what to do?? my friend's birthday is coming up
By squaretile
@squaretile (3778)
Singapore
January 19, 2010 8:27pm CST
There is this ex-colleague who has become somewhat of a good friend. I've known her since 2002. Her birthday is coming up, and I'm not sure what to get her, or what to do for her.
She loves flowers, so I was thinking of sending her a table arrangement, as I've done before. The problem is, flowers are quite pricey and they don't last. It will set me back around US$40 to get a bunch of flowers sent to her.
for that amount, I was thinking that I could get her something that she could use, like girly hand moisturisers or stuff like that. also, I'm a bit worried that US$40 won't buy 'nice enough' flowers, since she's got really good taste in flowers and the really nice and rare ones would cost at least US$60-70, which I just can't justify to myself to spend on fresh flowers.
Last year I gave her a intricate notebook which I bought when I was on a trip to Spain. It cost around $18 euros I think. She bought me a very nice notebook and sticky notes set, which probably cost around the same price.
Or should I just buy her a meal? why are simple things like that so complex?
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14 responses
@Lemonwater (1)
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20 Jan 10
I think you can give her something that can be last for a long time.She loves flowers,but it is not necessary to be fresh flowers.You can give her a crystal flower item or something that is with flower picture.And I think the price for those small things will not be high.
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@Katie2009 (144)
• China
20 Jan 10
Well,I always think a good friend will appreciate whatever you give to her for the care and love conveyed to her through your present will touch her heart. According to your standards,you seem to look for a present which is not too expensive but relatively useful. You can buy her a vase for flowers as she loves flowers,or,you can buy her some little ornaments,such as necklace,bracelet and etc. They don't have to be in dear price but to match one of her sweaters or something else. You are so thoughtful that I am sure she will be grateful for your effort and consideration.May you have a good time with your friend!
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@yogeshdhusa (2236)
• India
20 Jan 10
Hi squaretile, i think you should give what you like. A gift is a thing that you wish she should have this. Other if you dont have an idea then give her which she like to have.
I had given a "pen" "wristwatch" "wrist-let" "soft toys" "makeup-set" "perfume" i am in India so i wont be able to tel you the cost. hope this helps, :)
@longsdogin (454)
• China
20 Jan 10
Hi,squaretile,don't make simple things complex.If u r good friends,I think the gift doesn't really matter,flowers or other practial things both ok.The truth is both of u should feel relax and happy,buy her a meal and have a enjoyable talk is a good idea.Don't put too much energy at what u should send ,just do what u feel free and happy .I believe ur friend will accept whatever u do for her.Have a nice day and take care.
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@windchimebooks (314)
• United States
20 Jan 10
First of all, what a really nice and thoughtful friend you are. The world would be much better off if there were a lot more people like you in it, especially when it comes to friendship.
Just my 2 cents worth, I also love flowers but they have gotten so expensive, especially if someone has good taste in flowers, I would think a nice meal might be in order, maybe with a little inexpensive gift geared just to her taste. A meal will last longer if you both go and I'm sure she would enjoy spending some time on her birthday with you in such a case. Just my thought.
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@alexysabelle (905)
• Philippines
20 Jan 10
for me a nice card and a nice thought mean so much. of course i am not her c:
you might spoil each other by that. remember life now a days is tough. if you have more, then give more, but if you just have enough, just give enough - meaning a thing that is heartily given but does not cause you much - what matters most is the THOUGHT. that you REMEMBER her in her special day of her life.
Good luck!
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
20 Jan 10
I think it would be hard for us to give you ideas' without knowing her at all...there are some gifts that are pretty generic that will suit anyone but since I don't know what she would like it's a toughy....I am sure you will come up with something that will please her...
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
20 Jan 10
If she's your good fren, there's nothing to worry about.. Price is not everything, nd what matters most is the thought of u remembering her birthday ^_^
MAterial things does not last long if she's one whom does not appreciate things.. as such, do something whereby she will remember u, whenever the same time of the year appears ^_^
Treating her to a nice meal will be a good way, and at the same time, let it be a good hangout place in the future for both of u too ^_^ IF the place is nice, and cosy, of course.. hehe
@23uday (2997)
• India
20 Jan 10
hi friend,
Ya my friends birthday is coming up.
My friends birthday is on next week i.e jan 28.
We had celebrate his birthday with our friends a lot in last.
We had gone to cinema hall,pub and enjoyed.
but this birthday time we miss him.Now he is in canada studying MS(post graduate).Now my friend will send a money to us on his birthday.We will enjoy on his birthday.
have a good day.
@windchimebooks (314)
• United States
20 Jan 10
Hi, First of all, what a really nice and thoughtful person you are. The world would be much better off if more people like you were in it when it comes to being a good friend.
Yes, flowers are very nice and I love them but they have become so expensive lately, especially if someone has really good taste in flowers, that they can really cost a mint at times...not to mention the extra costs of delivery and what have you that always seem to be added to the bill.
Just my 2 cents worth, but I'm guessing a good meal might be in order here. I'm sure your friend would like spending time with you on her birthday. Perhaps you could also give her a tiny inexpensive gift geared just toward her, along with the meal, if you like. However, if you two are at the meal, then she can share her celebration and you'll be showing that you care. Just my thought. I'm sure whatever you come up with will be great.
@windchimebooks (314)
• United States
20 Jan 10
Oh, sorry. Didn't mean to put that on there twice. I thought the first one didn't post for some reason and was trying to recall what I said in the first one second time around. Sorry for the repetition here.
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@chulce (1537)
• United States
20 Jan 10
Wow, what a great friend you are. Do you get to see her often? If so, for around $40.00 you could actually piece together a nice basket of goodies for her. If she likes to garden, there are wonderful seeds, hand gardening tools and such that you could place in a nice inexpensive basket to give her.
Or if you feel that she needs to relax, you could make her a "relaxation basket" you will need lotion, bubbles, bath salts, candles, soft music and maybe a tub pillow to complete the gift. If you really want to make her smile, throw in a nice set of comfortable pajamas. There are some really cute ones out there and if you can guess her size, that would probably make her birthday even more special!
I have to agree that the price of fresh cut flowers is getting rather ridiculous even here in the US. I try and buy things that will give a much longer lasting impression on the person receiving the gift.
@warvial (1146)
• Singapore
20 Jan 10
Hm, yes, I won't considered fresh flowers which wouldn't last. Even if your friend can have the option to make it into dried flowers, but she doesn't, then your money spend won't be worthwhile. Although good things never last, but if you have other options, why not opted for either a meal, some flowery decoration items (eg, flowery scent perfume or care products) or maybe you would like to consider D.I.Y her a present?
