Do you remember good memories over bad memories?

Well, i guess i have equal balance of bad and good memories?? hehe ^_^ For the bad memories, allows me to learn, and take it as a life experience.. And some bad memories of the past, might be something funny to us, if we were to think back.. hehe ^_^ As for good memories, they will always be stored in our mind, without needing to be rid of it, for it's automatically etch it there.. hehe ^_^ IT's just so natural, because no matter how much we might hate a person, somehow or rather, the good memories with them, will still stay with us.. lol =D

I try to use the bad memories only to learn from in order not to have them repeat themselves in real life, but then I move one. I think it is healthier to dwell on the good. But I also tend not to get bogged down in memories of the past either way. Many people prefer to live in the present "now" but I tend to look toward the future.

Memories come, even when you do not call them up. I think it is important to create good memories over and over again. Then they will come when you are thinking about things. I try to ignore the bad memories or look at them in the light of the good things that came about in spite of them or what I learned from them. Then I can be content whether the times were good or bad.

The QUALITY or CLARITY of the memories, whether good or bad, are about the same. I am 73 years old. The last 51 years of my life have been wonderful. Of course there have been good and not so good times in those years. Life will always include problems and disappointments, but the joy and rewards of those last 51 years more than compensate for the odd moments (by comparison) of the not-so-good. Therefore, in those years, the good memories far, far, far outweigh the bad and cause the "bad" to fade into nothingness. I have NO happy memories of the first 22 years of my life, so the only memories that remain are the "bad" ones. Although most of these are horrific, to say the least, I can still remember them with thankfulness, for they no longer bother me. I am thankful for everything that happened because they helped to make me what I am today. So, while the memories are still clear and enough to give others the shudders, they do not affect me adversely. The happy memories of the last 51 years, and of my present life are dominant.

Hiya amyson, Bad events sometimes are hard to ged rid of altogether they stick with you even if you don´t want to remember. Of course the good memories outweigh the bad ones but they don´t rub out the bad ones. It´s not easy to forgive People either. I think that we have to live with these kind of things the best way we can. Coping with old memories can be a bind too much and heavy for the heart but it all depends. On a lighter note sounds like you have got many good memories so that is a very good thing you will feel much lighter in heart than a lot of People. Keep it going. Take care now.

I do actually. I have very strong "rose-tinted goggles" so everything that has happened in the past has been made 10x better by damned nostalgia. However, I must admit that more good stuff than bad stuff happens in my life, so I cannot complain

Sad to say I always remember the bad memories of mine.I don't remember the good ones. The bad memories stays in my brain, not because that is the only thing I should remember and i decide to stay in my mind, but in a way that I will always remember it as a lesson in my life and with my family. That is the event that I will be looking back but I hope it will never happen again. I know it will never happen again since I learned so much from it. And I am being careful now of doing wrong. my mother is the one who remembers the good memories and they share it to me when we are in our bonding time.

Oh yes we always remember good memories as these help brighten our days. We also talked about bad memories when we exchange pleasantries with relatives and happened to remember those. Bad happenings like the passing away of loved ones are often remembered as well. Every time we pray we won't forget them as we included them in our prayers

I tend to be selective in remembering the past. I love to recall sweet memories and tend to discard bad ones. Bad memories disturb me so I never want to give them a chance to cause distractions to me.

I usually remember good memories than bad memories, but sometimes it is good to remember bad memories especially those that have taught you some lessons. Those that have challenged you to survive in life.

Bad memories are something that stick out in my mind a lot unfortunately. They tend to stick with me a lot of the time. Good memories can do that as well and I try and focus on the good. Something bad happening is not something one can forget that easily. We think about it, wish it had not happened. Perhaps if it was a huge mistake, I ponder on what I can do differently. All types of things happen that make the bad memories stick out. I focus on the good but the bad still pops up in the deepest, darkest, recesses of my mind.

I also remember more the good memories. there are bad ones which you can't forget of course, but i think with time they fade away a bit and it's not so much the bad feeling you remember but the event itself. of course there are some of these awkward moments, when i do something stupid, completely out of place :) they seem to last long, a think :)

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indeed,the bad memories on my mind will turn to be no so bad any more.and the good memories on my mind also become the better.the system of our brain is a mythy thing,it will distill the impurity and turning to the purity.

Hi amyson, I think the general tendency of human beings is to remember the bad events more often. If we can remember the good memories only then it will be a blessing. I don’t have much bad events in my life with the blessing of God. The worst is the loss of my mother and still can’t digest it. I know life is mixed with both happy and sad so we should be able to handle both situations calmly.

me bein bipolar i think its harder for me to forget the bad things that has happened to me.. i would think a good day it would be 50/50 but on bad days 80/20 bad being 80.. my childhood was unusual so unfortunately it haunts me.. but i try to remember the good times.. problem is that the good times and bad times often intertwine

the good overshadow the bad memories, although they already part of my life i tend to remember the one which inspires me than those bad memories which are very painful.

We have as many good memories as bad memories in our lives. I think it is just easier to remember the bad ones over the good. More consequences and change often occur with the bad memories. They can often have more impact in our lives.

Memories whether they are good or bad have to be remembered because they are like sweet and sour. As far as my knowledge goes both are equivalent to me.

Sadly, for me, it's easier to remember bad memories than good memories. I think it's pretty logical that people are pretty sensitive to bad memories, it's natural, that's a good thing, which reminds us that by nature, we prefer peace than hate, praise than curse, and so on.. But good memories with people that I admire are often more powerful than bad memories. Peace... Have a good day