a friend for 2 years...
By chesaid
@chesaid (104)
Philippines
January 21, 2010 4:26am CST
i have this person living with me... she's been my friend for 2 years back in our country. i thought i already knew her, but i was wrong.
we came here in saudi arabia together to work. at first we helped each other in everything. we turned like sibling because we shared everything together.
but when the time i asked her to do something for herself, she just suddenly get angry at me. she started not talking anymore to me.
i thought it was so immature of her to react like that but still she's angry at me.
i don't really get it why she's so angry.
am i so selfish to asked her to do some things on her own?
she's actually older than me, but i think she is the one who is not understanding things...
3 responses
@srganesh (6340)
• India
21 Jan 10
It has taken 2 full years for you to understand her.There may be some more qualities left yet to explore.I don't consider this relationship as friendship.Just like classmate,college mate or room mate,etc...You both lived with mutual understandings in a situation and she had become more dependent on you.Now she cannot think of her own activities and so she is angry with you.Actually she is angry with herself and soon she will learn to work by herself.Don't you worry and carry on with your job.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
21 Jan 10
That can be true to some extent.Within friends,some want to take the lead role and dominates the other with their ideas.No wonder,some people go submissive until it doesn't hurt their feelings.But when you leave them abruptly like this,the need to manage everything on their own irritates them and hence the anger towards you.
@TriciaW (2441)
• United States
21 Jan 10
That is sad that it has come to this. Sometimes people have a hard time thinking on their own and doing things for themselves but it is a good thing that you have given her that opportunity to do something for herself. Perhaps in time she will be able to see what you did was for her own good.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
23 Jan 10
It's called "being in a sulk" over here and your friend seems to be sulking unnecessarily, it seems to me. Two years is a long time to be a close friend to someone and the fact that you live together(?) is, perhaps, placing a strain on your relationship. The fact that you reacted first has probably brought it all home to her, that, she does rely on your friendship too much and her sulking is her way of actually admitting that fact. My Dad sulks a lot but always comes round after he has thought through what the other person has said (usually Mum) and it may take a few hours or a few days. How long has her sulking been going on for? Something has to give my friend!
