Have you ever try to ran away from your home?
By neelianoscet
@neelianoscet (9615)
Philippines
January 20, 2010 9:01am CST
I have a friend who ran away from her home when her parents scolded her for dating a guy whom they dislike too much that she feel being grounded most of the times. Between tussles and frequent arguments with her parents, she comes out of her nerves and decided to ran away. Bringing few clothes and little money. She plan to spend weekends with me but I never conceited her and I advice her to return to her parents since they would worried them to death for her whereabouts. She also plan to elope with her boyfriend. So the problem is just starting as they still young with not having finish their education. She told me she ran away, because she felt like a caged bird that their are lot of restriction being imposed on her such as being forbidden to hang out with friends, and attend outside activities without asking for hr parents permission. She felt left out with her friends enjoying the full blast of being a teenager and she like to enjoy her freedom. But, too much freedom is not good after all it lead to a lot of abuses. In my case I could not just ran away from home because I do not like to become a victim of bad elements and at the same time I do not like to be hungry or homeless, unless I have other deeper reasons.
How about you, have you ever try or experience to ran away from your home? What are your reasons why you ran away from your home? Kindly shares your thoughts. thanks.
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24 responses
@OrangJuice (687)
• China
20 Jan 10
Hi, neeli, your friend is of incourage!
I always try to run away from my family, but without courage. I haven't enough money to live alone. So I have to bear my parents' complaint. As I'm single, but many friends of my parents has become grandparents. It's the biggest problem in my family.
What I have to do? Just stay home, and don't argue with them. Maybe find more activities with my friends so that shorten the time to stay with them.
Anyway, I can understand your friend well. Hope we can escape from these situations soon.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Jan 10
hi orangjuice why on earth at 29 are you still living with your
parents? is it your culture to stay with your parents once you are an adult? I am in the US and am an American. I left home to work as a nurses aid in my early twenties.here we go out to work and take up our own apartments, we seldom just live for years with our parents. we grow up, we go out on our own.If you were working you could afford an apartment,its not healthy to stay so long once you are grown up, as you need to have a career and find a nice young man your own age, so you could have a family of your own.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
hi orangejuice,
Yeah, she is both a fighter but i advice her to change her mind as she still young and their still lot of opportunity waiting for her and it is not a good things to disobey parents when they only done some verbal advices because they care.
I think one could escape if one already find her own world having her own work and could earn without depending to parents then one could live fully independent. thanks.
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@OrangJuice (687)
• China
21 Jan 10
Yes, I'm from China. And I work in my hometown, so it's common to live with my parents, until I would get married. But I've not met my Mr. Right. Haha...
So...it's the culture difference!
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
You are just like me i never try to run away in greater distance but I experience to sleep outside my home for a whole night with my pets beside me. So when someone get angry with me and to avoid more confrontation, I decide to left my room and sleep far away so the outside place is best for me but still near my home. i know too the dangers of running away from home and beside I would never like to left my home without any cash. I like a comfort surrounding so anything that makes me uncomfortable like running away from home without anything is not good for me.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
hi heshoot,
Everyone almost have try or at least imagine running away from home when their is a lot of disputes in the home somehow. thanks
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
Many teenager have done that actually. Just because they are not happy with the way their parents they treat them they will go and leave home only to realize later that there is no place like home. Parents are more often than not only after their children's sake so they are disciplining them. But the children could not understand and feel they are being maltreated. They ran away and enjoy freedom with friends who can't even teach them what is right and what is wrong.
Well I am now a parent myself and thank God my only son is not like that. I once was a teenager too but never did I even think of running away from home even if there are times I find my father too strict. I don't have the courage to defy my parents and besides I know how to think ahead. I always bear in mind that If I leave home, then where will I go. Will my friends ever allow me into their home for long.? Will they feed and care for me just as my parent's were doing? Of course for a short time they may do so. But sooner or later they will surely get tired of me. Only my parents can love and support me through and through so even if there were times we have rift, I still hold my high respect to them and I remain submissive to their will.
So teenagers and youngsters reading this kindly bear in mind, There is no place like home and there are no better providers, keepers, carers and supporters than your parents. SO DON'T YOU EVER RUN AWAY FROM HOME, OKAY!
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
24 Jan 10
hi salonga,
yeah, because a lot of them is against parent become demanding in terms of their policy which many children who have impulsive mind as something full of restriction of their freedom end up planning when their relationship with their parents becomes full of arguments. Children need to a space where they could reflect well and realize the implication of running away does not give benefits but instead a lot of headaches to their parents. just like you mention which are very true in the sense that when children run away they could do so out of thrill and endless searching of her makes her feel happy when parents become worried as they make the dramas a sort of attention getter for love but when children do it most of the times, it ony mean they have a lots of insecurities build up inside and when parents forgive them they becomes spoiled a bit. So far their is no positive benefits one could get from running from a home it only make yourself too selfish being only concern with self without even thinking what their parents think of them at the moment they run away as something compare to being torture for searching on their missing child,the children should then realize that parents becomes so strict because they only want the best for their children future. thanks for sharing.
