If your best friend wil married, to buy him a gift for a new house, or money?

dear ice, mostly newlyweds are excited to receive both cash and gifts. if the newlyweds will request before hand for cash, then cash it is. but if no such request, then house appliances and things will surely be loved as well. but weddings like renewal of vows, (married 25 years or 50 years) sometimes prefer guests to give to donations to the couple's choiced charity institutions. so whatever you want to give, i guess you have to ask for a hint from the couple to be married. have a nice day. ann

Here in the United States, people can register at a boutique or department store for what they want or need in the way of gifts, and they let the people that are invited to the wedding and reception know where they are registered. Then, people going to the wedding can go to the store (some stores offer their services on-line, too) and find out what the couple would like. The store keeps track of whether or not other people have bought items from the list, which items were purchased, and how many items have been bought, so duplicates are avoided unless people buy the items and don't inform the store or the couple has requested duplicate items. This takes some of the guess-work out of shopping, allows people to get what they want and need without getting a bunch of the same item or having to return a lot of things, and allows the people doing the shopping to stay within their budget and not have to stress out over what to get and whether or not the couple will like their gifts. It is not necessary to buy a gift for a wedding and reception, however. It is nice to get the gifts, but trust me that married couples also like to get money, because weddings are expensive, especially if the couple getting married has to pay for the wedding themselves. Some weddings are paid for by the parents of the couple getting married, but nowadays most families can't afford to do this, especially if they have more than one child. Therefore, a lot more couples are paying for their own weddings. Even if you try to stick to a strict budget, the cost of a wedding is very expensive, and that is not even counting any expenses related to having a honeymoon. The newly wed couple can always use money as a gift to help cover the cost of the wedding or other expenses that they had to pay for, unless of course they are very wealthy.

I would actually ask them what they would prefer Most Couples now make a list but it ends up that they get double so I would prefer to give them Money so they can buy themselves something but I would ask if that is ok with them first

It depends on what I know the friend can use. If the friend is in need of something specific and I can afford the item, I will buy it for them, but if money would be more beneficial to them, then I will give them an amount of money I can afford to give. these days people have lives of their own before getting married, so they always have enough stuff. That's how it was with my husband and I. We had two of everything!!

In my country we usually buy gifts for the couple, but in this recession there are people who prefer to get cash instead of gift which may not be useful at all. I even have to go to a wedding in a couple of weeks, and my friend said that they have decided not to take any gifts, they prefer cash (as much as you can give). It is easier this way, not having to buy anything and stuff, but I like the oldfashion way better. I like the element of surprize, even though it is not practical... but, if we are notspontaneous and real in our wedding day, then when?

Yes that's true that weddings nowadays are commercialized, especially in finding sponsors. The couple should have wealthy sponsors so that they could get expensive gifts from them. Anyway that's only an observation, but this observation did not only happened once but almost everytime I'm invited to attend to a wedding.

Well for me I rather give a money as a gift than any other things. I think it is more practical gift to give. In an occasion like that they received plenty of gift from their guest. And there is a possibility that they might got some duplicate gift or things.

Hi icesmile, I rather gave cash. No matter how small it is, it would help the newly wed somehow. When I got married in 2008, I appreciate those guest who gave cash because as a newly wed couple having money from the wedding is a new way to start our life together. This is also to avoid giving gifts in duplication. Imagine, during our wedding, we got 9 sets of Rice Cooker, lol. Anyway, we still appreciate the gifts.

I think if I were giving money as a gift,I would want it to be privately given.I wouldn't want others to know what I gave.Some people would rather have money as a gift than an object,then they can buy what they want with it.

I prefer to give gifts for the new house because I think it's much more personal and thoughtful. However, it seems as if the trend lately is to give cash. So sometimes, I give cash because it is stated in the invitation that cash gifts are preferred in order to let them start with their new life together.

Here in our country, the Philippines......yes marriage is fast becoming a business...they invite sponsors that are moneyed, holding a high position in government or the private sector.....even if they don't know these people very well....Most of the invited guests usually give gifts for the house or the couple could use.....but for those in high places and the rich they usually sponsor the wedding or give cold cash to the newly weds.......weddings in our country is still very much sacred and even if it is very commercialized still it is a very solemn affair.......people get married because of love and commitment for each other....for most...but for some marriage is for convenience......

Dear It concerns with our relationship: Close friends would receive special gifts choosen by me mindfully; Common friends will receive cash package for convenience. Nowadays there are more and more common friends than close friends, that is why money giving become popular.