"dear" or "honey" .. does it bother you when people call you that?
@macdingolinger (10386)
United States
January 21, 2010 8:44am CST
It does me! I don't like for people to use terms of endeament when they don't even know me! I know that they are just being friendly, but I don't like it! I especially don't like it when it's someone younger than me!
When someone is much older, it's not too bad but younger people haven't earned that right! Does it bother you??
When someone is much older, it's not too bad but younger people haven't earned that right! Does it bother you??1 person likes this
10 responses
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
21 Jan 10
Well I have to say, I might be younger and I might of been one of these who has said this to you. I call people dear. Well women, not in a manner of disrespect however when showing sympathy, or caring. I care a lot about people right off the bat when I meet them. So I am guilty of this.
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@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
21 Jan 10
I wouldn't call you"guilty"
lol!! At least you care for people and that's a big plus these days!!
lol!! At least you care for people and that's a big plus these days!!1 person likes this
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
21 Jan 10
Oh dear, i think i am guilty. I apologize if it was me. In my country it is often used. Maybe i should remember that i talk to other people now. I have that habbit. If someone here doesn,t like it, please tell me straight. I will not be offended. Have a nice day.
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
21 Jan 10
lol! Don't wear yourself out worrying about it!!! It's mostly at the store and stuff out places like that when it bothers me!
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
21 Jan 10
lol!Did you just call me dear? lol! It's really not that big of a deal. Well I say that, but it does bother me. It's usually like at a store or something. I don't ever say anything though!
Did you just call me dear? lol! It's really not that big of a deal. Well I say that, but it does bother me. It's usually like at a store or something. I don't ever say anything though!
@Shadenfrauder (355)
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
I don't use those terms, RL, and I don't hear anyone address me those too. Online, though - I tend to call anyone 'dear,' 'dearest' being for someone I really like. ^^;;
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@Shadenfrauder (355)
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
Haha! XD I reckon I do. I feel ancient compared to most users. XDD
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
21 Jan 10
That's cool... are you old enough to have earned that right?
it comes with age you know! lol! I'm just kidding!
it comes with age you know! lol! I'm just kidding!
@dasiejanie (590)
• United States
22 Jan 10
Well I love it, I always think that they are prob very nice and loving.
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@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
22 Jan 10
That's cool! It's funny how we can all have such different emotions about the same thing! Yeah!! Celebrate our uniqueness! We are all unique! I guess that makes us all the same in a way! 
Celebrate our uniqueness! We are all unique! I guess that makes us all the same in a way! 
@arystine (1273)
• Philippines
22 Jan 10
It bothers me. I don't like being called that way when I don't know the person or when I'm not close with that person. It seems phony to me. I don't believe that I'm sincerely dear to that person. I think that it's just a term that person uses to everyone to make that person look good and sweet.
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@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
22 Jan 10
You may have found what hits my nerve! It's that it's phony!! Because sometimes they really aren't condescending.. So when it's not done that way it is very insincere... not always, but a lot of the time. Most of the time!
@UpsideDownPineapple (643)
• United States
23 Jan 10
Those two words don't. But sometimes "baby" or "sweetie"... those types, they make me uncomfortable. And then the conversations tend to get awkward. I don't "dislike" it... but I certainly don't like it.
Actually, yeah, I dislike it. It bothers me.
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
23 Jan 10
So... in August I will have earned the right to call you "sweetie"?lol! That's when I'll be 50!!! I promise I won't do it though, because it annoys me too!
lol! That's when I'll be 50!!! I promise I won't do it though, because it annoys me too!@UpsideDownPineapple (643)
• United States
23 Jan 10
Oh, and the persons age matters a lot. If it's someone that's over 50, I'm 23 - it doesn't bother me as much.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
yes i am specially if his not my bf. if someone called me that way i just tell them to just call me in my first name as dear or hunny is not my name. besides its really inappropriate to call someone with it even friends. maybe to bf nor husband.
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@Cheiyen (317)
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
if they are my family members, boyfriend and close friends, i find that sweet.
but we don't know each other, i might raise an eyebrow if his face changes or just fakes it. i don't mind older people saying that but i might if it comes from those younger than me. but i might just let it pass if i hear it one time.
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@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
21 Jan 10
I usualy don't say anything about it at all. I just don't care for it that's all. If you are older than me it's no big deal.
@etioewe (142)
• Mexico
21 Jan 10
well some times it does infact eventually all time but well you know these days the world is turning into something else and the young ones to care what they say to you. less value for poeple these days. well jusat dont mind and keep doing your thing, thats all i think is right to do ignore them. thanks
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
21 Jan 10
I do ignore them, it bothers me though anyway! I know some people are just "too nice" but they don't know me like that! 
@Thunderll (102)
• United States
21 Jan 10
I rarely get called that by anyone outside of my family, but when I do, I don't let it bother me unless they're being sarcastic. If someone sounds like they are just being friendly, I shrug it off. There are definitely worse things you can be called!
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@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
21 Jan 10
Oh yeah, I mostly just shrug it off like you said. I really don't think I have ever said anything to anyone about it. I just don' care for it if it is said in a condescending way!