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@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
21 Jan 10
Like most kids, I thought about running away when I was young. However, I realized that running away would not solve anything, and would actually create more problems.
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
24 Jan 10
hi bellis,
Yeah, bing young and restless mind i must say is full of mixed emotion that drives any child to ran way especially when being reprimand by their parents and they take against their parents word by either mean of disobedient or plan to ran way which is a bad things when they suffer from hunger they would go to his home almost thin and penniless. it is also dangerous to run away when you did not know where to stay safe. thanks
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
Well, even me I also like to run away during my younger years but just hide and seek and whenever one of my sibling is angry with me I run as fast as i could. Then return only after they become calm, in that way i escape the punishment especially by my parents. The thing you do is the behavior of many people who get upset and rather face confrontation. They would rather leave the place for a short or longer period and only return hen all things back to normal situation.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
20 Jan 10
Yeah I did once got me an aprtment.
But man was it lonely even if I could go in and out as I liked.
Got my money back and went home!
Nextt ime I left home I was married and we rented an apartment in the same building lololol
And yes she should return home or you call her parents to let them know she is ok.
They must have a reason why thwey dont like the boy!.
She needs to find out
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
hi lakota,
Oh, really, that must be tough decision on your side and anyway you miss your parents that is why you return back. Yeah, and being married is now an accepted excuse to separate from parents as you starting a new family. She already return to her parents upon realizing she misinterpret them for being strict when the truth they are only concern for her own welfare. thanks.
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
24 Jan 10
yeah, and so happy for her she apologize to her parents..
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
20 Jan 10
I can remember thinking about it once or twice but I was never able to go through with it. My mom and I had a huge personality clash as I grew older. We fought a lot and so did my sister and I. I knew that running away wouldn't solve anything and without a job or anywhere to go I knew I wouldn't make it. Eventually it changed from running away to moving out as soon as I turned 18. I started stock piling household items and things I would need for my own place. Towards the end of my senior year though things got a little better but I still wanted to move out. My parents weren't happy with it but rather then end things with a fight they let me move out thinking I would be back. Everyone gave me 6 months till they thought i'd come crawling back. It's been 10 years lol.
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
hi ravinskye,
Wow, it already been 10 years. Do you ever comes out of your mind that you would miss your family?
That a nice sample story you have as you learn to be independent and good things it taught you to become self reliance never depend on anyone. Although, it would comes as a surprises but you have your own reasons for declaring your independence. As some really move to their parents because they need to study away from their place when school is far away from their home or the other way around they are working or have a live in partner. thanks for sharing.
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@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
22 Jan 10
I never ran away from home. I planned to ran away before when my sister and I had a fight. I want to ran away just to loosen up the anger we feel for each other. But I did not left, that is because of my mother. I know she will be the one who will suffer if I will no longer staying at home. I just stayed there and have a cold relation with my sister. When I was a teenager, also want to ran away when my father scolded me. My father is frank, all that comes out of his mouth you will definitely be hurt. I heard it all and I want to go out of the house because I am very mad, I know I can stay at my classmate's house but that is inaapproriate, their parents would not want me too to stay there for long. And if you ran away from your house at your young age it shows that you are being boastful , that you know what is right for your life. We should be humble to obey to what our parents ordered us. they know life much more than us. I should say, it is never right to ran away from home and be stiff on our decision.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
I knew some have ran away from home with same reasons and some become successful to raise their own living away from their parents home while some met dangers along the way. It is right to forget and forgive the parents as they are only concern to their children welfare and they become mad to correct their children behavior letting them know their own mistakes. Some live in comfort that some children are afraid to ran away from home except if they have enough money or support, even in some cases the problem get worse when their resources get depleted so they have nowhere to go except going back home. Also for safety, just like you mention the most safest places is the home where heart is fond the most. Being surrounded by loved ones and real people who care. What could anyone need for?
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
Anyone is capable of deciding wrongly for themselves and destroying their future in the process. If I were in your position, I would allow her to stay with me and then call up her parents to pick her up. I would simply tell them not to let her know it was you who told them. It's for her good, and yes you may lose a friend but her safety is of your concern. Well, as long as they don't hurt her physically though.
Besides, most teenagers regret their decisions anyhow, and some decisions like having a baby or marriage cannot be turned back. I just hope she'll get into her senses to just do her best to finish school so as she could have her 'freedom', and that she could realize that her parents are just doing their best to keep her safe.
