do you think you should keep contact wih your x ??

It is not suppose to have any effect on your current relationsahip. It is better to stay friends or at least on speaking terms, especially if there are any kids involved. You cannot throw away everything no matter the cause for the break-up.

My ex-husband and I are very good friends. We have been divorced for ove 8 years now. We have 2 beautiful children together and I believee that my children are so much better for it. Growing up they didn't hear there parents talking badly about the other parent, quite the opposite they saw there parents take vacations with them, go out to dinner, celebrate b-days etc. My children never had to worry about saying something positive about the other parent for fear that the other would be jealous. I have another child and she refers to my ex as her Uncle Bobby she adores him and he her. So everyone has reasons why they aren't together, but sometimes it's a good idea to try and remain friends. I'm certanly glad that my ex and I did. Just my two cents. :)

I haven't seen or talked to my ex in about 20 years - luckily there were no children forcing us to keep in touch with each other. It's much more complicated when there are children, and you should keep a working relationship going for their sakes, but being friends just doesn't seem likely - you divorced or split up for a reason afterall.

I don't think it's necessary to keep touch with ex, because ex is an ex, if you and hin/her willnever have a chance to get back together, then what is the meaning of getting back together, then you should moving forward of your life, and total forget about the ex. This just what i do.

I don't find neccessary to keep in contact with an ex. If things have ended, it's because there's a reason to it, and I don't feel comfortable remembering the reason every time I will look at his/her face, so if I can, I prefer not to keep the contact.

no..there is no point staying in talking terms.. coz there must have been a time when u 2 wud have tried ur best to sought out things.. bt stil nothing gud hapened.. i even think staying in talking terms eid ur X might affect ur current relationship..

I hated this one ex I had because he was abusive but it was almost 10 years ago. He messaged me on aol and told me he was really sorry about the way he treated me. I forgave him and we actually chat normally now. I have no feelings for him so it will never lead to flirting or hooking up or anything like that so I think its totally harmless. I am married with two children but am getting a divorce soon so even if things are awkward between my soon to be ex and I we will have to get past it and try to behave normally in front of the kids for their sake. I hope that it works well. I am sure since I am the one wanting the divorce that I will be fine with just being friends but I don't know how my husband is going to react.

I think it depends on the situation. If you had a nice breakup, it would be just fine to be in good terms with each other. In my opinion, the new relationship as friend will be much stronger because you already knew each other well and i think there would be less friction. On the other hand, it is an unpleasant setup if the new fiancee knows the x. Jealousy, suspicion, etc will come into play and the relationship might be at risk. There are times when the x would be more assertive and would try to test the other party which might also a cause of trouble. For peace of mind, it would be much better that the two ex lovers would just be civil with one another and let go of the past and learn from it. Letting go of the past is one important step for healing. It would also teach both parties to learn from their mistakes. Regards

I was in love with someone very dear to me. Ours was friendship and then love on the internet which grew steadily. We found each other quite pleasurable, though we had not seen each other physically, but knew how the other looks only through pictures. We chatted a lot for hours. I liked all these experiences. However, all this was like a bubble. Things went horribaly wrong and I had to leave her so she had to. The reason has no meaning now as I lost my love totally and forever. But only one thing is there which I have not been able to understand is what went wrong. The time was very diffucult after that and I did not know what to do. It has been around 5-7 years since we broke up and we have not seen each other even face to face. In my case, if you ask me, I will only say that no lovers should remain in contact once they have broken up. The thing that broke our relation will always remain in the corner of our mind and that corner is very very personal and it can hardly be corrected. But so also one thing will not be corrected is that, whatever and however a strong desire I feel to remain in contact with my love again, this will never happen, at least from my side. I, for one, do not believe in such relationships. And the reason, you pointed right. I cannot be able to treat her in the same good old lovely way, that I once used to do so lovingly.

The only way I can see to keep in touch is if there are kids involved.The kids should see both parents no metter what.Other than children I don't see why I would keep in touch with any of my exes,that's why they are exes.

For me I don't like to contact with my x because it can cause quarrel relationship with your present and specially you feel more love to your x.

I don't think this is necessary to keep contact with X, Why should you keep contact to a person whom you got out of your life, he/she is a close chapter in your book of life, about me I am a sentimental person I have beard a lot of pain due to some break-ups in my life, and whenever I only see any of them I do not feel comfortable at all, so how is it possible for the persons like me to keep contact with X.

Personally, I think it would be better to stop any kind of contact with your ex. Whatever has happened between 2 persons, it is all in the past. It's history. I seriously doubt it's possible to maintain just normal friendship with someone who used to be your intimate friend. Since the relationship is already over, they should just live and let live.

I think its depends on the situation. If you were married and got kids who would need your support then I think it's okay to communicate. But if you only had a relationship about just being boyfriend and girffriend then it is inappropriate. Because if it was me, I wouldn't like it.

Hi, a. It is not really a good idea to keep into touch with an x. Especially if you are married. If, you and this person still has mutual feelings for each other, then it may be hard for you both to look at each other as just friends. It is alright to still be nice to each other. But to just have a friendship can lea to problems, especially if the other spouse may be insecure or jealous. Being this said, it is best to avoid an relationship like this.

I have had contact with all of my ex's but there are ones that are harder to contact then others. I am not going to lie. As time goes on it gets easier though. And before you know it your ex and you may be really good friends.

For me the answer is yes. I've been in contact with my ex. We're good friends even before our romantic escapades.

Very timely discussion.. But the answer is being different from person to person. For me I can't do that,But from my heart I may be need to contact with her.But it's not easy to treat her like normal friend....But Definitely their will be a Difference !!

I'm still in contact with one of my exes, simply because there are loans that we share together. Once those loans are paid off I don't see us talking that often, if ever. People do need to keep on a civilized level with exes if there's money, or kids involved. Parents who don't even say hello to one another can be damaging to a child. Other then those reasons, I don't see any reason why exes should stay in contact after splitting.

It depends. I always belive that it is good to make friends to anyone I can, including my ex. If my ex and I go apart with each other just because we have to live in different cities or we have different dreams, it would be okay with me to stay friends with him. However, if something bad happened and one of us got hurt, I think I would just let go and say goodbye forever.