Variation on a Theme

hi pikey I was startled to realize i did not think I would have liked seeing my husband cross dress, and I thought I was very open minded too. I am shocked at myself, I could take this from a friend, or close relative. I am a widow now but if he was alive I dont know if I could handle that, as he was very much a male. wow. you make me think, shame on you. he he h e. No I do not think i could go out with my hubby dressed as a woman, shame on me as I have a very close family friend and his mate who are gays and that has never bothered me, his mate dresses as a woman and had surgery to make him into a her, these have never bothered me as they are close friends. what the heck is wrong with me? I wonder if the others think like me? I am really embarrassed as I am not a prude. thanks for a great discussion. Pikey.

Hi p1ke, well as you know my son is gay and that is not problem with me...he is still my son and I love him to pieces, so if it did happen that he either decided he wanted to cross-dress it wouldn't worry me either, neither if that is what he did in the first place.yes I could go out with someone or my son if they cross-dressed they are still human, have feelings and if eg it was my son I could/would never feel less proud and loving to him than I do now, in fact I feel sorry for those who do find it hard to accept people who are this way inclined, after all they aren't being harmed by any of it. My only 'thing' about it would be if someone was to approach me-yet saying that it has happened and all I have done is have a great laugh with them when they find out I am not that way inclined!! hugs LoLo

Actually, I do have a friend that likes to cross-dress. I don't really care, but he looks better as a woman than I do! Luckily, he's in Edmonton so I haven't seen him in years, since before I left Vancouver actually. We just keep in touch by email.

it wouldn't really bother me honestly..whatever makes them happy. but i would be telling them to stay out of my closet.any of my male relatives would be wrecking any clothes i had.they're huge people.

Hi p1key, It won't really bother me, well it is up to them and whateeve makes them tick, as for anyone borrowwing my clothes, it'll be a no, no, for me, my tops might fit them but its my bottoms won't, lol! too short for anyone. Hugs. Tamara xxxxx

It's a bit unfair really, isn't it. Noone lifts an eyebrow when I go out in a trouser suit. But I'd be very uncomfortable about going out with a male friend dressed in women's clothes. Not sure whether I could do it as I've not yet had to make that decision.

To be honest I don't know P1ke I guess once I got used to the Idea yes I would as it is their Life and that is how they want to live it, but I have to be honest I would have to get used to it first though

These people are so happy when someone talks to them like they do other people. Working as a checkout chick showed me this. I've found most cross dressers dress inappropriately with no idea seemingly of what goes with what. It's as if they have to put on as many items as they can. I have never cared much for the types of people who are with cross dressers. They are generally much younger and hard looking and very trendy. I can't help but feel that they have an ulterior motive for befriending the person-I could be wrong though and they may be genuine. I don't know if I could go out with one because people stare so and are quite openly rude and mean.

Personally, don't give a rat's pa-toot about such things. Sure, it's different, but we all are in some way. Most of us keep it in hiding. But that doesn't mean we should oust those who don't. That's just plain jealousy evilly applied. As to going out with them dressed, I'd most prefer it to be somewhere where we don't have to fight our way back out the door. The immaturity of society is quite overwhelming and I'd want my friend as well as myself to live a long and prosperous life. If such ignorance weren't so prevalent, I'd go any where with them. Unfortunately, society hasn't progressed enough to allow freedom for all. And as to borrowing my clothes? NO WAY IN HADES!! I bought them, I stain 'em!

As long as they wadn't coming on to me, whatever....

i wouldnt have a prob. an ex of mine would cross dress and i wouldnt be embarrassed no matter who i knew did it

Bwahahaa - the least of my worries would be them wanting to borrow my clothes! Even gypsies, tramps and thieves would have more taste and finesse than to set foot (or other bodily part) in my tattered and revolting garments! On a more serious note and to answer the question - yes, I'd most certainly go out with them. After all, a woman who wanders around the neighbourhood in a nightie is hardly likely to be bovvered by accompanying a 6'4" cross-dressing bricklayer in a magenta muu-muu! (Oh - and sequinned gladiator sandals. I forgot he was wearing those.)

Hello, Pikey. I like my men to look manly, and I wear a lot of pink and also purple, so I think it would freak me out if my husband wanted to go out in my clothes - especially as he's bald and quite a bit bigger than me. He did once put on my nightdress once. We had visitors, and he wanted to go to the loo and couldn't find his dressing gown, so he borrowed my purple flowery nightie that I keep on the back of the door in case of fire, as I always sleep naked. Luckily, it covered everything, but he's been known as 'Wee Willie Winkie' by the friends (?) who witnessed this amazing sight.

I could probably accept it. What they do in their own time would be cool by me but as far as going out in public with them, I am not sure if I could handle that. It would like being famous - people staring and pointing at you everywhere you go!

Some years ago I had a boyfriend who was a transvestite. When we went out he sometimes wore a dress and make-up. Sometimes the other men couldn't tell that he wasn't a woman, and they started flirting with him. One night while we were at a pub my boyfriend went to the bar to get us some drinks, a man came over and he asked me if my "friend" was single. He wasn't joking, he was actually interested in my boyfriend and he wouldn't believe that he was actually a man I will never forget the day when my ex told me that he was a transvestite. He was too shy to tell me, so he showed me a picture instead. I was shocked at first, but after a while I got used to the idea, and I accepted that part of his personality. It was a strange experience to see him wear a dress in public for the first time, but I actually started to like the times when he was dressed as a woman, because I could feel how happy it made him, and I loved to see the happiness in his eyes when he was dressed as a woman.