Further, me? Running away? I have thought of such at a young age, but when I think about where to sleep and how dark it is outside, I would stay but keep myself locked up in the closet for a few hours until I realize it was indeed my mistake and everything is fine again.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
She get back n her right frame of thinking. So her tantrums may be a manifestation of the feeling of being unwanted and feel disgusted at some point with the constant nagging and reprimand. So she likely decide to ran away to make peace with herself trying to be alone. When she did that she coma back in tears and seek for her parents forgiveness. it is a nice story, somehow she let go of her sentiments and gentle explain her sides so i the end her parents would allow her to have a boyfriend as long as they never made any nasty stuffs.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
27 Jan 10
I have never ran away from home.. Though that thought did came across my mind before, and yet i din put it into action.. haha =D It's kinda foolish to do that, because it meant giving up all the comfort in our own home?? Just because we wanna get back at our parents??
Juts because we want our freedom?? Just for the temporary freedom, only to end up losing alot more, later in life?? That's not worth it right?? haha =D
No matter what, always allow ourself time to cool our heads, and slowly, we will realise, running away from home is not as simple as it's meant to be.. hehe
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
29 Jan 10
Running away from home for the reasons that you develop conflict with your parents is a low reasons since some have still young mind so very aggressive and have impulsive behavior who always like to take things on rush without too much thinking with the implication of one decision. Sometimes , children do it to make their parents worried or for their parents to notice them and pay attention as a go getter strategy when they like to obtain something they like they always make such drama for the parents to give whatever they wish for such as those cases of spoiled children.
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@hexeduser22 (7419)
• Philippines
20 Jan 10
I have a very funny experience on this one. Television had a great influence on me as a kid. I have been always punished and spanked every time I did something bad and because TV got on my head I decided to ran away when my mother was giving her sermons. She saw me pack my school bag. I always see on TV that when I child runs away their parent would prevent the from leaving and ask for forgiveness. I was really hoping that it would happen that way but what she did was helped me pack my bag and dared me to make one step outside. I saw her eyes very serious and I cried and asked for forgiveness and promised that I would not do such a silly thing again. From that moment on I got disappointed in televisions
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
24 Jan 10
yup, she already make peace with her parents upon realizing it her fault after all parents are just so concern a lot that they only want the best for her.
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
24 Jan 10
hi hexeduser,
yeah, a lot of the expression of the actors and actresses being use in the television such as pick up liner is absorb by most viewer and their attitude is also affected when they imitate those word being spoken by the character. Just like your experience, you saw what the character do in the movies so as a young mind during those times you are deeply influence by what you see. It is a good things you realize after that it is not good to ran away which you only do out of resistance to your mother sermon. thanks for sharing.
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@hexeduser22 (7419)
• Philippines
24 Jan 10
By the way what happened to your friend? Did she went home already? Your friend is very lucky to have you
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
7 Mar 10
Well, that really happens to some teenagers. They are so impulsive and they refuse to listen to their parents. Part of being teenagers maybe. When i was a teen i never thought of running away from my parents. I still don't know how to support myself and i don't want to live in streets hungry and filthy. Guidance of parents is needed at this stage of life.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
Yeah, and some teenagers are too late to realize that they think they already escape the miserable condition but instead meet dangers along the way. So it is not right to ran away as the outside place is not a welcoming sights to embrace since their maybe nice people and bad people who happen to be meet along the way.
@karthi_88 (299)
• India
21 Jan 10
hi friend,sure in teen age all will used to get scoldings and will feel like to run out of home.your friend should understand that her parents don't hate they care a lot about her and they are over protective too.even i have felt many times like being caged and i too have lot of restrictions in my home.i have felt like to run out from home but i have never tried friend.before taking any decision i will think a lot,if i think about running out,my parents over care and affection stops me friend.
have a nice day
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
hi karthi and rock me,
Your right and most teens likely felt helpless and they think their parents are mad with them, so they decided to run away which is not a good decision. Especially when their life is at risk of being abuse by any strangers whom they met along the way. So it is not a good manner to run away from their parents home. The feeling by many teenagers would only last for a short period of time unless they are often nagged by their parents.
They would feel being out of patience and as way to make their parents worried as form of retaliation or escape from their parents only to find out later they are wrong. So along the way they could met people who going to treat them badly and being homeless is not a good feeling. So it is only right to forget and forgive parents for being mad at them as it is their own mistakes and thy should not feel bad as they are only corrected for their misdemeanor.
@Rock_Me_In (400)
• India
21 Jan 10
Hmmmmm. Rightly said Karthi, rightly said.
Our parents aren't our enemies. They are to guide us in our path to success.
