My heart has never been this broken

If the break up was just hours ago, then I think this is not that "Over". Perhaps he just wanted to give you some lessons. Using internet has a lot of benefits but I believe that there are lots of break-ups already because of this. You meet new friends and connect with old friends in facebook but you mus not have taken him for granted. He must be jealous, insecure or something. Give it some thinking... Figure out and weigh if you do enjoy facebook/net more than being with him. If only your boyfriend gets much attention and love from you, he won't be that worried.

First i think you should have a talk with him. At least you must know why he don't like you on the web? Communication is very important for any couple. And personally i think maybe he is a little stingy. Because if i was him, i will do my best to know you on the web. If he think some of you is not good. He should give you a convincing reason. Everything can be talk about between you. Every couple has something difference. When you are in the relationship, you should do your best to accept the difference, if it is because love. Don't worry and cry, do your best to communicate with him, if he is also unreasonable, i think you should let him go. Because he is not the right man for you. And for this love , you have done your best, so you have no regret.

Hello Jazelann I am so sorry to read this and of course it will hurt you I don't understand why he tried to limit you I mean of course it depends if you where neglecting him due to this I mean was you taking more attention of the Web then him???? Or did he just not want you to talk to anyone as I think that is totally wrong I know this does not help now but in time things will sort themselves out the Pain will go eventually, you never know maybe things will get right between you 2 again I think you need to find out why he does not want you to talk to your Friends online I wish you all the best and I really hope that things will get sorted

hello jazelan, I think this is not a very serious matter. I understand why you hide your facebook and mylot account to him,it is becoz he gives me some condition for having limited time using the web. But the chatting issue is what i think make it worst. Of course it is not good for you to entertain chats with other,esp with other guy when you had your boyfriend(having relation with him) He surely got jealous and also suspicious that is why he gets mad and angry and hurt of course. You should make the first move to make amends with him. Don't waste the three years just for this nonsense internet business matter. Make him understand and explain your reason..i am sure and i hope he will listen to you. I guess he's still love you that much...just give it a try. Have a good day always

if he really loves you, your addiction to internet is a really small reason. i mean, you too, if you love him, no matter how long you surf at the net you should still give him time. if there are no more chances then i advice you to divert your attention so that you wont have to hurt so much

[b]Hi,jazelann.I can understand what you may be going through and my first word of advice to you is to just relax.Close your eyes, take three deep breaths and visualize God looking at you and smiling. See, he is now telling you...oh my child i have so much for you in store.if you would not have lost this how would you discover that greatest treasure of your life that i have kept reserved only for you as my so dearest loving child.why are you mourning and why are you upset. Did you listen, he is saying all this to you and further he goes you have to just let go and then only you can discover the beauty of life.Take this experience in your life and be ready to welcome the glorious part of your life which is going to start shortly.You have not lost anything,your boyfriend has lost a gem in you. You are my Gem and worthy for someone who can value your worth. Trust me.Now smile and open your eyes. You have forgotten the past and are now ready to witness the future with renowned hope and success,peace,prosperity,happiness and joy is entering your life. Believe in my words and it will be true.Now I leave, I love you my child. SO-JAZELANN YOU MAY NOT TRUST ME BUT HAVE TO TRUST GOD'S WORD. AND SEE WHAT A MAGIC HAS HAPPENED IN YOUR LIFE. GOD HAS SPOKEN TO YOU DIRECTLY AND YOU HAVE FELT IT.JUST BELIEVE IN HIM AND MAGIC WILL KEEP ON HAPPENING IN YOUR LIFE.GOD BLESS YOU FOR EVER AND EVER. [/b]

if he's worth it and you want him back... earn him back. if it means giving up some of the things you enjoy doing... just so that you could have the love of our life back, then it could be worth giving up for. did you ask him why he doesn't want you in the web often? (aside from facebook and online chatting) if it's reasonable, then give in... even for a time. then later, when all things have settled down, re-introduce to him the things you like to do in the web in little doses. he might not find it totally irksome. just be open and talk about it. if you feel up to it. call him up and say how you feel. talk to him. ask him to meet you half-way. that's how a relationship should work. if there weren't serious problems in your 3 years together, well don't just readily put it all away.

hi jazelann well to me it sounds like he wanted to control you tellin you how much time you could use facebook, so I would not feel too sad as you may have averted being in an abusive situation where sooner or later he would control everything you did of course saying he loved you so much he could not bear to share you which excuse me, is bull. no you are not wrong , he was wrong, he is a controller why love a controller do you really feel you want a man to tell you what you can and cannot do?'of course not, you have some pride. find yourself a man who is not a controller and loves you in a normal kindly way.

