I met a very nice person , who I know I could have been great friends with.

Why should you stop talking to him? It doesn't matter whether they're male or female, as long as you know what you are doing. Let me tell you that almost all my friends are men. And I don't see anything wrong with that. In fact, they turn out to be better friends for me than female friends.

That isn't true... Some of the best friends that I've ever had in my life, I felt I'd known them a lifetime... though in reality, I'd only known them a short while. It may have taken your husband that long to emotionally connect to his friend.. but no two people are the same.

Well something similar happened to me too. I came across this guy online…he was obviously way younger than me but shared my sense of humour and was just the type of guy who can bring a smile on your face with his words, even on the darkest of days. We bonded instantly (mind you I was 7/8 yrs married then with a 5/6 yr old child) and even started speaking on the phone. Till this it was OK with my husband (though I really don’t know what went into his deep sub consciousness). Basically hubby and me are college friends so as it is we share an excellent rapport, more of friends type than spouse so it was OK for me to share this with him and he sounded OK too. But this young guy was coming to my city Kolkata (his parents live here) and he wanted to meet me…alone or with family. Rather I think courtesy demanded that I invite him to my place and introduce him to the rest of the family but hubby said NO…I still don’t know why he said no! like your husband, he said that it takes years for trust to build and only then should one meet a stranger or invite him home, he said that I’m married with a kid while this guy was just in his early 20s. fresh into a job so his views and mine are not likely to converge…its OK online but practically not feasible blah blah blah…I did not pursue that friendship any more. Frankly speaking I don’t know whether by doing so I gave up on any rights of mine or whether my family is more important so I took the correct decision!

u can easily look for a friends but a best friends is hard. it takes a lot of time to trust a somebody and eventually become ur bestfrend. i do believe ur husband it takes years to build a real friendship. maybe in ur case u found a friend and eventually it will lead to a bestfriend in the coming days. but once u had it take good care of it. me i had a bestfriend for 15 years already and we still had it strong thank god, shes a girl and shes my only bestfriend but i had lots of friends but not that close than her. but in ur case ur married just make sure ur husband wont think bad things about u having a bestfriend that is a male. have a nice day!!!!!

there is no really best friend between man and woman.

when you get married , make friends with your family not with yourself. if your friend can't be a friend with your family ,that is not a good friend.

Tell him to deal with it. Just because you're married now and you've made a friend that's a man doesn't mean it's going to lead to an affair. It's a testament to your relationship and his trust in you. If he doesn't see that then you need to make him see it. Tell him you need a friend in your life that isn't a female. I think what may have threatened him though is telling him there was an "instant connection" that may have scared him a little. But you just have to talk to him. If he trusts you, he'll let you be friends with whoever you want.

hi daisiejanie, Well a great friendship has to start somewhere. Yes it does take years and the test of time to know whether or not you are right in thinking that person would be a great friend but then again...how will you know if you don't give it a try? My very best friend in the world has been my friend now for over 40 years. We were kids when we met and I knew that I just wanted to always be her friend. We made a pact to never let any guy or any thing come between our friendship. Over the years we've moved apart and back together. We are very different people but we not only accept, we love our differences. We've had our times when we got angry...disagreed and all that. Still our friendship meant more than any petty disagreement. I knew in my heart when I met this girl that we were destined to be best friends. We moved to town on the same day and started school a day late back in 8th grade. We had both lived in this town earlier on in our lives and never met but our parents had. My mom hung out with her parents when she was in highschool years before. It was destiny. Not all friends have to be started in grade school. I have some great friends that I met in my 30's and 40's. Just take it where it to where it goes.

Hi, dasiejanie. I hate to say this to you, but your husband is jealous and very insecure of your friendships with men. It is okay for him to be friends with a girl at work, but then it is not okay for you to be friends with a guy that you just met. That is very crazy! If you and this guy are friends and just that, I see nothing wrong with you having a friendship. You need to have a heart to heart talk with your husband and let him know how you feel. He can't just expect you to have only female friends?? Because, in this day and age, a woman can be in love with another woman. It can go for either way, even if you were just with a man. Your husband needs to get a grip on life!

that great to have found a new best friend hope your friendship last.

no... It dont takes years to build a friendship.First of all friendship is not the thing we build,but it happens.When a person said it would take years to build a friendship and this is reason he is quitting which implies there might be a situation he is expecting some other thing. You explain him whatever you feel about him. if he still ignores you better forget it and move on.

Friendship occurs upon trust and loyalty. If both of you are trust able and loyal to one other then your friendship can remain for whole life. do not trust any other person who can give you wrong views of your friend as such which could lead to breaking up of your friendship. Deep faith, trust and loyalty are the main assets of friendship. Don't think of what your husband says but you should be sure of three things your friend should sustain with that only time will go by in your friendship bonding for decades.

I totally hate that, you meet or see somone and you like instantly like em and then you never see or hear from them again, thats life tho live, love die