Is love a choice?

@hmkoct5 (2065)
United States
January 19, 2010 5:14pm CST
Do you think love is a choice?
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10 responses
doormouse
@doormouse (4599)
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19 Jan 10
i don't think it's a choice,you can't help who you fall in love with,but you can help whether you doing anything about your feelings
kingblack147
@kingblack147 (150)
• United States
22 Jan 10
I agree you can't help what your heart feels but you can definitely decide whether or not you want to go ahead and make that leap of faith and actually let that person know what you feel for them and hope that they feel the same and you are not shot down. so definitely feeling in love is not a choice but actually doing something about it well... that's completely up to you.
ladym33
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
2 Feb 10
Yes and no. I think the heart wants what the heart wants and we can not love someone we don't love not even if they are the best person in the world and would be good for us, sometimes the heart just not want that person and you just can't get those feelings for a good person, however you might find yourself hopelessly in love with the wrong person. So I don't think that falling in love is a choice but I do believe that you can choose to fall out of love with someone because I have done it, but it is possible I never loved that person at all, I just thought I did, so it is really hard to say.
larish
@larish (2234)
• Philippines
20 Jan 10
At first, it should be based on feelings but as the relationship grows. Let says the relationship lead to marriage, making love a choice is a must. Feelings changes as time goes by. The only reason that a relationship/marriage will last is depended on the decision of two individual to stay together and nurture their love for each other. This is my own opinion on this. Thanks
sunnew
@sunnew (68)
• China
20 Jan 10
some time and in the most of time .love is a personal choice.u can choice the people u love .but i think love is always is a two-directs-choice .not only u love he or her ,but also he or her love u .i think only this kind of love is a eternal love .
masay7
@masay7 (89)
• Gambia
20 Jan 10
definitely yes, its a choice. How can that not be a choice
ltruong
@ltruong (128)
• Australia
20 Jan 10
No I don't think it is. If it was, most people would choose not to fall in love as love does hurt and is time consuming. Most of our relationships will end up as nothing - we break up, but I guess in a way people can choose. It's because everyone is on their own little quest to find "the one". They all know that they want that one person, so they date people to see if they are the one or not.
blinkyberry
@blinkyberry (223)
• United States
20 Jan 10
no love is not a choice you can't choose who you love to me it chooses you....
maezee
@maezee (41988)
• United States
19 Jan 10
I think we CHOOSE to be open enough to let love in, but we don't really DECIDE when to fall in love. That comes.. naturally and without any of anyone's control over it. At least that's how I see it.
lakerfanster
@lakerfanster (2577)
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19 Jan 10
I think Love is a choice but it's mixed in with fate sometimes when you just can't help falling for someone.
pentagan12
@pentagan12 (757)
• Philippines
20 Jan 10
No. It isn't. It's a kind of feeling that suddenly exists for no reason at all. We cannot choose someone to love. If love is a choice then I guess, there would be no one in this world crying because of love. It's indeed a strange feeling of wanting someone so badly even if you know sometimes that there can be no possible explanation for that.