What would you do?

Hello Vjypathania, Thank you for taking the time to reply. Yes it would be wise to go to my aunts and tell them all about it but they're 81 and 85 yrs old. They are still very healthy and still driving their cars but they have their own problems with their respective families and I dont like bothering my family with my problems. It will sadden them to find out what type of person my SIL really is and I cant do that, I dont want to hurt them. Ive asked my aunts if they could come on Sunday but they have other arrangements with their families. So I called my SIL to sort of suggest Sunday to her and she accused me of not wanting her to see her brother, blah blah.....so I let it drop. Instead, I called back my aunts and asked them if it would be possible to push back our dinner to next weekend. They agreed to it. One of them has a cold and she said she didnt want to not come over. Seems like there is a God watching over me. So all I have to do now is shut my mouth tomorrow and paste a smile on my face for my husband's sake. Im a big girl, I can do that :)

I do sympathise. It would be my idea of hell if I had to cook dinner for ANY of my in-laws. For a start, this house is too small to accommodate them all so I'm blessed! Haha! Good luck with your decision making anyway and don't let it get out of hand, remember it's your house as much as hubby's.

Yes its hubby's house also and I have all of my family over on Xmas, New Years and all the holiday you can think of because I have a big house. So they all invite themselves. I dont mind. Sounds like I dont like having people over. I do. Its just that I wanted to treat my aunts this weekend and my SIL is sort of messing up my plans. Oh I'll survive and pull through.

Hello Janey, Thank you for replying. As I said in a reply previously, its my fault hubby doesnt know, I didnt tell him. Yeah I know I should have. But I wasnt sure if Id invite my aunts Saturday or Sunday. They have something on Sunday, so it has to be on Saturday. Of course I wouldnt tell her who the visitors are!! Thing is and I dont usually mind but she says my nephew and his girlfriend will also come for supper. Now its 4 more people.

I don't mind long stories! And that is quite the drama filled one! I would have probably felt guilty too in that situation. But she must have known about the commute before she moved in, so why bother at all, that doesn't make sense to me! You are being a lot more patient with her then I may have been able to, which isn't a bad thing. I hope it works out with your aunts too! Good luck!

lol! Well it's very nice of you to suck it up and put up with her. It's good that your husband has a good relationship with his nephew, the boy needs a father figure! Good luck with the dinner! Let us know how it goes!

Hi Lily, Thanks for your reply. Yes she can be very rude. We bought our present house because of her to begin with. Its a sticky situation you see. She is my husband's sister and she was married to MY brother !!! They're divorced now because he had a mistress and ....well he left her. So when that happened, she of course called her brother and she didnt want to go live alone with her son (my godchild) so I guess I felt guilty, so we started looking for a house where she would have her own space to live with us. We found the house and she moved in downstairs....but 10 months after, she complained that she had to drive 45 mins to get to work so she moved out. My husband didnt take it well, he was very attached to our nephew. Of course she also blamed me. Im still not sure why to this day and to be honest, I dont give a damn. So, you see why im sort of walking on eggshells around her? Im only hoping that my aunts will agree to come over on Sunday so I can keep my SIL away from my family as much as possible. Sorry..long story!!

Hello Hatley, I wanted to do that but most pizza have garlic in them...the sauce or some of the toppings. She doesnt eat pizza. We finally had chicken.

Hello Bird, Thanks for your reply. I wish I could have your insight on the matter. I was brought up to be polite and be the perfect hostess when people come over. Im being careful with my SIL. She can start a fight for no reason, and Im not wanting to give her a reason to fight. I wouldnt mind if she was angry with me and didnt want to speak to me ever.....Id be jumping with joy but it would hurt my hubby and he doesnt deserve that.

Hello Bird,Thanks for your reply. I wish I could have your insight on the matter. I was brought up to be polite and be the perfect hostess when people come over. Im being careful with my SIL. She can start a fight for no reason, and Im not wanting to give her a reason to fight. I wouldnt mind if she was angry with me and didnt want to speak to me ever.....Id be jumping with joy but it would hurt my hubby and he doesnt deserve that.

True! She might decide to invite you guys over instead.

I dont think so. They like the idea of a "free meal" I think thats why they always invite themselves over. She doesnt have to cook or do anything. Im sort of the perfect hostess and take care of everything by myself.

I thought of that, to have them over on different days. I called my aunts this evening and asked if it would be allright for them to come over on Sunday and Im waiting for a reply. I sure hope its going to work. That would solve my problem. Im down on my knees praying !!!

Hello Dorisday, Haha, I sure like your answer to let her eat whatever is on the table. Im making something special for my aunts and I know very well she wont even want to look at it. Im making liver for my aunts. They love it and they say I make the best. Now, SIL will gag when she sees this on the table hahaha.....I think it would be a great idea and I could take pics of her at the table LOL....but she'll make life miserable for my aunts. I wont let her ruin it. Not this time.

Hello Katsalot, Thanks for replying. Yes my aunts are darlings. The reason I invited them is that they want to come over to give me my xmas gifts, eventhough I told them it wasnt necessary to buy me something....they are well off and I know its from the heart. Thats why I invited them. Now Im writing this and I can see how uncomfortable it'll make them to give me a gift and not have one for my SIL. Oh dear....anyone want to adopt my SIL?

Hello Jewels, No I wont put my husband through this. I know he should have asked me first but you dont know my SIL, she can be the wicked witch from the west sometimes and hubby is a very gentle man, always in a good mood and always eager to help. He doesnt deserve her as a sister. As I said before, she's the only family left for him. On my side I have a gazillions cousins, aunts and uncles, so I dont blame him. Im waiting for an answer from my aunts to come on Sunday instead so I can have SIL alone on the Saturday.

Hello Kanna, Thank you for replying. Yes im keeping my fingers crossed that all goes well and get rid of SIL ASAP lol.

Hello Miner kitty, I wish it was that easy. She doesnt come alone. She has her boyfriend and her son and his girlfriend. Hubby wont go to the restaurant if I dont go. As I said earlier, Ive asked my aunts if they could come on the Sunday instead.....so Im hoping that'll work. Thanks for your reply!!