We sure've issues with them because of over protectiveness, but it can be discussed around the table with our parents my friend.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
Good thing you return back as many teenagers who ran away, have change when they refuse to go back to their homes. Some become homeless and hungry along the roads and even met a bad fate. Their may be sort of indifference with the many ways a parents discipline their child and mistaken by some children as form of harsh treatment so they likely ran away. This make any parents worried and those who children ran away met more trouble than comfort.
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
21 Jan 10
Hi neelianoscet!
Well, i don't ... ran away from home is not right, besides it has the same meaning by running from the trouble, in fact it could getting worst Why did her parent really didn't like her boyfriend? They must have reasonable to answer the questions, if parent didn't like with the boyfriend, there must be something about it, and usually parent feeling is right Good parents always think the best for their daughter, but sometimes parents could be wrong, all we have to do is explain to them with patient and understanding ...
But this is not only matter between parents and daughter, about the boyfriend, if he is mature enough, he can try to convince her parents, or even takes the hardest part ...
Once said ... "There is an X boyfriend, but there is never heard X Parents"
Think about it, tell your friends
Hope your friend get a clear and get well
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
She reconcile wuth her parents and decide to stay for the better. she realize the parents is only protective of her welfare. just like what you mention things goes fine. The parents is irreplaceable anyone could junk their lover but not their parents who gives them true love attention without any demands.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
21 Jan 10
I have never tried to ran away from home. Even though at some point of my life I felt that it is better to be away from home, but I couldn't do that becuase I had no money to support myself with when I go out of home. So, I preferred to stay at home till I patiently waited for the time to arrive. Once I completed my MS and got job in a different state, I went out of home.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
hi daliaj,
I also come to experience it when i get feel being pressure especially when i get so confuse and their are many people who make an advices which are baffled and so conflicting that I also plan to run away during my younger days that i just like to be alone and have peace with myself but could not do so. i just manage to hide to my room and not to eat like i starve myself since i need to do something or requested which my parents fail to give so I think i am little immature and childish but now that i grow mature i would not even plan or dare to ran away unless i have money with me.
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
20 Jan 10
I ran away two times when I was a kid at home! The first time I was only 8 and didn't know where to go so I got in the back seat of the car and stayed there until I had to use the bathroom real bad then went back in!
The second time I was 12 and walked over a mile into town and went by my friend's house.I actually had a plan. I was going to my other friend's house bc I thought her mom wouldn't tell. She worked at a bar so I knew she wasn't home much I planned on staying there until I could figure out where to go. My parents ddn't know her so I thought I'd be safe! ha!
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
24 Jan 10
hi macdingolinger,
Your experience is really the type of kid during your childhood days as very impulsive and aggressive . also a very sensitive one since you have the courage to run away because of mixed emotion brought by confusion. The good things is you are able to realize you could not live well at a young age without your parents figure around then return to after your anger subsides. thanks for sharing.
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@janeajozelle (197)
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
lol..not once but many times i plan but it all fail. i was back as i realize i become afraid of the outside world being alone on the street their lot of bad people their and i do not like to be abuse. so eventually i rebel many times to my parents but then realize later it is my mistake after all they are just concern why they become angry with me.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
hi janea,
I think those decision which you made are due to being immature since you are still young and you are so right being alone on the streets, hungry and being homeless is a difficult situation and if you happen to experience it you would not like to return to it as facing the unknown is a very painful and fearful process. i could not even imagine myself running away with no direction it could even make me fear of the unknown and many questions sis form in my mind as i could not afford to make myself look shabby and smelly being absent from comfortable life, and facing dangers in unknown streets and people is not a good ideas after all.
@atebuds (187)
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
Yes, when I was about 6 years old, I think... I hid inside our car in the garage because my Mom scolded me. But they found me after a few minutes. Hehe... When I was in my early 20's, I also ran away, with the same reason that my Mom seemed so strict, I lived with my brother-in-law for a few days. Then my Dad talked to me to come home and said everything will be all right. So I did. The first time I ran away when I hid in our car was just to call the attention of my Mom. I did not intend to go far, for the simple reason that I was too young and afraid to actually leave the house. It's not fun to run away. It entails much responsibility and courage. It's all right if you have someone reliable you can go to. What if something bad happens to you? Whose fault would it be but yours. Running away is not a solution. Things are not bad as they seem. Always talk it out with your parents. They will always understand. And no matter what they say, they are still your parents and they still know what's right or wrong for you.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
Your experiences is a nice examples of a tantrum brought by childhood and most who grown to adulthood somehow have the same experiences. The only good things that after the try out to run away all come into peace and realization that some children get scold by their parents and not to be mistaken that they are being maltreated. Instead it is a sign that the parents are so concern of their children behavior and would scold them in a nice manner to correct their behavior.
That is the way many parents raise their children as kind of motivational discipline as act of concern to their children welfare. Just like your experiences it could be a little misunderstanding and on the end you both able to resolve it and reconcile with your parents.