What do you say when your daughter wants to dress skimpy?

The bottom of the parenting line here, is she doesn't have to understand anything except it's not allowed. She's 8, she wears what she is allowed to wear. I don't understand her having the clothes either and if it were posible to get rid of them I would, taking her shopping to replace them with things she liked and I deemed appropriate. As for explaining it to her I would keep it very simple..these are not the clothes that 8 year old little girls wear. period. End of story. They sure try to grow up way to fast now a days don't they?

tell me about it when I go to my daughters school its like going to a night club the girls wear their clothes right up to you know where an yes it looks trashy thank god my 10th grader an 8th grader hasn't given me trouble about it yet but I am waitting for the but all the other girls do

When my daughter was a teen, she kept up with the Jones. I didn't but my pocketbook let her. Well, she cam in to the livingroom one evening with a blouse on such I'd never seen her wear before, and I remember it, but didn't remember exactly how I handled it. She brought it up a couple of years ago and said that I just looked at her and very softly said 'Marianna, I never thought I'd see you wear something like that". She said I had tears inh my eyes and she went in the bedroom quietly, took it off and gave it to a friend. She's always had a lot of respect for me and apparently my reaction touched her, and I've never had problems with her wanting to dress unappropriately. Thank you Lord.

Parenting is not a democracy, and parents really should be the ones to stop this, but your right it keeps happening, and young girls who dress this way keep getting younger. In my experience, they primarily do this kind of thing simply because of the attention they get from it. The problem is that this is the wrong kind of attention and could lead to very unsafe situations. If and when I ever have a daughter I will always be around to tell her what is and is not acceptable dress, and I really won't care if she likes it or not. However, I would take the time to explain my reasoning on the basis of what can happen to her if she finds herself in a situation she can not control as a result of the image she projects.

I believe that girls that young should not dress that way. And I completely agree with telling them to change. Reason being, if parents let their daughters dress this way at a young age and don't put any rhyme or reason behind why it's unacceptable, they will adopt that kind of clothing as the norm and not see anything wrong with it...

yeah speaking from a male point of view when i was a teenage at 13 and 14 I loved seeing females dress like that of course that's just a teenage boy's way of thinking because i've done a lot of things at an early age but now that i'm pushing 21 it sickens me to see 8 9 even 13 or 16 yr old females feeling like they have to dress like that. also it has created problems i live near a military base and soldiers come here for basic training and in my small town you have these 13 yr old girls dressing the way they do and they look 19 or 21 because some girls develop early or just by the clothes they wear they look older than you have these soldiers that haven't seen a female in 10 weeks because of training and they finally get their weekend to go out on the town and believe you and me there's an anti military state of mind in this town because these young soldiers go after them as if they were meat or a whopper from bk. and I think about if i ever have a daughter if i was as bad as i was when i was a teen the world has only gotten worse i can only imagine how more so or thoughtless these boys are. so to me dressing like what you see in the clubs.. no way