Do you find it hard to lend your books out

I not only struggle if a have to lend a book but i also struggle when i have to returne a borrowed one. i know it sounds on the verge of stealing.. i just prefer old book than the new which i can buy.

After what happened to a book that belonged to my deceased brother. I lent it out, never to be seen again. The person that I loaned it to denies taking the book off my bookshelf. I was standing right there when she asked to "borrow" it. I agreed and watched her remove it from its slot. I stopped loaning anything out after that. Borrowing means you are going to return it, not pass it on to someone else or forget you borrowed it in the first place. I apologize and say I'm not the public library. If I can buy what I want, you can too. The library has a much bigger selection of books than I do anyway.

I try not to lend books out, because I never seem to receive them back either. And of course, it always seems that the best books are the ones people are asking to borrow! I've had to say no a few times, that I was still using the book, but sometimes I can't come up with a good reason to say no and then I end up losing the book, or not getting it back for a really long time. It's hard to say no to friends over such a small thing, but I wish there was a polite way!

I usually don't have a problem when I lend books out to people. Of course, I don't usually lend books out to people who aren't avid readers like me. They usually plow through the book just as fast as I did, and return it begging for the next one. When someone lends me a book then I'll read it and read it all the way to the end even if I don't like it much and I'll give it back to them as soon as I've done so. I think it's awfully disrespectful to lose someone else's property, especially a book.

I stopped lending out ANYTHING a very long time ago, and I certainly learnt the hard way In my experience, everything I lent out was either returned to me in such a shoddy condition that I was on the verge of demanding a replacement. Or, even worse, not returned AT ALL as the people who have lent my stuff conveniently disappeared without even having the decency to give my stuff back

I don't lend books out because usually I'm the one doing the barrowing. I get my books from the talking book libery right here in town. As I don't read very often this is not a problem. But, in general I don't lend my things out. I don't want them damaged lost, or anything of that sort. I have enough problems.

There are only one or two people I will lend my books to now. I used to lend them to all my friends, but some of them let me down by not returning the books even when I asked for them back. Then I got one or two books back that had been damaged. I can think of two people who always return my books without me having to ask them to do so and always in good condition. - Derek

They say we should learn to say no. I guess I would have to do this since people who borrowed my books have no conscience to return it to me. I hate to ask them, but I have to since they've had my books for so long. I really felt sad for my books because they have been misplaced; they will never go back to their rightful and caring owner (sigh). I'll just say to people where they could buy a particular book than lend mine. Learn to say no.

The only person that I lend my books too these days is my Mum because she is the only person who ever gives me them back! I have lent some of my best books out to friends and have never seen them again and it is very annoying, especially if they are books that I have as part of a collection.

If they ask me what good books I have read lately and they would show interest in it, maybe I would lend it to them. But I would remind them to return it as soon as they were done with it especially if it is one of my favorite books. Books are a bit expensive from where I am and I consider it a luxury to buy any new book so I tend to treasure whatever good books I may have. I'd feel so bad I I lent a book to a friend and he just lost it :(

Yes I love my books. There are certain books that I will give to people once I have read them and that is ok. I gave the books to them. Then there are other books that I say specifically that you can borrow this book. They will say ok and then I never see the book again. That upsets me because I would never borrow something from someone without returning. I too have heard the stories about loosing the book. Now I just don't lend out the books that I want to keep unless its one of my daughters borrowing them.

It is quite disappointing to lend books because most people have this bad habit of not returning what they borrowed. I had books which I really treasured that were never returned by friends. So, I made it a resolution never to lend books at all. I rather give books which I don't want to keep rather than lend books I love.

I have lent out books in the past and till this day i never got them back. I think books are more likely to never come back than things like DVDs because often books take longer for people to read and they can be put somewhere and forgotten about. There is one book that I lent to someone about a year ago and i really want it back but it will be a long process to get it back so I have been trying to see if I can find it in the library or on amazon. My rule of thumb now is that if I am prepared to never see the book again then I will lend it out or it has to be someone who I know will give it back.

Even the thought of having my books dog-eared mortifies me that's because I buy my books with my own money (which by the way I have accumulated by skipping lunches and giving up my friend's invitation to go out on week ends). That's the reason I am reluctant in letting other people borrow my books. If one wants to borrow one of my books I'd perfectly set only one condition : SMALL DAMAGE = BIG PAYBACK; that is to say that once my book gets damaged in any way, the person who lent it must buy a new one. Funny because just by hearing my one and only condition the borrower thinks twice about borrowing my book and ends up not borrowing it.

Hi, cbizenetz. I hardly ever lend my books out. Especially if I have a book that is checked out at the library. I don't want to risk losing my book. I am kind of iffy about lending out any of the books that belong to me. I don't want to be mean, but I am very funny when it comes to lending out any kind of book that belongs to me. You are very nice to lend your books out to friends, but sometimes you can't always be so nice. You have to set limits. If something was to ever happen to this book you would be responsible or you would lose out money. I am very sorry that your friends did not take good care of your books that you let them borrow.

Ha, after learning this the hard way..I finally decided only to borrow out books to my closest friends who I KNOW will return them. And sometimes I threaten them about it, too, if it's my favorite way (in a joking-but-not-really-joking sort of way, of course ). I love my books. There are a few books that I've lent out in the past that I haven't seen in YEARS UPON YEARS from friends that I no longer talk to. *sigh*. Lesson learned, alright!

I have a really hard time lending items out, including books. I know that people often forget to return things and it's really difficult for me to be stern about returning the item - like reminding them until they finally do it! Luckily people don't often ask me to borrow things and I just don't offer my books out, so I don't typically have this problem. Thank goodness!

I love reading very much.I usually read two books per month though the work is so busy.I read more when I was a school boy.I seldom lend my books.On one hand,only little of my friends love reading.On the ohter hand,book I think is a personal thing that it hard to lend.I would like to share my reading experience to my frinds.If he or she really like the the books I am talking I will recommend them to buy.

Hi! I find it hard to lend my books if the person is known for not returning any borrowed books.I don't want my books returned damaged just because of neglect.

Hi,caiznetz.I think I have the same feeling as you.I bought a lot of books because I don't like to borrow books from others.But I'd like to lend it out to others in the past.However ,I found that the borrows never cherish my book,when they gave it back to me,it became dirty or broken.It's reaaly uncomfortable when I see this happened.What worse,someone even didn't give it back to me,it's difficult for me to get it back because I was so unwilling to put a mark in it even my name.And now I seldom lend my books out.