Is marriage very important for lovers?

I believe that no matter what a couple thinks about it, getting married will change their relationship. It did for me and my husband. We loved each other before we got married, but something about the commitment involved with getting married really seemed to bring that love home to roost.

Hi Angellily, Marriage is of course one of the most beautiful things in the world that binds lovers together. Here in the United States not everyone supports a marriageless relationship. American culture encourages marriage. However, in the 80s there was a huge increase in divorces and it is still continuing today. Now this divorce had a huge negative impact on kids growing that time. So some of them just stopped believing in the this legal institution. We can't actually blame their psychology. They saw their parents getting separated and you know that can be extremely unbearable for the minds which were still in the process of growth. On the contrary, some kids thought that their parents marrying was rather a mistake because they were not right for each other. They took it as a lesson. So they wanted to be careful about whom they married. I suppose this gave birth to the whole notion that by living together it was possible to diagonize someone to see if they were fit as husband ir wife. They thought this is how they would be able to save their marriage. Another thing is that, here divorice means a huge money settlement. You have to go to court and then split property 50/50. Many who have distorted view on marriage believe that a divorce usually follows after some time in a couple's life. And they just want to avoid that hassle. Also it is believed in United states that some believe that marriage blocks a person from being free in life. The domestic life is seen more like a cage! That is why, many men just want to avoid it.

You're right, marriage does mean permanence, responsibility, and sincerity. If a person wants those things, s/he should get married, and should say up front when meeting people that they're looking for marriage. Some people are just looking for a few days, weeks, months, years of fun, and I think that if they're honest about it, that shouldn't be something they're critizised for.

I think that marriage is not important for lovers. I think that marriage would wreck the relationship of lovers. Don't rush marriage when you're in love there's nothing like that feeling and you should hold onto that feeling.

In this seem like the culture is the thing that the most imfortant, like you said in china frevent to mariage, that is the same thing that couple do in Indonesia. but for a western country is not imfortant to get mariage. Maybe that who make a diferent coulture bettwen us as an Eastern culture and they as an western culture.

I think that marriage is all about consolidating the couple. I'm with my girlfriend since some time already, and we had some discussions about get married in the future. According to wha we said, marriage is something hard to go throught, but we a couple loves eachothers right enough, it's a cool thing to do. After that, i'd say that it can be different for every couple. Cheers :)

For me , an American, I see marriage as a tight little box where I don't fit. I can and do love my man and I would love to be with him forever but I never want to marry him. For me, it would ruin everything. I would have to turn into someone I wouldn't like . but that's me. There are many Yanks who want to marry.

it depends on the individual couple. whether or not marriage is important to them. lots of people have permanance, responsibility and sincerity without being married. these people are committed and in love, but don't personally have a desire for marriage. it's not because they want to be able to walk away easily, or think it's not forever. it's just as hard to separate when you've bought a house together as it is if you're married. so it's not because of wanting to be able to get out of the relationship easily. and lots of marriages don't have enough commitment to last. lots of people get married just because they want to have a wedding, or because it's "the next step" when they've been with someone a while, without thinking if they're really willing to put everything into it. just because it's sort of expected of them. whether marriage is important depends on the couple. if it's important to the couple, they should do it. if it's not, then they may choose to or they may choose not to. I don't think marriage CREATES permanance and committment. it has to be there already. marriage won't make it happen if it's not already there. we got married after nine years together. it was a wonderful day and we're both very happy we did it, but it didn't change our relationship at all. the relationship is the same one we've had all along. but then I've always said that we've had a marriage for years, and the wedding just makes it official.

hi friend, Marriages are made in heaven. In my opinion is that very important that lovers become as husband and wife. It will be a great relationship between them for long life. If relationship is good and truth in love they can get marry. have a good day.

If a man and woman are truly in love enough to live together, they should be in love enough to marry in my opinion. A person doesn't respect themself if they would lay with a man without the benefit of marriage.

Marriage is supposed to mean that, but since 1 in 2 marriages end in divorce here in the states obviously not many people subscribe to that belief. I waited until I was 30 to get married because I do take it seriously, for me it means I signed on for life with this person just the way he is with no plans to change him or alter him in any way, I loved him enough to commit to being there no matter how ugly things get, to tell him I would always have his back. He did the same. he commited to me, the real me with the only expectation on either of our parts is that we would do whatever needed to be done together. 20 years later he's still the one.

I totally agree with you, Marriage is very very important, one man and women should not live together, without getting married. marriage is all about, living together as a one person, thing together as a one person, feel as a one person, stay together forever, all this happens in asian countries. Where as in western countries, man and women live together with out getting married, they even have children, after some years they depart each other, what about the children they have. finaly, i say marriage is the licence to get man and women in to one. with out this permit you got live together.

In china,because of the tradational culture,one man and one woman live with each other for a long time but they never consider marriage.Chinese will regard it as special people,it won't be accepted.So the marriage is very imporant in China.In the western country this phenomenon is very common.

If not.What a terrible thing to happen!

i do believe that marriage is a lifetime commitment to somebody, thats why id rather make sure to myself that if ever i get married im sure to myself that his the one i wanna spend the rest of my life with coz if not then theres no reason to get married. love doesnt just the reason to get married. but its one of the main reason plus the acceptance, responsibility, understanding.

I am traditional. I think the marriage is very important for lovers. The piece of marriage paper does matter. It means that both of you are official legal couples. It also means that you are willing to spend your rest life with your spouse. I love China

hi frnd, this is santosh and iam from india n i agree with you. In india there is a lot of value for marraige. In one's life we come across a lots of people n we may like many people n we may fell in love with many people but if we marry our beloved one, there is a boundary for it. So marraige is very important.

nope, the important is love nothing else then with trust, respect and have enough money need to survive to last.

Yes, that's true. That's a big cultural difference. But it all depends on person. Even some Chinese people prefer play around when they are young; and there are mature and sincere westerns who want to stable marriage and family life. I was in international matchmaking company, so I know the mainstreams and exceptions in both societies. Western people like freedom, and commitment is difficult for them until they find someone they really "love". Chinese people maybe concern more about getting along with each other, instead of finding the 100% compatible person. i think you have good family value, and you will get your Mr. Right somewhere if you want.