does first impression affect your perception in a person?
By xyzerjam
@xyzerjam (19)
Philippines
January 20, 2010 1:52am CST
i always have this feeling that nobody wants to talk to me or to befriend me... entering a class with no friends is difficult. nobody wants to approach me and nobody wants to talk to me. then i asked my friends if i'm not that approachable or am i not friendly.. only to find out that i somewhat emit negative aura.. like a "don't bother me" or "don't talk to me" aura.. how do you change that aura??? help....
4 responses
@DenverLC (1143)
• Philippines
20 Jan 10
Well you can not just change how you look as easy as that. It is nice to be real than trying to change who you are just to please others. Let them discover who really you are, true friends will always have their way in no matter what. Never mind those judgemental individuals because it only shows a weak personality, and I believed you don't want to befriend with narrow minded people too. As long as you are comfortable, knowing well who you really is, then no prblem.
@maria1081 (1251)
• Philippines
20 Jan 10
Yes it does at first. First impression is a must but its not the basis to judge a person. You must know the person first before you can say if he/she is trustworthy of your friendship. Dont be such a snob, a smile can give you positive aura. You should smile often even if you dont know the person.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
20 Jan 10
ha ha ha .. It is just a matter of confident, friend ... You must much to say, at least give your smile sweetest to people around of you
@deenaly (162)
• Malaysia
24 Jan 10
I agree with what most people who responded to you said. Smiling is the best way to attract someone. I usually do it like this: Smile with your lips closed, when the person smiles back, then show your teeth when you smile.
Sometimes it's best to wait for a while. not all people would come to you and properly introducing themselves. Here's what I do: If I see a crowd of group of people talking, join them. No need to talk, just tag along when there are conversation around. Sooner or later, they will notice you and start talking with you.
Keeping a middle profile helps. Being too low makes people underestimate you, and keeping high makes people jealous of you.
Be warm and caring. When people asking you a question, don't just reply promptly. Give some elaboration and then extend the conversation. For example: somebody is asking you about the lesson. You explained what has been taught. Don't stop there, ask the person if he had any problems with the lesson, then the conversation will go on.
Hope it helps, although I'm not sure this method is applicable in a society consists of cliques.