Hello Jazelann, He seem to controlling. You should be allowed to do what you want on facebook. I would fined it hard if he did not have account on facebook too or other places. Did he get upset when you talk to other guys face to face? If he did still sounds to controlling. You need to live your life that makes you happy. Remember you were happy before you met him and you will fined your way there again. The first 3 months are the worse and yes everything reminds you of him but it will fade over time. It has take me year and half to finally realise my ex is gone. I was with this guy for 10 years. I understand what you are going through and myloter are the best people to help you through this fase. You will fine someone better and you will be happy again. Just beleive in yourself. Have a great day Sincerley unique16

I understand what you are feeling as of this moment because I've been there many times before. I think what you are feeling now is just temporary and what is happening with your relationship now is just a part of your challenges in life. It's never too late for you to give your relationship another chance. You said you just broke up few hours ago so I guess, this is not yet the end of everything. You just both need a break to think about your mistakes and think about ways to make things okay. If you were to ask me if you did something wrong, then definitely none. There is nothing wrong with enjoying yourself with some things such as opening your facebook account or participating in mylot. Even if you are in a relationship, you still have the freedom to do what you want to do to be happy. If he truly loves you, he will give you that freedom and he won't get mad about that. If you are both ready to talk again with each other, just try to explain to him that you are not doing something to ruin your relationship. Tell him how much you love him. But for now, give yourself a break. Try to enjoy the things you didn't enjoy when you were still together. Go out of your shell. ;-)

What's wrong with facebook chatting and mylot posting? Until the question remains unanswered you are not stubborn and he's just close-minded. Sorry..

Jazelann, I can understand your heartfelt feelings and pain, and your age will became infatuation, that is what every thing you do it will reminds again and again you cannot escape in this stage. "Love is like a puzzle. When you're in love, all the pieces fit but when your hearts gets broken, it takes while to get everything back together." Be confident - cheers!

remember feeling is only a feeling.life must go on..

Sorry for your break-up. But I think the most important thing in a stable relationship is that both the two could feel comfortable and even have something more wonderful. That means at least you can do the things you like. Ohterwise, the relationship wouldn't last for long. And...I'm sorry, if he is your Mr. fancy, why did you still spend so much time on facebook and mylot? So... just be yourself and let the one who really loves you have the chance to love you. Good luck and take care, girl.

well he is the crappy one, not the sites nor your addiction to it. why would he be using these online sites to leave you - have you cheated on him and have chatted with anyone available to actually make him go mad and leave you? he is so dense! i would think more that he is most probably already committed to someone else, or is already in love with someone else and is finding reasons to leave you but have just found this loophole(which shouldnt be the case). i would say you are hurt, and you sure are in pain brought about by this guy. i think you can always vent out here in mylot, and just be yourself, express your feelings and try to forget him and the pain he brought you. you don't deserve this person. you're bound to meet someone else, someone who will understand your love for the online stuffs and will not see this as a threat to your relationship. just hang in there.

Firstly, sorry to hear that story. It was a very sad one indeed... To maintain a relationship with the same person for three years isn't a joke... I can very well relate to this situation since my partner would spend with the computer more he would spend time with me and his daughter. He is addicted to it... and i also found out that he WAS flirting over the web. It made our relationship a shaky one. Not that I am jealous about the time he's spending over the net but him neglecting that fact that he has other responsibilities, too. If you are with your boyfriend and yet still tinkers your computer instead of giving him an attention then, it is kind of insulting to his part. If you truly love him and that you are pained for that break up then, you must understood that if you want him back you must sacrifice the things that had caused the break up. However, your boyfriend is too shallow to break up with you because of that reason. There must be a deeper reason underlying. Try talking to him and find out. If he loves you, he'd compromise ,too. Your boyfriend needs your attention as well as you need to have a little time for yourself, too. Compromise, the both of you, is the solution somehow.:-) Goodluck...

...Hi there jazelann. Well I have a problem here. First of all, a relationship has gone on for three years. You obviously have not been ignoring him, he's stayed with you for three years. How long have you been on Facebook and mylot?? So what is wrong that he wants you off of them, it does not make any sense. If a person gets so jealouus that they want you all to themselves, then there might be sonething that they are doing, that they think you might do or are doing. Like fooling around on the internet with another man. He seems to have a problem with trust all of a sudden or he is looking for an excuse as someone mentioned. Drop Facebook for a while. Keep mylot, just don't mention it. Talk to him and see if he will come back to the relationship. I think it may be sonething else, like another person and you have to be ready for him not to be there for you. People change. Don't allow yourself to be disappointed twice. Good luck.

at least you know how to admit your mistakes...surfing and enjoying to chat with anyone? i don't find it bad and why would he not let you do it when u are enjoying it?he should be happy when u are happy. you will feel the pain but ask yourself also if he is worth grieving for...using facebook and other related sites is not a crime. it was set up for socialization so i see nothing wrong with what you were doing. let yourself grieve, it's your right but you are the only one who will decide when to stop...u will find someone better believe me. your partner should support you and not feel insecure when you make friends with other people. open your heart and love will come. it's a very lame excuse for your bf to get angry at u. i'm sorry to say this but this is how i see it. you are a wonderful person and you are honest...Goodluck!

If you are not doing any wrong stuff online then how can he so be rude to you. Love means faith, if he can't put faith in you and if you can't act according to his faith it's better for you both to get separated. Life never stops for any one, and life never gives happiness all the time. Dear I have true sympathy and 100% support also for you. As I can understand what pain you are having currently.

this is just a rubbish reason.( find out the exact reason). or is it that u were not giving him time bcoz of the networking sites. if tats the reasons, sorry sis u r wrong. somehow i dont feel so, if u guys were together for 3 yrs, these small reasons shud not matter much. if this is really the reason. go n talk to him, theres noway anyone can leave u without any reason. leave him if he still does not understand. thats wat i suggest. :) enjoy..muuaahhh.take care