when you saw your bestfriend's boyfriend kissing somebody else...

Hi jewel49! It is nice to know that your best friend is now happily married to a great guy. Truly, those unfaithful men are not worthy. Pretending that we don't see what we saw is like tolerating the guy to continuously fool and cheat our best friend. Thank you for sharing jewel!

You right for that, my friend. But in a relationship is not avoidable that there are people like them. They cannot preserve what they are promise to their partner or their love... From were you, my friend. I have a good friend that surname "medrano" He is from vigan?

Oh so you are from philippines too... I am really not a medrano by blood, I just married a medrano man. I was born and grew up here in manila. My husband is also not from vigan, aerous. I remember, there was one mylot member who also asked me about my surename, a month ago, if i remembered it correctly.

Yes it is a hard situation aerous. But it good too that act of betrayal was discovered. I don't think it is just to slap the man. Emotions will somehow push others from doing it but I still believe it's still not a right thing to do, however if someone will do it, I understand.

yes he is creating a new kind of problem by doing that but who are we to judge them right away its better for us friends to help them not by letting them get in to each other but by solving whatever their problem is.confronting him wont solve the problem but if you let them talk by themselves im sure they will arrive in a better solution may it be good or bad.if ever that happens to me i will do what i say.

Well johndur, I Believe a problem will be solved by doing something like that... cheating and flirting with other girls... You can never cover the hole with another hole johndur... If you are in the situation and it happens that you partner cheated on you, would you have the same views? Yes it might not be the "first" problem but he is just creating ANOTHER PROBLEM. Another different issue, another wrong act... and might lead to a broken relationship... He is only making the situation worst.

Well as a friend, I will just tell my bestfriend about what I saw and I will leave it all up to them... Whether my friend chooses to forgive the guy or not, it is totally up to her. I know friends have limitations too. And its enough that we tell what we saw and whatever decision they come up to, just be on her side and support her in any ways. Thanks for sharing your views johndur.

Yes I agree! Nobody deserve to be cheated and nobody deserve a disloyal dog, i mean person! The truth hurts but we all must face it in order to move on. Cut the happiness of that cheater as early as possible... Cheaters doesnt have the right to hurt our friends.

That way she won't think you are befriended her... You know how women are these days .. They think that other women want to ruin their happiness even if you are good friends..... Good Luck!

Some are just blinded by the "love"... And they try to avoid the fact, they would choose to believe that you are telling lie and you are like jealous because they are afraid to face the truth... But we all know, sooner or late she will get to realize it too...

hello hagirl! Right it is nice that there are camera phones now a day... Getting picture of them as proof is a good idea. The pictures will tell it all... you don't even need to explain... Thanks for responding!

He deserves it! That is a nice view! That is for him! Sailing on two rivers at the same time... now he has nothing! Good for him! Nobody deserves to be cheated and disrespected...

Agrees with you. Now when i am enjoying myself in a restaurant or mall and i ran into him, he just feel embarrassed and pretend not to look at me. hahaha... so funny!

that a very nice way of confronting the guy... very plain, straight and frank! I know both of them will be shocked... especially the guy if the girl he's dating doesn't know about his girlfriend (best friend). I like your style!

We have the same views regarding this situation grecychunny26! I don't care as well whether she will choose to belive me or the guy, what matter most is I told her the truth and showed my concern on her. If she doesn't believe me, I would not get mad on her at all, for I know that the news is really painful and I am not going to expect that she will absorbed it that instance... She might be in some kinda denial stage but eventually, she will realize and would keep her eyes open... And as always, the truth will set as all free... Obsolutely, we can sleep at night without worries... Thank you for sharing and responding grecychunny26!

Well yeah, I agree with you mzz663. It really depends on the friend on how she will accept and deal with the fact. Well, there are really cases like that. The girl knew about it, but chooses to remain quiet because of too much love... she is blinded and very afraid to confront the guy for she doesn't wanna lose him... Well, that is actually not healthy at all... Love without respect and loyalty wont work... And a good relationship is compose of two person working together - one cannot do it alone. Thanks for sharing your experience mzz663!

I also believe in that andy77e. Friends will tell us the truth even though it will hurt us for they (friends) just want us to face the fact, stay in the real world. Truth might hurt us but it is just for the mean time... in fact dealing with it the soonest possible could avoid a more painful situations... And also, if I am the best friend, I would also want my friend to tell me the painful truth...rather than being fooled by a stupid guy for a longer time.

Well it is really nice if we have a solid proof however, I think even if I dont have such pictures or video-- that would still not stop me from telling my friend. Yes the man is totally jerk! And my friend needs to know what that man is doing behind her.

hi PocketRocketsAA! That is what I always believe in too. I believe not telling the truth about the matter would not do any good... it is like you are making yourself accessory to the crime somehow... And in the end, our friend would somehow get mad on us too... And I don't like that to happen... All of us must be brave enough to tell the truth even if it will hurt our love ones or the important person in our life. Thank you for responding PocketRocketsAA! Nice to hear from you.

Hi atv818! I think you are really emotional. Well, I understand seeing our boyfriend kissing somebody else is really painful. However, I think you are missing some point... the one who's cheating is not your boyfriend, it is your BESTFRIEND's boyfriend... would you tell your bestfriend if you saw her guy cheating on her? And what would you do on that particular instance? Would you slap him as you told me you are going to do so if it was your boyfriend? Would you have the courage to tell it to your friend despite the fact that she is crazy in love with the guy? And would really break her into pieces? How would you slowly break this bad news to her, your bestfriend? Awaiting your response atv818. And thanks for your time.

I agree with you anjohanna, it is really a difficult situation... Of pcurse sometimes, we don't want to be involved in our friend's personal life. However, if its something like that... if we learned that the boyfriend is making our friend FOOL... Sometimes, we really can't exclude ourselves form the situation... as oif we need to do something. We need to tell our friend because we are concern and we care for them so much. Breaking the bad news to our friend with Proof is really a good idea, that would make it easier for us to explain...

Breaking that news slowly and easily... that the least we can do... and avoid also some exagerated opinions for it might hurt her more... Just stick to the thing we saw... I know that she will not get mad, if I tell the truth... It is more on how she will handle it...

good day 23uday! Friends will always do their best to protect their friends... Of course a real friend will not let anyone hurt and worst betray his or her friend. And sometimes, No matter how personal the issue we can't still stop somehow not to be involved... for we want to protect them and want them to be happy...

A true friend would not hide this kind of thing to her friend... In simply words, A true friend would not let anyone hurt or harm her friend... and would not allow her self to be an instrument or part of such cheating... Thanks maezee!!

Our friends deserve to know the truth. And also if we are in her shoes, of course we want to know that also... The later she knows about this cheating thing, the greater the chance she might get hooked with this guy--- the deeper her feelings will be... and the harder for her to move on... and let go.

Hi ryan213! I see you have two response, thank you! Reagardless of gender, no body deserves to be cheated and everyone deserves to know the truth... But you are right, the final decision is still on them...

Is it easier for guys to talk about this matter? Like drink and confess? Does drinking makes it more easier to reveal what you discovered about his girl? I know ladies are more emotional and this makes us more harder to digest the fact somehow...