Seeing Someone
By ltruong
@ltruong (128)
Australia
January 23, 2010 1:25am CST
When your kind of seeing someone - like you both know that your seeing eachother but you haven't actually said it out loud, is it ok to see other people at the same time do you think? Well not see see but more like, is it ok to still flirt around and think about other guys if your already half seeing someone?
7 responses
@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
23 Jan 10
I think it is ok to see someone else as long as you don't consider him as your boyfriend or vice versa. There is no commitment between the two of you yet so he/she has no right yet to force you to not date anyone else. You have to be careful though because you'll never know if the person you are dating is totally okay with this because maybe that person already loves you and just hasn't admitted it yet. If that is the case, dating someone else will cause a great deal of hurt for that person. For me, the best thing one can do in this situation is to clear things up with the one you are seeing now and clarify what your relationship really is before dating someone else so you would know if your feelings are in the same level with his feelings.
@ltruong (128)
• Australia
25 Jan 10
I guess you're right. Thank you guys, I will talk to him soon to find out his intentions. I'm not exactly sure how I feel about him, but lately we've been talking less and he's not calling as often anymore. I'll go talk to him to see where we're headed. Thanks so much
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
23 Jan 10
Hi there Itruong!
I think that it's okay as long as there is no commitment involved.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
23 Jan 10
Hello.:-)
Seeing someone as in officially dating a person doesn't necessarily mean you are committed to any relationship with him or her. Thus, that person has no right to stop you from seeing other people, too.
You said you two have not really admitted that you two are seeing each other and or exclusively dating each other. That means, that the other guy has also a bit of apprehensions and may or may not be seeing someone else, too.
Just enjoy this person's company, my dear. And once he told you about his real intention then, that's the only time you'll need to decide if you want a commitment or not. Just cross the bridge when you get there. Meanwhile, there's nothing you should feel guilty of.:-)
@louierrific24 (1114)
• Philippines
23 Jan 10
There's no commitment so I guess it's just fair to go out with someone else.
@atebuds (187)
• Philippines
23 Jan 10
Of course. Seeing someone doesn't commit you to anything, unless you are officially his girlfriend, or unless you are exclusively dating. If you are just seeing him, even if it is very frequent, it is not wrong to see some other guy that you think you are also interested with. It's better anyway, to ask him directly if there is anything going on between you aside from seeing each other. And you too should know how you feel for him. So that everything will be clear to you, and you will know if you should see someone else or not.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
23 Jan 10
If I am in love with someone, would be faithful to her, Its no way possible for me to flirt many at a time. If its not love just attraction and not in depth feeling with the person, Its ok. I would not like to waste my time is such relations. I would love to one and only one, thats me. Its me who give freedom to our mind, more the freedom, higher complexity in relation. Concentrate on your love life with one :)
