together. I think you should wait a little bit and enjoy each other before it's too late. Take some trips. Do what you can now before you have a child. You both are still very young. It won't hurt to wait a year or 2. In fact it may be the smartest thing to do because who knows when the next time you will have free time and no worries while you are gone.

I think it's one of those 'when you're ready, you'll know' kinda things. And I don't think you should ever have kids unless you feel that you're ready for them. At 21 and 22 you guys have your whole lives ahead of you, there's no need to rush things and get in a huge hurry, it's nice to be able to just enjoy being newlyweds and take advantage of this time while you can. I'm 26 and we just got married last year, I'm STILL not ready for kids and don't think I will be for a few years yet. My husband talks about it lots and in many ways he's ready but that's not reason enough for me. There's no way we're having kids until we're BOTH ready for them.